My "husband" by common law marriage of 15 (16 years in Feb) and I are separated, and its inevitable that divorice is right around the corner. I do not want a divorice, I love my husband, or at least I think I do, maybe its that I am Addicted to him, is that possible?
We've had a struggle from the beginning of our relationship, between x's and teenagers, and in-law problems. we've been through so much together and us working things out, well, we've always been able to, however, since my Father In law passed away, my Mother in Law has become VERY INTERFERRING, and its unbearable, unbearable to the point of she is supporting my husband and enabling him to move on without me.
I am so sad, and I do realize that he has a mind of his own, but she is a very controlling person, and believe me, if she has something over your head, like money, you do as she says, or else you will pay for it...I have seen it first hand!
How do I get my husband to realize that we need to be together, is it not true that when a man takes a wife, he forsakes all others?
he says he will not "screw" me, meaning he will continue to help me out and not abandon me, he also says he will never have another woman, and it goes on and on. I do work, but certainly don't bring in enough to support myself. I am in disbelief that this is even happening. I am getting counseling, and she is totally in disbelief also.
He has had an addiction of perscription drugs, which he says he is now getting help for, going to NA..he has lied to me for the past year, about everything under the sun..I don't know what to do. as you can tell, I am quite confused as to what to think, or do. I don't know what to believe anymore.
I feel I have tried all that I can to make things work. if anyone has gone through any of the above, or maybe have some suggestions of what I can do/try...please help me get focused.
