Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

First of all, people need to grow up.  Secondly, I think people need to grow a thicker skin.  You can't believe everything you read on the internet, in the newspapers, etc.  If you want to really know the truth, do your own research and find out.  People need to quit getting so easily offended.  I am so tired of people complaining about he said, she said, stuff.  It's a fact of life, people talk, people run their mouths, and people lie.  No people don't have the 'right' to bad mouth people for no reason.  I think as a whole, we all need to learn TOLERANCE.  I've been wronged by my ex.  I have been to the website Don't Date Him Girl.  I think the site is rather entertaining.  And there are posts on their against women as well.  Who knows how many of them are true.  Just because one guy did you wrong, doesn't necessarily mean that he will do the next girlfriend wrong.  It just means that you and him were not right for each other.  But to take this to court, like this isn't America and we don't have freedom of speech?  That's an overkill.  I personally, don't have time to worry about insignificant things such as these.  So what if someone posted something about me on the internet?  The people that really know me and care about me will know if it's true or not, because they already know my character.  In my opinion, he needs to drop the lawsuit and she should update her site so last names or any other personal information (addresses and such) is not posted.  There are privacy laws out there.  However, if you don't want your dirty laundry aired.....keep it washed and clean.

And revenge on your ex?  I personally believe in Karma.  Yes, I have been done wrong on many occasions.  I look at it like this.....it will come back to them eventually.  I've seen it with my own eyes.  I don't need revenge, they will bring all the bad luck and bad situations back on themselves long after I am out of the picture.  I don't need to waste my time and energy on the drama.  I have more important things in my life to worrry about (my son, family, job, college..).  Bottom line is no matter what you do you can't please everyone, but be prepared to deal with the consequences of your actions no matter what side you are on.  Think first.  Don't just react because your feelings are hurt.  That is what children do and as adults we should all act more responsibly.

In my opinion, this type of site (DontDateHimGirl.com) is completely irresponsible, and, as many others before me have already said, can cause severe damage to the life of the person being falsely accused.  In essence, this man Todd has been unfairly 'tried' on a message board, as opposed to a court of law, with NO facts, NO evidence, just a number of spiteful accounts of his supposed 'bad behavior' that we (the general public) are supposed to accept at face value. 

The owner Tasha and the women who have participated in trashing this man's reputation are exactly what Dr. Phil has described them as; which is GUTLESS COWARDS.  In a court of law, a person falsely accused has the Constitutional right to confront his accuser(s).  When a person is falsely accused on a message board, as Todd has been, this same person has NO constitutional rights at all.  That is, basically, the same as a falsely accused defendant being convicted without ever having had a fair and impartial trial.  As a criminal defense attorney himself, I'm sure Todd would agree.

As far as I'm concerned, it's an outrage, and this kind of irresponsibility is what drives the number of what are very often false accusations of 'sex crimes' that have ended up getting innocent defendants wrongfully convicted, ALSO without evidence. I remember a program Dr. Phil did last October (2005) on a couple where the husband, a high school principal I believe, was falsely accused and arrested. He and his wife had to put up a $50,000 bond to keep him out of jail. He was fired from his job, many of his friends abandoned him, or should I say, both of them.  Luckily, the girl who made the accusation contacted a reporter, and recanted, admitting to her that the accusation was false.  The charges were then dismissed and the case never went to trial, but the terrible damage had already been done. This man was VERY lucky; as others who were falsely accused have been falsely arrested, tried by an often biased court, and wrongfully convicted.

To me, this kind of behavior exhibited by Tasha and the women who have trashed Todd publicly on this site amounts to exactly the same thing.  It's very convenient to hide behind anonymity and claim he or someone else gave her a sexually transmitted disease, with no medical report to back that claim up.  For all we know, EVERY story about Todd could well be fiction, since Tasha herself admitted 'it's not my job to determine the truth or falsehood of the statements made at my website.'  Or words to that effect.  Well GEE, Ms. Tasha, YOU are the owner, are you not?  Then WHOSE job is it?  The buck stops with YOU.  Therefore, you not only deserve to be sued, you also deserve to LOSE.  And I sincerely hope that you will.  Best of luck to Todd when the suit comes to court.  I'm hoping for a big win.

Susan

JUSTICE Before Conviction

I suppose you are right.

The problem is, Todd can't face his accuser. And if what was said about him is false, then he has the right to face said accuser. So, no Tasha shouldn't get sued but I think she should be compelled to give up the identiy of teh accuser.

It's like if someone accuses you of a crime, the defendant has the right to face that person in a court of law. This is obviously not the same thing.

There needs to be some responsibility at some point. That's what I'm trying to say.