Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

Many jobs, in particular, political, CEO and upper level management positions just may take into account some derogatory internet info about a potential employee when making a final hiring decision.  Personal trash info does not belong on the internet...it belongs in your mind, to be shared with your friends and family if you choose.  Leave it there and be an adult about it!

....BE REAL!

 

If the statements are true then eventually it would get out without the world-wide web.

 

If the statements are false then eventually it would get out without the world-wide web.

 

If you are a dog, you are a dog. That's it point blank. Now - if you are not a dog it will be proven in the end...

 

I think he's mad because in a nutshell he got busted out. That's my take.

I had the opportunity to watch Dr. Phil on Monday as I was home on holiday. I simply could not believe what I was hearing from this woman! This is nothing more than disrespectful, mean-spirited, rude and useless garbage being posted on the Internet. Revenge is a very ugly attribute for anyone to have! Regardless of what these men have supposedly done to the women who have posted, it's really no one's business or concern! I was thinking, what if the tables were turned, and a man set up a web site to trash women who have done the same thing. I think the fallout would probably not go un-noticed. I found it interesting that this web site will include the names, photos, etc...of the men who have "wronged" women in whatever way they did - but the women who are posting are anonymous! I would like to know how the law suit comes out! I've never been in this situation but sure felt for Todd. People today have absolutely no respect for others, and to have a web site like this to ruin a persons reputation is reprehensible, disgusting, and simply not necessary!

   If I'm not mistaken, a quote made in public is liable if it slanders someone else; however I'm not a lawyer.  As a woman, I think these crybabies should put on their big girl panties and deal with it!  They are not the first females to be hurt, nor will they be the last. True ladies who respect themselves would never stoop to such levels, which tells you what kind of people use her site.  It is WRONG to slander and Tasha hides these crybabies as well as passes the buck.  Sites like her should be liable and maybe if she has to pay for the slanderous statements, she will clean up her act as well as her site.

If this were you and nasty and supposedly untrue things were published on this site about you, for the whole world to read...how would you feel?  I bet you'd feel exactly as outraged and upset as he does!   This is tabloid trash and does not deserve to be aired out there for the whole world!  And what good does a rebuttal from him do?  Of course he would deny these allegations whether they were true or not so a rebuttal really does him little good.  Ugh, come on now, be a grown-up about this!

 There comes a time when the EX's need to be taught a lesson.  Refer to my post Wish my Ex lived in TX

  I visited the Don't date him girl website, and Tasha should have both sides venting if she truly wants to help people. Men get cheated on just like women do. I am a woman and married for the second time. I married a great guy this time. My husband also had been cheated on by more than one girlfriend. It happens to all of us. We trust, we have faith and we believe that the person  we give our heart to will not break it, but it happens. You are giving him power after the breakup by going on that website while  he laughs more about you. Talk to your girlfriends, because talking about it helps, but going online, spending more time on him shows he still has you right where he had you before. Don't give people like Tasha the satisfaction of teaching more  young ladies to be man haters.

I would like to think we have not become so hateful that we have to seek revenge.  I agree with all those who say that to live well is the best revenge.  At least that is using more positive engergy.  Why use all that negative energy to post terrible things about your ex no matter what they have done to you.  What happened to "do unto others".  Is this what you would want your ex to do to you.  We all have our short-comings, we all do things we are not proud of and maybe if that person is not right for you, doesn't mean he/she will do it to someone else if they turn out to be Mr /Mrs Right.  You know?  We all need to put our energy into more positive areas and do better by one another.  This world has enough grief in it without those that we once loved seeking revenge on us.  I could do the same to my ex, but what is the point?  Maybe he did me a favor and besides he is a great father to my children, no matter what he did to me.  At least I look at this in a more positive way.  Yes, I was very hurt when he walked out but I'd rather put my energy into other happier things than revenge.  Do these people not have a life?  Do they not believe that God has something better for them?  I'd get down on my knees for awhile before I ever tried the "revenge" game.

Yeah, everyone's view on responsibility obviously varies but here's my opinion based not only on how I was raised but how I run my business as well...

 

I own and operate a website, I also have control of another site, in both, I am responsible for reading and determining what I think is appropriate for the threads. No names, no address', no slander, no threats, no assumptions, no pics etc...If it's there, I delete it and PM the poster and notify them that their privileges on the site will be revoked if rules are not respected and people's personal life, whether true or not, is posted PERIOD.

 

Why I find Tasha so responsible whether Todd did such things, is simply she owns and runs that site, she has a responsibility to monitor it and if must, edit it.

 

Why is it on this site, before I send you this message it will be reviewed before it is allowed to be posted in this thread? It's b/c the owner of this site/forum is responsible. What's so  scary to me, beyond anything else, is that their are some pretty scary people out there in this world, many women/men and many crazy enough to go to infinite lengths to destroy people's lives beyond fixing. What if it got so bad for Todd, that he committed suicide b/c of the loss of job, respect and whatever else this may have caused (I'm not saying he looks like he's at that point but ya never know do you?) Based on possibility of worst case scenario, Tasha's responsibility should kick in and do what's DECENT; like any other decent human being....oh crap I forgot...people seem to have been born into this world lately with the lack of decency!

I was also raised with the belief "treat people the way you want to be treated" and that revenge only stops you from moving forward in life and truly enjoying what has been given to you.

 

I'm so scared for my children and what will be when I'm older based on people's lack of respect now and what people are capable of.....what will be on the web in twenty years? Scary eh?

 

You want to be responsible? Open a therapeutic class for hurt, heartbroken women/men where it's not viewed by everyone including children who may accidentally come across it.  My opinion though :)

i dont know about you but i for one wont ever do anything to any one to make them want to post crap about me in the first place  hehehehe, and if  some one ever did i sure as hell aint goin to spend my time lookin for that crap about me  hahahahaha, if i piss some one off and they feel they must vent in that manner then by all means please be my guest, it isnt going to make me any less of a man, it will only make me a bigger man becouse i didnt keep a fire burning in some ones life that was going to destroy them in some way,if im right and some one tells me im wrong, i dont care, i know when im right, some one not knowing im right wont make me wrong,it only proves they dont know what there talking about, let it go i say, it isnt worth all the head aches it brings,if you think im bluffing go ahead make up all the stuff you care to put your mind to coming up with lol i dont give a damn, sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me  hahaha, they may piss me off but it isnt goin to hurt me or make me waste my time here in this world looking for something for nothing!!