Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

I suspect John just wants the money.

If he wanted a good reputation, he would not have made access to these comments made about him available to millions of people that would otherwise never learned of them.

Is it possible that John and Tasha, admittedly once together, have hatched a scheme to sue the site owner and share in the money if he wins the suit?  To enhance credibility, he names the site owner, and the two people that posted defamatory comments. 

An attorney with knowledge of the law, perhaps identifies a loophole in the website privacy policy making it possible for him to profit in a situation such as this.  If he saw such an opportunity, is it illegal for him to exploit it?

To me it is SAD to see someone have a website that lets others slam anyone.  They don't know all the issues involved and Tasha has set up her website to allow women to bash ex's in a public worldwide forum.  It ruins lives, jobs, on and on.  No one has the right to destroy or damage somones reputation and life.  I hope he wins his lawsuit.  I do think that if someone posted something negative about her in a open forum such as the web she would be suing also.  This kind of abuse of another person without knowing all the facts should be stopped.

I hope Dr Phil keeps us informed of what happens.  I wonder if the ones who post negatively about someone have gone on to have a Happy Life.  With so much anger or revenge in their souls - I don't think they probably have.

No matter what the moral quandries are, it is illegal to ruin the reputation of another person without legal proof... besides it's not actually illegal to cheat on someone (when marriage isn't involved).  Comments about your ex may be true... but they may also be un-true, and there is no way to make the distinction on hearsay. 

In this new age of technology, people seem to forget the basics of publishing:  you are unable to slander someone, especially someone who is not a public figure and has no reason to be spoken of in a very public realm.

That Napster guy wasn't necessarily stealing the music, but he was punished nonetheless because he provided a way for others to steal music, remember.

Bad exes usually create bad lives for themselves, so therein lies the self punishment.  Ladies, go write a song or something - like Alanis Morisette's 'You Oughta Know'... hell, write the guy a letter... getting sued is more trouble than he's worth.

Okay I completely understand why it sounds like a good thing, exposing cheating men.  Of course none of us want to date a cheater but I agree with Dr. Phil. For someone to post Anonymously is cowardly. 

If the site allowed equality between men and women then it wouldn't be quite as troublesome. Only because then the man could address the situation properly, by contacting the woman trashing him, or at least give an explanation on the site as to what really happened.

Part of me does think it would be beneficial for there to be a list some place with a all the cheaters on there but let's face it...how can anyone know what's true or not?  And I do think the men, regardless of their crappy history, do have a right to privacy.

Now with that said, I think the website causes more harm than good. It seems to only be a site where women trash men and it's not in the least bit mature. The women on there sound like a bunch of high school girls.  Why can't they just say something like "I dated this guy...let's call him Todd..." do you really need to post his full name and his picture?

During the show I kept wanting to duct tape Trisha's mouth shut. She would not stop talking.  But I can't see how she can get away with this. She's ruining the man's reputation, and just like rumours in high school and work, an internet post spreads widely and quickly. It's like wildfire. Just like with rumours at work most people don't care about the truth, they just keep spreading it...and there are laws to protect people in the workplace.  Also, it's like the man said, if you can put it in the paper and be called libel, then why not the internet?

I think Trisha should be found "libel" or guilty of defamation of character...or in the least, slander (i don't know if that's considered the same thing).

I cannot believe that anyone could confuse freedom of speech with bashing someone on the internet. If you have a "cause" that needs to be heard, then you should use every avenue possible to be sure you get heard. If you are unlucky enough to get burnt by a looser----get over it. It is degrading to women to post your private life on line for everyone to see and just as Dr. Phil pointed out, you have to own part of the relationship. The woman that hosts the website is the biggest disgrace of all. This site is nothing more than a place for women to air their ignorance and mistakes. I agree with the man----if the women are going to remain anonymous, then why do you let them name the men and show their pictures. If you are going to say something about someone, you should at least sign it. As Dr. Phil says, "To own it, you first have to acknowledge it." I am a mother, wife, grandmother, and the operation manager of a business. I have worked hard all my life to prove I am equal to any man. So I would like to know why this woman does not have a sight for the men to post their comments. After all, do we not want equality?? Let's face it, she doesn't care about these women. She's not offering counseling, trying to console them, or even using these posting for anything other than to make money. I'm just sorry Dr. Phil didn't tell her how ridiculous she not only made herself look, but all the women who posted on her sight as well. The comments about him trying to get dope dealers and murderers off-----come on---ever heard of right to representation or how about innocent until proven guilty????? My father used to say something to me that I feel appropriate for this woman. "It is better to appear ignorant, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."

    I turned this show on thinking I was going to agree with the woman's side of this issue.  I can't believe how wrong I was.  This is a really distressing episode.  These two women can't possibly be as 'one-sided' as they seem.  They wouldn't be able to function in the world this way.

   Tasha is clearly vicious and her coldness doesn't serve her well.  I'm absolutely certain that there are terrible dates out there, and it looks like she's one of them.  Her insistence upon revenge is personal.  That's why she can't let it go. 

   Ashley is a stalker.  That tells you all you need to know.  That's not cute and that's not funny.  She hasn't been able to get her way and she's making him pay.  She picked a jerk to date.  So did he.  She needs some real help, and not horizontally.

   This being said, there are terrible men out there.  And women are often victimized by them.  But there is far more empowerment in standing back, realising YOU are doing the choosing and instead of continuing to date these losers, invest in some therapy.  Spend a little time taking care of yourself instead of this empty vengeance.