my daugher has a lot of medical problems....
first one: she has a abnormally large brain
Second one: She is blind in one eye and 6/18 in the other
third one: she has problems with her glucose levels, every couple of years it drops for no reason and she becomes hypogycemic (I think thats what it's called)
I have been argueing and pulling my hair out with my daughter since she was 3,
She has a terrible temper on her and always cheeky she is no 8 years old, her friends think she's weird for the way she acts, i think instead of writing paragraphs of what she does and don't do I will list them.
1. Bad tempered.
2. Can't dress properly, always putting clothes on back to front or picking really horribley stained clothing.
3. doesn't care about her appearance, on many occasions i have sent her back to the bathroom to wash her face before school and still she jumps in the car with black arms or hands and i have sat down on many occasions and talked to her about this but she doesn't care.
4. She thinks EVERYONE including strangers at the shops are interested in her current thing.. like once we brought her one of those tomigoshi's and i bumped into a woman at the shops, she lookeda the woman and said "I have a tomigoshi at home" she will go on for hours to us about it,
5. use to love reading medical books at the age of 4, which when she started school would repeat her self over and over to her friends about muscles etc.
6. has no empathy, my younger son was laying on the couch when he was 2 watching tv she just went up to him and bit him hard on the face and she was 7, when we told her off for it, she just didn't care, when he falls over and really hurts himself, rather than tell us, she just watches him, doesnt cuddle him or anything, just stands watching, sometimes she smiles at him, he fell off a bunk bed not long ago and i asked her what happened she ignored me, i shouted and she then said he fell off the bed but again just stood there and watched him. however when it suits her and she knows she will be praised for it she will be nice to him.
7. very bossy, she can't or won't take orders when it's play time from others, she has to be the one who is incharge.
8. doesn't show loving emotions, since 3 when giving me a kiss and cuddle goodnight, it would be litrally like cuddling a statue she stands stiff and her kisse's are just her mouth pucked up and nothing else, they are cold.
9. she has hygene problems, she won't wipe after going the toilet and won't wash her hands, I have told her how unhealthy it is and she doesn't care, I have also explain if she doesn't start taking some interest in herself and hygene she might loose her friends, her answer was "i like being on my own"
10. she did something very hurtful once and i sat her down and told her she had to consider other peoples feelings in this world and that hers are not the only ones that can get hurt, her response to me was "i wish i was the only person in this world"
11. Her imagination has ONLY just kicked in and only just started playing with like toddler toys, when she was a bubs she liked blocks and pretty much nothing else, when she was 2 she loved laying in her room looking at books and from 3 onwards she liked looking at normal kids books and medical books (i kept trying to hide them and she kept finding them) she became interested in countries in the world, but refused to play with dolls, or anything make believe. One day we took a walk to my mums, and since she loved dora i tried making it fun telling her that we had 2 round abouts to go past, 1 park and 1 set of shops, i said "lets play dora" she was happy, i noticed on her back pack she had a smiley face sticker so said "this can be backpack" and i didn't get any futher, she cried and got very annoyed and told me it was pretend and that was that, she didn't want to play anymore, she seemed to have a limit on the imagination, like once it past that threshold she became frustrated and angry.
12. She doesn't take things well like she wants to call her stepdad, "dad" since her real father hasn't been in the picture since she was 3 months old and we have told her its up to her... but she looks like she's going to cry and says that she thinks she will call him by his real name, we explain that that is ok too, then she tries making excuses like "i will call him dad when BLAH (son) is around" or "i will call him dad on the weekends and his real name on the week days"... the other example is, my brother hadn't finished his hot chips because they were oven cooked and she was saying 'are they going to waste" and "are you going to eat them mummy?" I turned around and said "why do you want them" she said "Oh, alright" but said it like she didn't really want them but i was making her... I said "you dont have to eat them if you don't want to" she then said "i will eat them because blah (her brother) is still eating and it will stop him from wanting to play with me without eating his own dnner" i felt really sorry for her because my brother looked at me and his look said to me "what is she going on about? " I just shook my head at him and explained how she was later.
her developement has been a mix, her reading for a 8 yr old is fantastic, she reads at a 10 year olds level, her maths is just a little behind that, at 3 she was counting to 50, at 4 she was counting to 150... she was writing mum, dad and nan at the age of 3 without copying from anywhere and knew her ABC's correctly at 4, she picked up laungages really well esp with counting to 10, in German, Spanish and French by the age of 4, Now she is learning Spanish again at school and she has good pronounciation, last year she did italian and was good at that too. the other great skill she has is her drawing, she LOVES sitting there with one of those boards that you write on with a magnet and then rub it out.. she spends hours on them, and she is a perfectionist with it. She could draw a excellent likeness of a powerpuff girl at the age of 5.
her down falls her no matter how long its been she can't dress her self correctly, shower herself correctly.. it took her along time to work out how to climb (5-6 years old) and alot more physical developement set backs.
I have only brushed the service of the problems there is with her, but does this sound a little like Aspergers?? any input would be great!
