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May 8, 2008, 10:46 am CDT

Asperger's Syndrome

Quote From: denisewagg

I am the mother of a 10 year old boy diagnosed with aspergers.  After thousands of dollars in doctor bills and coutless hours at specialists offices we finally have a name for what ails him.  It is a very confusing time for us.  His emotions are out of control and his negative vocal behavior is very hard to cope with.  I am wondering about other families and this condition, and what has been the most helpful.  We live in a small town and access to workshops or seminars on a regular basis is almost impossible.  His school is helping alot but funding for the teachers on workshops for this is limited.  I really would appreciate anyone's story and some of the action rewards or otherwise helps them. 

 

Thank you in advance

Hi, i'm a mother of 4 children, two of them have a form of autism, my oldest son is 19 now and diagnosed with asperger when he was 12. My youngest son of 15 has PDD, he was diagnosed at the age of eight.

I knew something was 'off' with my oldest son when he was 2,5 years old. The term Asperger hadn't been invented yet. He was examined by several docters and they concluded he had a partial fotographic memory and a complete audiografic memory. It took us ten more years to finally learn he has Asperger. Through reading (books, literature, and the internet) I edjucated myself in the differnt sorts of autism. While my oldest son is highly intelligent, my youngest son is 'slow'. He was in an institution for 7 years because we couldn't handle him any longer. For example, he went joyriding with my car when he was 2,5, stabbed his brother 16 times in the back with a little potatoe knife when he was 3 and set his room on fire by the age off 4. My (now) ex-husband could'nt fine a way to deal whith these two boys, that was the main reason to get a divorce. I now take care of all my 4 kids, I took my youngest boy out of the institution last oktober. It was the best thing i ever could have done. He's doing so much better now. My advise to you, love your boy, focus on the things he can do, not the ones he can't. The most inportant thing is to stay calm always, these childeren don't understand you are sad or angry or happy. When he gets really angry: try to get him to look at you, make eye contact and tell him very calmely that you understand he's angry for whatever reason and ask him what YOU can do to help him. Distraction will help in some cases, but always remain calm. If he can't handle his own emotions, he certainly can't handle yours. I hope these tips help a little.

You will have to excuse my gramar, i'm Dutch and my English is not that good. 

 
May 8, 2008, 12:57 pm CDT

I have a friend....

Quote From: denisewagg

I am the mother of a 10 year old boy diagnosed with aspergers.  After thousands of dollars in doctor bills and coutless hours at specialists offices we finally have a name for what ails him.  It is a very confusing time for us.  His emotions are out of control and his negative vocal behavior is very hard to cope with.  I am wondering about other families and this condition, and what has been the most helpful.  We live in a small town and access to workshops or seminars on a regular basis is almost impossible.  His school is helping alot but funding for the teachers on workshops for this is limited.  I really would appreciate anyone's story and some of the action rewards or otherwise helps them. 

 

Thank you in advance

I have a friend who has an 11 yr old son who is also diagnosed with aspergers and one thing shes been told and has found to help her some is total routine! Everyday same thing same time no suprises and if you guys are planning something let  him know ahead of time that way he can get over the excitment of it all and it's helped my friends stress level if anything! I hope this helps!
 
May 29, 2008, 10:19 am CDT

Asperger's Syndrome

This has to do with the humiliation of a special boy. I am so angry right now….

Please read the following and if you are inspired to do anything about it, here are some ways to contact the school/teacher. Let’s show this family some support and let this school administration that we, as a society, are appalled at this behavior!

772-337-67302300 SE Gowin Dr
Port St Lucie, FL 34952

"http://www.stlucie.k12.fl.us/mse/staff/administration.html
and click on Faculty and Staff you can write to the teacher directly
portillow@stlucie.k12.fl.us

PD*Poll: Students vote autistic 5-year-old out of class It sounds like somebody has been watching too many reality shows. Namely, Wendy Portillo, a teacher at Morningside Elementary in Port St. Lucie, Florida. She turned her kindergarten classroom into a cruel version of Survivor by allowing her students to vote a fellow student out of the class.

The banished child is 5-year-old Alex Barton, who is in the process of being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, a high-functioning type of autism. Not uncommon to his condition, Alex has had some behavioral issues and as a result, spends a lot of time in the principal's office.

After returning to Ms. Portillo's classroom after a recent visit with the principal, his teacher decided to punish him with humiliation. She had Alex stand at the front of the class while his fellow students listed off what they didn't like about him. After informing him that they found him "disgusting" and "annoying", the class was instructed to vote on whether or not Alex should be allowed to stay in the class. By a 14 to 2 margin, they voted him out.

Alex hasn't been back to school since then, but his mother, Melissa Barton, says he is still reliving the incident. The night after it happened, she says she overheard him saying "I'm not special" over and over.

Incredibly, an investigation by the state attorney's office concluded that Alex's treatment did not meet the criteria for emotional child abuse and no charges have been filed. I don't know what the criteria for emotional abuse is, but if this doesn't meet it, what does? My heart breaks for all the children involved in this incident
 
June 4, 2008, 5:21 pm CDT

Asperger's Syndrome

Quote From: feistyd

This has to do with the humiliation of a special boy. I am so angry right now.

Please read the following and if you are inspired to do anything about it, here are some ways to contact the school/teacher. Lets show this family some support and let this school administration that we, as a society, are appalled at this behavior!

772-337-67302300 SE Gowin Dr
Port St Lucie, FL 34952

"http://www.stlucie.k12.fl.us/mse/staff/administration.html
and click on Faculty and Staff you can write to the teacher directly
portillow@stlucie.k12.fl.us

PD*Poll: Students vote autistic 5-year-old out of class It sounds like somebody has been watching too many reality shows. Namely, Wendy Portillo, a teacher at Morningside Elementary in Port St. Lucie, Florida. She turned her kindergarten classroom into a cruel version of Survivor by allowing her students to vote a fellow student out of the class.

The banished child is 5-year-old Alex Barton, who is in the process of being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, a high-functioning type of autism. Not uncommon to his condition, Alex has had some behavioral issues and as a result, spends a lot of time in the principal's office.

After returning to Ms. Portillo's classroom after a recent visit with the principal, his teacher decided to punish him with humiliation. She had Alex stand at the front of the class while his fellow students listed off what they didn't like about him. After informing him that they found him "disgusting" and "annoying", the class was instructed to vote on whether or not Alex should be allowed to stay in the class. By a 14 to 2 margin, they voted him out.

Alex hasn't been back to school since then, but his mother, Melissa Barton, says he is still reliving the incident. The night after it happened, she says she overheard him saying "I'm not special" over and over.

Incredibly, an investigation by the state attorney's office concluded that Alex's treatment did not meet the criteria for emotional child abuse and no charges have been filed. I don't know what the criteria for emotional abuse is, but if this doesn't meet it, what does? My heart breaks for all the children involved in this incident

I notice they said, "In the process of being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome", so it hasn't been verified he has it yet? As someone with Asperger's Syndrome, I find it appauling that someone would use the syndrome as a cheap ploy to get public attention and pity.

 

Alex might be right, he might not be "special". Meanwhile those of us who do have Asperger's Syndrome, will once again be confronted with the idea that people will think we're oversensitive adults who act like small children. I for one, am tired of  Asperger's Syndrome being associated with the "Treat like a baby" way of thinking, in regards to people with any Neurodiversity.

 

If you want Alex to regain his dignity back, don't pre-emptively label him as having Asperger's Syndrome, just because it will get your case on the news. Also people with Asperger's Syndrome tend not to have "behaviour issues". It sounds what you are talking about is High-Functioning Autism, which is NOT Asperger's Syndrome.

 

I'm sorry if I come across as harsh, but alot of us with Asperger's Syndrome are tired of being treated as if we're idiots, because people want to associate us with children who have Autism.

 
June 10, 2008, 11:17 am CDT

Asperger's Syndrome

Quote From: yoshiyoshi

I notice they said, "In the process of being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome", so it hasn't been verified he has it yet? As someone with Asperger's Syndrome, I find it appauling that someone would use the syndrome as a cheap ploy to get public attention and pity.

 

Alex might be right, he might not be "special". Meanwhile those of us who do have Asperger's Syndrome, will once again be confronted with the idea that people will think we're oversensitive adults who act like small children. I for one, am tired of  Asperger's Syndrome being associated with the "Treat like a baby" way of thinking, in regards to people with any Neurodiversity.

 

If you want Alex to regain his dignity back, don't pre-emptively label him as having Asperger's Syndrome, just because it will get your case on the news. Also people with Asperger's Syndrome tend not to have "behaviour issues". It sounds what you are talking about is High-Functioning Autism, which is NOT Asperger's Syndrome.

 

I'm sorry if I come across as harsh, but alot of us with Asperger's Syndrome are tired of being treated as if we're idiots, because people want to associate us with children who have Autism.

Hi Yoshi,

Every child is 'special'. What happened in that classroom should not have happened regardless of his diagnosis (btw he has been diagnosed as ADHD and AS).

 

I'm sorry if I come across as harsh, but alot of us with Asperger's Syndrome are tired of being treated as if we're idiots, because people want to associate us with children who have Autism.

I guess I have been fortunate in that I am not treated like an idiot.

 
July 23, 2008, 5:59 pm CDT

aspergers

 I am a mother of two children one with asperger's syndrome and one that is autistic . The one with aspergers is still on the spectrum of autism it is just a different name and I can see from working with the two of them on an everyday basis that there are alot of similarities . But they are far from being stupid or frowned upon . They are just differnt and can't help the life that htey were delt . I Love them jsut the same and no matter what they are here to teach me something along with teaching hte rest of the world something as well
 
July 31, 2008, 7:40 pm CDT

High functioning autism

Quote From: feistyd

Hi Yoshi,

Every child is 'special'. What happened in that classroom should not have happened regardless of his diagnosis (btw he has been diagnosed as ADHD and AS).

 

I'm sorry if I come across as harsh, but alot of us with Asperger's Syndrome are tired of being treated as if we're idiots, because people want to associate us with children who have Autism.

I guess I have been fortunate in that I am not treated like an idiot.

 I have a son with high functioning autism. Yes to an uninformed person he might come across as stupid -he does stupid things -who doesn't. It is not the case however he is very clever.  Although it is understandable because of some stigma associated with autism, why the attiude about association. Aspergers syndrome is a type of autism. I think everybody has their autistic bits - I am excessively nauseated by the smell of HP sauce. As someone championing neurodiversity perhaps you should be celebrating your differences from the "normal" whatever that is. Even very autistic people with severe behaviours can be intelligent, and you don't have to have aspergers to be treated like an idiot. I have had experiences of being treated like an utter moron when I was an attractive young blonde.... I might add by older men that I could run rings around academically
 
September 19, 2008, 9:10 am CDT

Dealing with 2 children with autsim

i want to send Dr. Phil a clip from my camcorder with my 4 1/2 year old who has autsim, i need help in dealing with her thrashing behaivor and everything about autsim. I have a 2 1/2 year who also has autsim but she is not as severe as her sister. I have done everything i know how to do i want to send this video to him how do i do that over the computer? I cant put it on the webcam becuse it was recorded in the living room and the computer is in our room. Please help if you can. Thanks

Kristina

 
October 6, 2008, 3:11 pm CDT

Asperger's Syndrome

Quote From: happybutterfly

It is always so good to hear from adults that have been through the tough times as I have and my 2 children have too. Although I have never had a diagnosis I have so many of the same things I deal with that they go thru so I am able to be more understanding towards them and there difficultys. It can be hard and you do have to keep going and to everyone who looks down apon those who do have a mental dissorder we do have our special abilitys becouse we notice the world a little differently. And as I have been told my whole life the world takes all kinds. So Keep Up The Great Work Standing Tall!! The thing we all need is a loving, caring, environment and we can do it!!

 

 

I was the kid who was very intelligent, so the teachers in parochial school didn't know what to do with me, but was unable to stop talking to the others in class.  I could quote the teacher's comments, so I was paying attention.  Socially, I did the "right" things, but can't seem to read others well enough, and so had only a few close friends and was always on the outside looking in.  I was too "nice" to shun the truly mentally handicapped, and so was shunned even more.  That I was also never a socially thin person didn't help (healthy, swimmer, hiker).  I now think I may have a little bit of Asperger's, since I still even work best when on shift alone with a few patients (lpn).
 
November 13, 2008, 4:21 pm CST

asperger syndrome

Quote From: fthayer

Hello.

 

Growing up has not been easy for me. I was bullied relentlessly in my childhood and early teens. My biological parents were very cruel to me. Then, I moved to another city where I lived in a poor neighbourhood for a couple of years. I also spent nine days in jail a couple of years ago, even though I insist that I didn't do anything wrong.

 

My peers consider me to be a very intelligent person. I graduated from Ottawa, Canada's Carleton University in the nineties. I also consider myself to have a lot of common sense with plenty of "street smarts".

 

I once spent my time with other mentally ill people. That was a terrible mistake. Successful people surround themselves with other successful people & that's exactly what I've done.

I was on social assistance on two occasions but now collect a disability pension while working full time at a coffeehouse. While I am very happy with my current situation, I am not yet content.

I'd like to go back to school so that I can reach my potential while no longer being classified as an underachiever.

 

One of the knocks against mentally ill people is that they have poor social skills. However, my life experience has enabled me to learn from society on how to interact with others.

 

In the past, I have been in and out of psychiatric wards. Now that my living arrangements have drastically improved, I can function a lot better as my visits at the hospital have become fewer and fewer.

 

I take medication every morning to help make me remain sane. Yet, it has been the bold choices that I have made in my life that has prevented me from being sucked into a downword spirral. I no longer have any contact with any of my biological family nor am I a client of that mental health agency any more. Those two groups did not make me feel good about myself as they tried to run my own life against my will.

 

Now, I live independently on my own. I take excellent care of myself and my precious cat.  It took an awful lot of time, but things are finally going well for me. My advice to people with Aspergers syndrome or mental illness in general is to hang in there and persevere. Do not consider suicide or any other way of quitting on life. There are plenty of people to turn to. Even though life has been good to me, I continue to see my family doctor and social worker on a monthly basis. It's what keeps me humble.

 

That is what I'm willing to share with all of you. May you all have the fortitude to excel in life rather than settling for the limitations you think you have. Thank you & God bless.

 

Sincerely,

Fred. 

My son is 21.  He is an honor student and 3rd year in college.  He is going to become a teacher

and maybe a priest.  He has never been in any trouble and very well manered.  He has asperger

syndrome.  He was diagnosed when he was 17.  He was always bullied, geeky, smart dresser

and very intelligent.  He has had problems with his father (adhd) and his younger brother (ADHD and learning disabilities).  They are sloppy, disorganized, forgetful, and he gets very angry at them.

He has been on several medications, he sees neurologists and pastoral counselors.  He is doing much better.  There was a time when he was not doing well.  Constant fighting with his father and brother to the point where he had to taken to the hospital because he tried to break a chair over his fathers back.  we then learned about asperger.  He still does not see eye to eye with his father or his brother but he has calmed down alot.  His brother has anger problems and they go at it at times.  They scare me because the apserger child is very opinionated and says things that hurt people's feelings and then the adhd child goes at him.  There have knock out drag out fights where I had to get int he middle and got hurt.  Doors would have holes in them, walls would have holes in them, screaming, hitting, punching, broken noses, very stressful for me.  Things are better, just hoping that the asperger child stops making remarks about the adhd child. 

 
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