Topic : Interracial Relationships

Hi there,

I am a single (white) Australian mother of 4 beautiful girls. aged 10,6,5 and 1 years old.....I have to say that I think there is nothing wrong with interracial relationships.  My 1 year old daughter is the product of one and she is the most wonderful blessing and addition to our family.

Although I am no longer with her father due to abusive behaviour patterns that my partner displayed while I was with him....it was a choice of stay and take the abuse and possibly loose my child or flee back to my own country to continue with the pregnancy, well all is well that ends well they say.....I do find it surprising that even in todays society where I believed we had come such a long way what with the acceptance of interracial relationships that I have been taken aback at how many times I have had a women in the shops ask me if the little girl that I was holding was mine or was she adopted..?????

I might be able to see why u might "ask yourself" such a question when she is the only dark skinned child amongst my 2 blondes and one brunnette with fair skin.  But to have the courage to just come out and ask a mother such a question in this day and age is just plain silly.... At least you could have the intelligence to assume that the possiblity was that the "new father" was black (African American) and that she wasn't something that I purchased over the counter!!!! 

What do people think?  That black is the new fashion must have....thanks to Angelina Jolie and Madonna!!!!!!! 

Mistified.....

I have a question I need help with. My daughter has started talking to an African American man. She has been married before and is now divorced. We live in a small town and unfortunately we have our share of narrow minded people that seem to think if you date outside your race, your trash. I don't want to see her be treated badly, but I think this is a great opprotunity for her. This guy works everyday, he is nice to her daughter and doesn't do drugs or drink to excess. All the guys that she has dated before were the opposite, and yes, they were all white too. I want to be happy for her because if ever their was someone who deserved a good man, it definitely is her. Her ex found out this past weekend about this other man and had several racist comments to make, I worry that he will make it difficult for her and may say things to my granddaughter about her mother when she gets older. I feel torn. On the one hand I want her to be happy and I honestly don't care what race he is, on the other hand, am I helping her to make a choice that will cause her to be judged and ridiculed? I know it sounds like I'm predjudice but I'm really not. I could write a book on how rough my daughters life has been and I just don't want to see her go through anything more.  Has anyone out there been through this? Please write back and tell me how you dealt with it, or just your opinion.

I am interacially married and just like with any other marriage it has its challenges. My husband is Black and Korean and I am White.  We have had some struggles weeding through all the various cultural issues, but we eventually had to come to a greater understanding . That understanding  is to realize that our marriage is  not about tradition or culture but it is about the standard of love through Jesus Christ that should be operating in our marriage.  Not to say that we should  not honor our traditions and culture but when people begin to respect each other indiviudally and hold each other in high reguard as God does and says we should also then our mindsets can be freed from these various issues.   The bible itself shares stories of various cultures and religious traditions, and also expresses how such traditions and cultures of certain men kept them far from understanding and doing God's work.  God certainly loves all of us and doesn't condemn where we come from and accepts everyone of us.  So the questions to ask oneself is the culture or the things learned and expressed living in that culture producing good fruit.  If so keep it, if not get rid of it.   Does living in that culture  line up with  God's word, if so keep it, if not get rid of it.    I choose to line up with God as he is the creator and is perfect.  Knowing that He is perfect, He can't change to meet my way thinking as He would be lowering his perfect standard.  I would need to change my thinking to meet his standards.   In doing so I found peace within our relationship. 

I'm a Caucasian woman and my wonderful sweetheart is African-American.  He's the perfect man in my eyes and I wouldn't have it any other way.  He is very sweet, kind-hearted, intelligent, considerate, honest, courageous, sincere and insanely handsome.  I hope to spend the rest of my life with him until the day I die and then forever more in the Afterlife.  That's how strong our love for each other is. 

Eventually, we hope to move into a beautiful home down south, somewere by the tropics and beaches, get married and raise some lovely children. 

Fortunately, my family doesn't have anything against him because of his gorgeous mocha-colored skin.  They are only skeptical about him because of the fact that I met him over the Internet, which is an entirely different thing.

I have been thru this in the past, myself, and you're probably more worried than she is.

As long as she has your support; that's most important.  She'll figure it out and probably

socialize and live where people of class are, as well as open minds - educated minds, such as

(usually) big cities where people are happy, carefree and not in a 1956 mindset.

Good luck-keep supporting her.  

Hi All, I am currently dating and in love with a man of mixed race.. I am a white australian girl, and his mother is polynesian/maori and his father is a hindu indian.  My boyfriend is a very special and beautiful peaceful person who is 150% devoted to me and spoils me with affection and love.  I suspect he gets his great aspects from his parents and devotion to family.. However, this is our problem.

I have been bought up to believe that a couple (husband and wife) are the rock of the family and that although you love your parents andhelp them as much as possible, they still would come second to your immediate spouse and children. 

He partner has told me that his parents are his gods and although I am his soul partner, that his parents would always come first.  If one of them got sick or needed help he would have to look after them for the rest of their lives.

I do not know if I want to stay with him , and build a life with him knowing that I will be second.  I feel like I have found the most amazing man, but I dont know if I want to live up to the Indian wife duties that I worry will be expected of me.

Any help from white females that have been married to indian men would be appreciated.

no one posts on this topic? is there no one out there wanting to talk about it or what?