Quote From: shellzie26I have been told that I did the right thing before, and glad to hear that others out there agree, but there the problem is, how do I get over him and move on and be happy. How do I get along with him when I know that he is the same person even if he acts different. He has already called and asked how I was and how our son was. We are having a boy. He will be nice and seem different, but then when I mention anything that he assumes is against him or blaming him for something when I am not, it turns into a huge fight. For example, he got served the divorce papers and freaked out on me that he did not understand any of it and yelled at me and treated me like crap on our phone conversation. It always turns into a fight and I am left feeling that it is my fault when I know it is not, I still feel that way though. His mother recently called and I have not returned her phone call and do not plan on it. She has issues as well. She still does everything for him like a mother would for her young child, but he is 25!! That is another thing, he is so dependent on others, and does not know how to do things for himself. I was pretty much his slave wife, his excuse was that his mother did it for his dad, so why cant I kind of a thing. He has texted me 3 times now. One apologizing for the fight about divorce papers, one to see if I was okay and one about how horrible it was that Stoughton WI was hit by a tornado, I live about 10 minutes from there. I have not responded and I don't plan on it, but I still have to see him in court in 11 days. HOW DO I STOP LOVING HIM AND GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON TO A BETTER LIFE? HE IS THE FATHER OF MY SON AND NOTHING WILL CHANGE THAT, SO PLEASE HELP ME, I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO DO THIS FOR ME AND MY SON. THANKS.
Hi there, Oh boy did your post raise some memories for me!
I was 5 months pregnant and my husband left me for another woman, I was DEVASTATED, I had so much trust in him and it seemed my world came crashing down around me. He was also abusive, he would threaten me with chairs, get in my face yelling obscenities etc.
I moved to my mum's with my 2 young boys 1 & 2, and decided to get my act together, if he was going to be this person, I didn't want to be with him. He went away ( to think ) well he comes back and seems a different person! He proffesses his undying love for me, the kids blah blah blah. Being approx 7 months pregnant at this stage, I took him back, what can I say.....I WAS SO VULNERABLE!
Things were fine UNTIL the baby's birth ( a gorgeous little girl) BUT slowly, they turned not only bad again, but worse! He got MORE violent, he headbutted me in the face and called me 2 HORRIBLE names in front of my little children, I went to call the police, he knocked the phone right out of the wall! Needless to say, the violence didn't stop there, and I am ASHAMED at staying with him for so long and subjecting my kids to such violence!
We repeatedly seperated and got back together ( over 12 years ), it was rediculous, that was up till 2 years ago wen I KNEW this was the last time I would subject the kids and I to this again! My kids are now aged 12,13 and 14. You see, my husband went through 2 anger management programs, individual counsiling, hypnotherapy and can still act like the BIGGEST pig on this earth! Now that he no longer gets to me, I can see him doing it with the kids, he is a PIG to my daughter at times, I believe he is a woman hater!! Had I of made a go of it when he first played up, my kids most probably wouldn't be having the struggles they are right now!
For yourself, for your new little baby, don't let this man bring you down another minute! Stick to your guns, I have at LAST and I have NEVER felt a peace like I am right now! In fact, when I think of him being here with us, it gives me the shudders!
It is NOT easy, BUT it is POSSIBLE! feel free to email me if you ever need to talk ;)
Take Care, give that baby a wonderful start in life!
