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Created on : Friday, September 15, 2006, 12:01:50 pm

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(Original Air Date: 09/20/06) Have you ever wanted revenge on an ex-lover? How far would you go? First, look inside a legal battle that has been brewing all summer. Tasha, creator of the Web site DontDateHimGirl.com, says her site is a public forum for women to share their dating experiences and tell the "truth" about their exes. Todd says false information about him was posted on Tasha's site, and he thinks she should be liable for the negative posts. He has filed a lawsuit against her and two of the women who posted. When they face off for the first time, who does Dr. Phil think is right? Then, Ashley found out her boyfriend, Corey, had cheated on her three times during their 10-month relationship. Now, she says she wants to get revenge by exposing him to the world. So why did she recently call Corey and beg for sex? And, Corey comes clean with Ashley and tells her how he really feels. Talk about the show here.

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shelwatson

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September 22, 2006, 6:38 pm PDT

Nothing to fear

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Who said the information on the site was false? He's pissed off because something was said about it. He NEVER ONCE admitted he didn't cheat or that he was gay. He's a defense attorney and didn't defend anything that was written about him. He's defending his character. Maybe he was incognito when he cheated??? Maybe he was IN character when he cheated? Big Bird maybe?

You're right about moving on, and not wasting anymore time thinking about 'him'. But when a person has been betrayed, or taken advantage of, you can't sweep those feelings away like they don't count. Those are injuries that require acknowledgement to heal. Being able to voice the experience is like journaling. You are forced to look at it objectively because you are putting it out there to the world. This is a site for victims. There will always be people to abuse any system that exists, so you can't throw the baby out with the bath water. If a man is honerable and good, he has nothing to fear.

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September 22, 2006, 6:41 pm PDT

to all you todd supporters.

let me ask you one simple question. you mean to tell me it's ok for these men to make rap songs calling us bitches and whores but it's not ok for a woman to dog a man who wronged her? in my book any man who cheats on a woman and plays with her emotions should have his character "defamated " if thats a word but i'm going with it. everyone is on todd's side. todd, todd, todd. well you know what i think? screw you and todd. but i bet no one knows that "todd" has a $120,000 student loan he's trying to pay off. so basically you are saying that todd can take tasha to court to get money to pay off his student loan but it's not ok for tasha to create a site where women can talk about bad experiences. like i said before men talk about their bad experiences with women in rap songs. so i think that the women have the right to sue the men who talk about them in their songs. and i hate to put someone on blast but it's just like shenekaparris said in her comment on here todd is mad because his dates found out who he "REALLY IS" and now he's pissed off because now everyone knows.

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sdperry88

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September 22, 2006, 6:56 pm PDT

09/20 Revenge of the Exes

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I'm wondering what show you were watching, because Todd did not come off as whining but wounded! I wouldn't want anyone airing my dirty laundry on the web either. If you noticed Dr. Phil was not very sympathetic to Tasha. Just because someone anonymously says something has happened to them doesn't neccessarily mean it is so (even if they are female!). You sound as if you are taking it a little too personal and not very objectively!

All of us don't think all men are guilty until proven innocent.

I'd agree with wounded too... I don't think anyone wants their dirty laundry aired. Have you done something so horrible or scorned someone so bad that they felt like they had to give you the ultimate get back? I know I certainly haven't... and on the opposite side of that, I haven't been so angry at someone that I felt like I had to go to some silly site and "vent" to strangers about it to "warn" them. Of course I noticed Dr. Phil's position regarding the whole thing... I love the man but that doesn't mean I pattern every single thought after him.

I have nothing to take personal and I don't know about being objective - MY PERSONAL opinion stands. In a nutshell: For someone who didn't want his dirty laundry aired went on national TV... if he is standing for what is right... why didn't he try to have the site shut down BEFORE he was on it!??!?! I'm sure it was around long before someone posted something about him. Was the site "okay" prior to someone "making things up" about him? ...and I still think he is angry at and suing the wrong person. The internet is full of CRAP... are we going to strip the internet of every site that is a public forum where people say and do whatever they want? Good luck!

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September 22, 2006, 7:12 pm PDT

09/20 Revenge of the Exes

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You're right about moving on, and not wasting anymore time thinking about 'him'. But when a person has been betrayed, or taken advantage of, you can't sweep those feelings away like they don't count. Those are injuries that require acknowledgement to heal. Being able to voice the experience is like journaling. You are forced to look at it objectively because you are putting it out there to the world. This is a site for victims. There will always be people to abuse any system that exists, so you can't throw the baby out with the bath water. If a man is honerable and good, he has nothing to fear.

I happen to agree with you. I'm all for the internet site she created. I think you misread my post.

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September 22, 2006, 7:17 pm PDT

What a show!

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OMG are you kidding me! Regardless of whatever this guy has or has not done, what these women are doing is no different that what youth are doing online - only we call it CYBER BULLYING! This is the excatly one of the points I make in my thesis which is on the topic of cyber bullying. If a youth says something negative, hurtful or hateful against a peer it is labled as bullying, but yet were does this behaviour become acceptable ? Is it just because they are adults that they seem to think it is ok? I know Dr. Phil will set them straight on this. If we want our young people to treat others with respect online than we as adults need to set that example and not engage in and model the same behaviour we are telling them is not ok!

Dr. Phil I know you have my back on this don't you!

Let me just say "Great posting". Is it any wonder our children are the way they are? I watched this show and thought "Wow. . . some people just never get out of that high school stage." I was not in the "popular group" and spent 4 years in high-school not feeling good about myself. I played sports and I found things that I was great at, and put on a happy face, and found some true friends . . . but the emotional abuse gets to you. It's taken me a long time to realize I let that affect me. People can say anything they want to and they do . . . be it true or be it false. God knows we're not all perfect, and do we all want our mistakes posted where everyone can see them? Words are harmful. . . not just sticks. Sometimes words are more harmful because of the way they spread. Emotional abuse is not just something that goes on in a relationship. . . it's something people do to each other all the time. I used to think life wold be much easier if everyone was just nice to everyone, but I realize that's unrealistic. So I choose to live my life and be happy. I do my best at everything I do and I know that life is bigger than what others say about me. They have to answer for their lies and revenge later . . . and life is just too short to let people drag you down.

As far as the website. . . I understand people have a right to the freedom of speech, but I agree with Dr. Phil. Plus. . . do you really feel better when you get revenge? That "high" you get only last a short time. If you're not happy with who you are and the only way you can feel good is to bash someone else, you need all of our prayers.

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September 22, 2006, 7:21 pm PDT

Just a thought...

Everyone keeps saying untruth this & untruth that. Then I see others saying.. how do you know it's an untruth!?!?!? ..how do we know it's fact?!?!? None of us know. Do you really want to see Todd's medical records? Do we need to hook him up to a lie detector and ask about cheating and lying? I'd hope not.. but some of you act like you are already privy to this information. What I do know is that I can't think of one friend I have or one ex-boyfriend I have that has slung mud to mutual friends, family, OR a public internet forum!!! I can't image these women having a civil break up or even a bad one (yes, to include being cheated on and lied to) and posting. ...think about it...

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September 22, 2006, 7:31 pm PDT

Oh please!

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let me ask you one simple question. you mean to tell me it's ok for these men to make rap songs calling us bitches and whores but it's not ok for a woman to dog a man who wronged her? in my book any man who cheats on a woman and plays with her emotions should have his character "defamated " if thats a word but i'm going with it. everyone is on todd's side. todd, todd, todd. well you know what i think? screw you and todd. but i bet no one knows that "todd" has a $120,000 student loan he's trying to pay off. so basically you are saying that todd can take tasha to court to get money to pay off his student loan but it's not ok for tasha to create a site where women can talk about bad experiences. like i said before men talk about their bad experiences with women in rap songs. so i think that the women have the right to sue the men who talk about them in their songs. and i hate to put someone on blast but it's just like shenekaparris said in her comment on here todd is mad because his dates found out who he "REALLY IS" and now he's pissed off because now everyone knows.

Talk about a complete non sequitor. Assuming here that an individual doesn't condone a website whose sole existance is dedicated to defaming men, then by default a person condones filthy lyrics in music that denigrate and insult any self respecting woman??

in my book any man who cheats on a woman and plays with her emotions should have his character "defamated " if thats a word but i'm going with it.

You're assuming here that every thing posted on this website must be true. After all, no woman would lie about an ex that she was ticked off at, would she?

and i hate to put someone on blast but it's just like shenekaparris said in her comment on here todd is mad because his dates found out who he "REALLY IS" and now he's pissed off because now everyone knows.

Who here hasn't had a horrible breakup with an ex? Put that person in mind, then think about them posting about you. Is that who you really are? Is that a fair, unbiased opinion about you?

People are the sum of their experiences; not the experience of one individual who hates you.

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September 22, 2006, 7:39 pm PDT

money-drives empathy away..

Its obvious from the coldness surrounding her attidute,she could care less about ANY HUMAN ,that has been trashed by her crappy website-which I am not even curious about visiting. I hope the laws change to protect people better,and they put up boundaries(bad enough theres stalkers out there,internet fraude..now we have to go one lower..it is depremation of charachter,and in my heart he is a winner,regaurdless if theres money involved(money wont touch that creepy broad)..because he stood up for himself. I hope someday some man takes her for everything,and shes left there wondering what kind of person am I..hum..without all the houses,jewelry and luxurys..she dont care.because she doesn't feel..someday,what comes around..will go around..and she'll have to defend HERSELF..not that she would care though..mind you..because she thinks she just great...

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September 22, 2006, 7:45 pm PDT

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It is just as it is read...........Don'tDateHimGirl.com. It is a website for women to release feelings of frustration about a man. I really don't see how this website has anything to do with Todd's professional life. Who cares what someone posted on it. No reputable law firm is going to 'google' Todd to see what they can find out about him. Either he is a professional lawyer or he is not. Your personal life is separate from your professional life unless you merge the two yourself. For example, a rumor could start in a law firm of his peers and be passing the same statements around and gossiping about him is the SAME EXACT SITUATION. What is being said by his peers is no different than a woman bashing him on a website. Tasha has done nothing wrong and it is freedom of a public forum FOR WOMEN. Who cares if she is making money off the website. Very good entrepreneural idea! If you can't take the heat........stay off the website.....FOR WOMEN ONLY!

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sdperry88

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September 22, 2006, 7:59 pm PDT

Very good point & very well said!!

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Perhaps Tasha is using her website to urge these men (the guilty ones) to find "LOVE" in their hearts, and do the right thing in EVERY SITUATION. Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't disrespect these women. Rumors do not develop out of thin air. There is almost always an inappropriate action that provokes negative things to be said. In the end, the rumor may be bigger than it began, but it came from somewhere, something, and with reason.

Your comments make me embarrassed, and realize that men are always going to have the upper hand with these views. Men have been calling women psychos, stalkers, and all other names on web-sites and private blogs for a long time now. And generally, why were these women acting like "psychos" or "stalkers"....IN RETALIATION to something this man has done to hurt her feelings. WOMEN LIVE WITH ENOUGH DOUBLE STANDARDS, DON'T LET THEM HAVE THIS ONE TO.

On a side note, WHO BELIEVES EVERYTHING THEY READ ON THE INTERNET???? Todd needs to stop complaining, and take responsibility for whatever caused this girl to post comments about him. If he's so worried about what his family will think, call your mother and tell her the story! An employer worth his or her salt wouldn't take this web-site posting of Todd seriously...if he or she even found it. You will NEVER make me believe that women just sit around and think up things to put on the internet about a man just for the kicks!

You will NEVER make me believe that women just sit around and think up things to put on the internet about a man just for the kicks!

EXACTLY....

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