Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

Does Dr Phil take the time to verify that anyone here is a man or woman?  No.

Does he have to check the veracity of what anyone posting here says?  No.

It is an impossible standard to expect a website operator to background check every post.  She is not responsible for the free speech of others.  Dr Phil knows that, and frankly, I'm a bit disappointed with him setting a standard for her, he doesn't follow himself. 

The internet is a nasty place.  If someone has thin skin, they shouldn't play in such an arena. He googled his name, he saw what two women thought of him.  In the future, maybe he should have more discretion in the people he surrounds himself with, and how he treats them.  With that in mind, those posts were just a few words.  The fact he knew who they were, despite posting very little information posted, speaks volumnes.

From what I saw on Dr Phil and at other sites, Todd is asking her to take responsibility, yet requiring none of himself.  He has had her and her family followed.  Which according to the legal website is illegal in light of the lawsuit, and can be construed as harrassment.  He repeatedly has named her possessions, and where her homes are.  Which are of no concern to such a lawsuit or even a debate about the lawsuit.  They just reveal his true intentions, to profit.

However, seeing him in action on Dr Phil, I think he has done more damage to his own reputation than that lame site ever did.  He will have to suffer the backlash of his arrogance and greed, because it is clear no employer would ever take that site seriously. 

Todd exposed himself to millions.  While she only had a few thousand posters prior to the lawsuit.  What a fool!

NO, YOU DON'T GET IT. WERE IT NOT FOR THE DISGRACEFUL BEHAVIOR OF THE MALES POSTED ON THE SITE, NO ONE WOULD HAVE A REASON TO POST THEM.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT WORLD YOU LIVE IN, BUT THERE ARE PREDATORS OUT THERE WHO PREY ON WOMEN ... AND WHO WILL DO IT TIME AFTER TIME UNLESS THEY ARE EXPOSED.

WHAT ABOUT THOSE -- LIKE TODD HOLLIS -- WHO ALLEGEDLY GAVE SOMEONE AN STD?  SHOULD OTHER WOMEN NOT BE WARNED THAT HE MAY BE INFECTED, AND MAY BE "ALLEGEDLY" GAY OR BISEXUAL?  WOMEN NEED NECESSARY INFO TO PROTECT THEMSELVES.

OH AND THERE'S A STATUTE THAT PROTECTS TASHA:  COMMUNICATIONS DECENCY ACT.  SHE DESERVES OUR SUPPORT NOT BASHING.

NO, YOU DON'T GET IT. WERE IT NOT FOR THE DISGRACEFUL BEHAVIOR OF THE MALES POSTED ON THE SITE, NO ONE WOULD HAVE A REASON TO POST THEM.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT WORLD YOU LIVE IN, BUT THERE ARE PREDATORS OUT THERE WHO PREY ON WOMEN ... AND WHO WILL DO IT TIME AFTER TIME UNLESS THEY ARE EXPOSED.

WHAT ABOUT THOSE -- LIKE TODD HOLLIS -- WHO ALLEGEDLY GAVE SOMEONE AN STD?  SHOULD OTHER WOMEN NOT BE WARNED THAT HE MAY BE INFECTED, AND MAY BE "ALLEGEDLY" GAY OR BISEXUAL?  WOMEN NEED NECESSARY INFO TO PROTECT THEMSELVES.

OH AND THERE'S A STATUTE THAT PROTECTS TASHA:  COMMUNICATIONS DECENCY ACT.  SHE DESERVES OUR SUPPORT NOT BASHING.

I believe that a major point was missed in the show about  the dating website. The real remedy lies with the behavior of the men who mistreat women. I cannot believe that all the women on that site were lying. What would cause someone to lie in such outrageous ways? If this site will cause men to keep their behavior in line , I think it is a great idea. I wish this was around when I was dating. It is truly painful to be " played" by someone you hope is going to cherish you and honor your emotions. It seems to me , if men were not mistreating women there would be no need for this kind of website. INcidentally, it is quite legal and appropriate for the young man in this show to start a similar web site for men. I wonder if there would be as many postings? What a great topic for research.!!!

Thanks

cwindian

OMG are you kidding me! Regardless of whatever this guy has or has not done, what these women are doing is no different that what youth are doing online - only we call it CYBER BULLYING! This is the excatly one of the points I make in my thesis which is on the topic of cyber bullying. If a youth says something negative, hurtful or hateful against a peer it is labled as bullying, but yet were does this behaviour become acceptable ? Is it just because they are adults that they seem to think it is ok? I know Dr. Phil will set them straight on this. If we want our young people to treat others with respect online than we as adults need to set that example and not engage in and model the same behaviour we are telling them is not ok!

Dr. Phil I know you have my back on this don't you!

I've been in situations where I took the high road, and traveled the "living well is best revenge" route.  And I've also taken the less-than-desirable road and insured that my boyfriends got their just-desserts.  One avenue I was behaving more mature, yet it took longer to get over them. On the other hand I stood up for myself and found it easier to communicate my needs in future relationships. 

I say that you do what you got to do to get over a boyfriend (or girlfriend for the men out there) providing it is legal under the law.  Degrees of the transgressions will indicate what you feel like you need to do.  Seems like the situations where my ex and I were not sneaky with one another, the living well route was perfectly fine.  But the only time I took my revenge happened to be in a cheating-scenario, and I'm glad that I made sure he knew he wasn't getting away with anything.  Posting stuff on a website wouldn't be something I'd call "revenge", but if that's what the chick feels she needs to do, then so be it.