Topic : Coping with the Death of a Child

Quote From: minx23

I have a girlfriend that I've known for 20 some years who lost her only child to suicide in May.  She lives in a small town in Ohio with many friends, but no family. She lost her husband in June 2002 in a motorcycle accident, and both of her parents passed away shortly before that, approximately a year apart from each other. She has one sister that lives in Illinois, but they are not close with each other. Basically she is trying to handle what God as given her all on her own, and is very depressed, but tries to put on a happy face. Recently, last week to be exact, she underwent emergency open heart surgery at the age of 41.  She is now home recovering. How much can one person take? Life doesn't seem fair to her.

She has NOT been unable to get the mental help she needs due to finances and ignorance. Where do you go? Her last phychiatrist would text on his phone during her sessions with him. Obviously not giving her the help she needs. I can only pray for her, I know she feels hopeless, I wish Dr. Phil could take a look at her situation and help her out. I fear the next couple of weeks because her deceased son's birthday is October 1st.

I would love any advise from others as to how I can help as a friend that is 140 miles away with a job and family to take care of. This friend needs GOOD help, this friend needs DR. Phil.

 

Quote From: coffee2005

  Hello, I want to say that I am praying for you , also I would like to share my story , I lost my 5year old in a car and train accident , It was so wierd , one minute she was there and know she is gone , It happened so fast , April 5,2006 was the date !  We all have to grab what you have know  and hold on , believe me I know that this will never make It better , but just remember that the ones you love is closer than you think!  My Prays are with you!

 

sincerly,coffee2005

Quote From: bunny628

sorry for your losses,I hope your Dad is doing O.K. such a hard thing to go though so close to gather and to have such a bad injury on top of that God Bless him what he has been though is enough to wear you down. I think you are handling everything the best you can, others just can't understand what it's like to lose your child suddenly,you try to be strong and normal but there is no more normal like before your different forever. I just want to scream when I'm told "it will be O.K. " because it will never be O.K. again I read on the POS site that one woman gets into her car turns up the radio  and screams. that how I fell inside like I could just start screaming and not stop. I get so angry at Willie sometimes,then I'm mad at God, at myself at the whole damn world sometimes I can't stand myself I'm so mean and angry. You just do the best you can and some days it's hard just to get out of bed let alone have a normal day.  I am happy to hear that Dennis is doing well and that he is doing so great using his inhaler. Kids just amaze me how they just take thing in stride. It's wonderful he has Jessica's rocking horse I bet he's just adorable riding on it. I know Jessica must be smiling down on him. I love your saying it is so sweet.I sure Dennis will love it too. I hope all the kids didn't wear you out and you had lots of fun.  take caare my friend.God Bless.((HUGS))) Bunny           

Quote From: bunny628

 things have been very busy here for a while, Megan and Gabe came home her boyfriend was to join them in a few weeks but that's off now he is seeing someone and told Meg he didn't want anything to do with her or Gabbie (2yrs) she is heartbroken and can't understand how Chris can"throw away Gabe" I am very worried about her she is so sad losing her brother and now this is taking it's toll on her spirits,Me is bipolar and has had to work hard to stay stable, she is a wonderful loving mother but how much can a young woman (23) take?? I just pray and pray that she can make it though this tough time she is so down and sad. I just don't know what to do. I hope all is well with you and Dennis.Take care.((HUGS))Bunny

Quote From: debra232006

that things are not going good with Megan and Gabe! Who understands why guys do what they do? He probably thinks the grass is greener on the other side. She should hold her head up high and not worry about him. He is obviously not worth the engergy. It will take some time for her to get over the initial hit but she will be fine. She needs to use this time to put her energy into her and Gabe. It doesn't take man to make a woman who she is and the sooner she learns that lesson the better. Jessica's cousin, the one that was driving at the time of the accident, was 23 at that time and a single Mom. She didn't want to live after the accident, and took alot but she has now moved on with her life; married and has had another baby. Life can go on after a tragedy, how quickly depends on the person. Give Megan a hug for me and tell her she will survive, and meet someone that is worthy of her.

 

*HUGS* Debra

 

P.S. Dennis is doing awesome! Thank you for asking!

Quote From: sandmom3b

Hi everyone, I lost my prec ious 19 yr old son on March 4th , 2007.  He was killed  in  a car  accident.   He has two brothers still  living.   Thank you for letting me share.  I guess I'm an official member of the grief club now.  Sandy