Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

the gal who has the website where ladies could post their "frustrations" with prior lovers/friends seems to forget she is offering an outlet, in fact being an accomplace/enabler, to libel and slander...whether it occurs in the local newspaper, movie tabloids or website, wrong is wrong no matter where it occurs...

she can't absolve herself of all responsibility, like she tried to do, but she must take responsibility for offering a "vehicle for fraud"...

does that mean everything on there is false? NO.

but, neither does it mean you can give any statement by an anonymous source any credence at all...

SADLY, if what is posted is vicious AND wrong...it can't be retracted...the damage is done.....

KC 

As I watched the show I couldn't believe what I was hearing, a website where women can go and ruin mens lives but men can't fight back. Like putting That's not true was going to be believed on this website. I have done my share of wrong doing towards my exes as they have toward me. But I would never get on line and diss them by name. I have done some things that I am not proud of in the past but wouldn't change because of the child I brought into this world.  See names aren't important when you need to get something off your chest if your doing it in a public forum. Let me tell you of some of the best revenge stories but no names please. when I started seeing my older sons biological donor we were both married to other people, I know it was wrong and against everything I was raised to believe. I divorced within a year of starting this relationship he to this day is still married although not living with his wife since 1990. I would be a good one to go on this show myself to talk to Dr. Phil. Anyway I stayed 9 years with this man until my son was 5. Shortly after  I miscarried my second baby, my older son was 18 months old he started seeing another woman. It took me some time to figure this out. He was having us drive the same car at different times so I started snooping and figured out where he was living. I went to see him and she answered the door 8 months pregnant ( I had heard rumors but this was new to me of course he said it wasn't his). I looked at her and realized he did to me what he did to his wife. I said to her "let me guess he told you this and that (the actual words are unimportant fill in the blanks) about me (the same things he told me about his wife I used in reference to myself to her) You know I don't know which one of us I feel more sorry for you or me but at least I know he is married" She then opened the door and let me in. I asked her where he was, she pointed to the front bedroom. He was actually hiding in a closet, What a man$! Like a dumb*** it was 2 more years before  I got rid of him and of course I'm not really rid of him my son is now 15, not that he has anything to do with him(a whole different show). During the last two years I went through everything that belonged to him and his girlfriend to find the answers I wanted. I don't have much luck picking men it is something I have to work on. the next guy I picked was commitment phobic and he cheated on me and thought I wouldn't find out and said lovely things to me like "You will never find anyone else but me no one will  ever want to date you." He also cheated on me and had a baby by another woman. We were on and off for 4 years he left his voicemail information on my phone and I proceeded to erase awhole lot of voicemail messages. Sex with him was scarse and he wanted me to believe that I was his only one, HA! The last year of our thing together I found someone I truely loved. This man did very wierd things and promised me to his buddy that was the last straw, I changed my locks two weeks latter he came over trying to use his key and I wouldn't let him inI told him it was over for good. About two weeks after that he called me at work to tell me he was sorry, he didn't like leaving me with no one and I told him not to feel sorry for me because I had been involved with someone else for one  year now and I had been erasing his voicemails for that long too. There was dead silence on the other end of the line. I went on with my life and a few months later my life and my families changed forever. My older son's dad was found to have prostate cancer and had to have it removed just to survive, for a short while he went back to his wife during recovery. Of course this was devestating but I thought God had a sense of humor most men don't think it is funny but since this man cheated on his wife and me and probably the other woman too not having the prostate anymore ment he could no longer have sex. I think it to be divine justus. then we lost my youngest sister and her daughter to foul play. My son flipped out and had to be hospitalized for 21 days, he is Bipolar and doing fine now on medications. Then I found out I was pregnant and two weeks later I lost my fiance,  father to the one I was carrying. We had to put the family dog to sleep a short time later and then 9/11 happened thank goodness we didn't lose anyone in that tragidy but I certainly identified with them being pregnant at the time. It's been five years, I have a 4 1/2 year old boy and my 15 year old we are doing better life goes on. With everything I have been through I would never get on to a site and out my exes and trust me I've just outlined the history in this I would never do something that would hurt their ability to get a job, keep a job or see other people. It is the duty of the person that they are seeing right now to evaluate their worth as a person not the ex, never the ex. I think that man has the right to be upset by what is posted on her website  and there should be some ind of controls put in place, this definately went to far. She was also clueless that this hurt the man's reputation. Her indifference irritated me  she needs to take some kind of responsability for her website even if it is public forum as she says. I hope he wins his lawsuit.                                        

                                                        Cinaplum13

No one has to like Tasha b/c she was "smug" or came across arrogant just like I don't have to dislike Todd b/c he came across as a big baby.  The bottom line is, NO ONE would be posted on donthatehimgirl.com if men (in this particular instance) treated women the way they wanted their mothers, sisters, daughters, or themselves to be treated in return.  PERIOD.  I have serious doubts that anyone who has treated another with any level of respect and has bowed out of a relationship gracefully or even on questionable terms... would be subject to Tasha's website.  I can think of many men I have dated that could and probably should be subject to donthatehimgirl.com but none of them have been so disrespectful or ugly that I felt like I needed to "retaliate" against them. ...and it has nothing to do with me being "too nice" to do it and NOT do it anonymously.  Believe me, if I did have something to say & posted it, I'd make sure they knew who said it.  That in turn tells me that these women were scorned enough by the man/men that if they want to vent, by all means get it out.  I fail to see how that is any different than any other public site that posts can be made about what you want, how you want, when you want?  Bet these men weren't tuckin' their tails b/t their legs and crying to momma when they were treating these women like "poo poo".. but now that they have been called out, they want to sweat and worry about their reputation.. please. 

I think the only thing that I have seen that Tasha possibly should be held accountable for (certainly NOT all that mess that Todd is whining about) is, I saw where another post had pasted the terms for dontdatehimgirl.com. I believe it made reference to sexual orientation (?), etc. - the website should be set up to match the terms and if anything unauthorized or unapproved is posted, it is automatically deleted.  That's it, that's all - otherwise I stick by the fact that Tasha's site is no different than any other public site where peoples integrity is questioned daily.  As for Todd, I think he's just pissed b/c he got caught up in his own game.  Like Dr. Phil said, he is in tabloids all the time and I would think he is unphased 99.99% of the time b/c they aren't true or the statements are so twisted that it's a joke.  If all these things weren't true about Todd, I would hope he'd remain unphased ("..sticks & stones...") by what some random woman had to say.  However he is in an uproar over "false" statements.. looks more like a guilty conscience to me.  He's just working too hard to look like a "good guy".

OMG are you kidding me! Regardless of whatever this guy has or has not done, what these women are doing is no different that what youth are doing online - only we call it CYBER BULLYING! This is the excatly one of the points I make in my thesis which is on the topic of cyber bullying. If a youth says something negative, hurtful or hateful against a peer it is labled as bullying, but yet were does this behaviour become acceptable ? Is it just because they are adults that they seem to think it is ok? I know Dr. Phil will set them straight on this. If we want our young people to treat others with respect online than we as adults need to set that example and not engage in and model the same behaviour we are telling them is not ok!

Dr. Phil I know you have my back on this don't you!