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Created on : Sunday, September 17, 2006, 12:10:41 pm
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January 13, 2008, 2:01 pm PST

I am a friend

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I CAN HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. I AM ALSO DISABLED AND IT IS LIKE ...PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO BE BY YOUR SIDE WHEN YOU ARE HURTING OR DEPRESSED... IT JUST TAKES TOO MUCH EFFORT FOR THEM TO JUST BE THERE AND NOT BE ABLE TO HELP.  SO, UNFORTUNATELY SOME PEOPLE JUST BAIL OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE OF THIS.

I ALSO LONG FOR SOMEONE TO TALK WITH AFTER LOSING BEST FRIEND OF 40 YEARS DUE TO HUSBANDS INFIDELITY WITH HER.  AND NOW LOSING MY HUSBAND TO HIS NEXT VICTIM.

Hello Alice

 

I hope you are well.  No parent wants to see their child hurt or struggle as much as you have.  I, have struggled with MS.  Its not easy.  Nobody knows what your enduring accept you and you feel alone.  This is how I felt when I first got diagnosed with MS.  At times when things don't go my way I often feel like I have been hit. 

 

I have dealt with someones infidelity too. We weren't married. For 12 years, it sure felt like we were.  As for your husbands next victim. This is her problem now.  What he did to you, he will surely do the same to her. Its like a sick pattern that a person does to another.  There are no real winners when someone cheats. The one that cheats is cheating themselves and are the real losers. Just don't beat yourself over this.

 

I wish you well in your recovery  abd take care of yourself above all you deserve that to yourself. You are your  own best friend and faithful one at that.  Think of yourself always. You are a winner

 

Sincerely Ellen
 
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January 23, 2008, 9:18 am PST

Thank You Kim

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Hello Kim

 

Life does throw us some curve balls.  Somethimes they are not fair and having MS, you know full well that with balance and gait issues that we deal with daily, we can't catch them all. lol

 

I have decided awhile back that I am not going to get upset over other people's perceptions and assumptions. They are not inflicted with this illness.   It would be a rude awakening to them, if one day that they wake up with an illness that they can't explain why they can not do the things that they used to. 

 

Its true that we do not have perfect bodies or situations.  So I am at a loss as to why people become so critical of others who are disabled.  We are looked down on because we can not longer do the same things we used to do. Nobody is perfect and nobody has a right to stand in judgement of anyone.

 

I am occasionally reminded  by images on the news. CNN and MSNBC that there are people who have lost a limb due to war or born with no limbs or some other malady. 

 

I wonder if they are looked down so harshly due to their circumstances.  For what ever reason there is, we were dealt a faulty deck of cards with a evil joker card.

 

When I am confronted with a arrogant person who has no hidden skeletons in their closets . I ask them this question    " I wonder how you would deal with a illness that there is no cure for yet? In seeing that your so shallow and materialistic and judgemental  you probably will have a hard time coping.?

 

I just stay positive as I can.  I do have my good days and my bad days with this new card that I was dealt

 

Sincerely Ellen

 Thank you Kim  for getting back to me.  I am just sorry that I have not got back to you.  I just don't check this often enough. 

 

I am generally too tired or just don't think to get back to the Dr. Phil website.  Yes, I do agree with you that some elderly are the worst and judgemental.  Well, I have come the cruel judgemental types.  The ones you wonder what gives them that license to give their unasked opinion. 

 

 I am so inclined to say to them, well your elderly and slowing down and not as spry as you used to be. So, your judgements should mean what to me?

 

If people just think about what theysay  before opening their mouths and inserting foot.  There will be more harmony in the world, less misunderstandings to contend with.  Some people are just never happy or content with what is. 

 

If, I could erase this illness I would.  I didn't ask for this illness. Nobody does ask for a bum deck of cards. We just deal with what was dealt to us and cope with it.

 

I have learned to deal with judgemental people. I don't. 

 

 I just know that what I have  ,they could not possibly handle it.  This is my revenge on them.  I just tell them to walk a mile or a few steps in my shoes and see how easy it is for them? . 

 

Also, put some heavy wieghts strapped around your ankles and try walking with them and they wil surely see that they don't move so quickly.  I do not wear heavy wieghts on my ankles. but at times it sure feels like I do.

 

Their judgements and coments  are crude and have no merit and are unjustisfied  so  superficial.  We know that the world is full of these types of people.    I know I am not perfect or even close.  Their life being so perfect must be so  incredibily boring. 

 

I hope to hear from you soon.  You can contact me at  emullane2@roadrunner.com

 

Sincerely, Ellen Mullane
 
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February 15, 2008, 11:44 am PST

physically challenged


Hi guys,

First of all, I am a HUGE Dr.Phil fan! Never missed any of his shows. Read his books! I think he is the best. After I watch his shows he always gives me an encouragement in my every day life! You go, Dr.Phil!

 

I was born with osteogenesis imperfecta (brittle bone desease) and was wondering if anyone else on this message board has the same condition. If you do, just post a note and tell me about yourself and how you cope with it, whats your biggest challange etc.

 

Thank you,

 
 
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February 20, 2008, 7:44 am PST

cerebral palsy, chronic pain, exercise

 I am here to give and get support.  I have spastic cerebral palsy, arthritis and chronic pain.  Lately I have started a weight bearing exercise program for myself which I am very proud of doing.  It does not take the pain away but now the muscles hurt from exercise instead of non-use.  I also take prescription medication for pain and have found a combination that takes the edge off and still allows me to function.  I am very open to giving and getting support in the areas of chronic pain, arthritis, exercise, cerebral palsy, social interaction and self and body esteem.
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April 16, 2008, 9:50 am PDT

Fibro

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Thank you all for sharing.  I too dislike the term physically challended.  It makes what we live with sound too simple, like a neatly tied package. I am only 50 but have had moderate to severe arthritis for over 25 years.  It started in my knee when I was 20.  Now, it affects my hands, feet, both knees, neck and back.  For about 10  years now I have had to use a cane and when I go to the store  or anywhere I have to walk over 20 minutes, I have to use a wheelchair.  Going anywhere is a hassle because you have to plan almost every step to see if you can handle it physically.  You have to make sure the places are wheelchair friendly and many are not. especially the bathrooms.  What some places consider handicapped bathrooms is a joke.  It is getting so I just want to stay home most the time. 

 

Recently my family was planning a 3 day vacation to Philadelphia.  I just could not get excited about going. I used to love to travel and see new places.  Now I have to do so much reasearch to see if I can even access the places we want to go.  Now it is just such a big hassle that I do not have the energy to tackle.  We ended up not going on the trip because my husband became ill.  I was sorry he was sick but it felt good for once not to be the reason we did not do something.  I feel like such a burden to my family. 

 

Most days the only way I get things done is in 15 minutes increments.  I can clean for 10-15 minutes then I have to rest.  It  may take me all day to do the simplest tasks like vacuuming, laundry, and dishes.  I can't even walk the dog most days.  I miss that most because at least I was getting some exercise.  My weight is going up and up and I haven't been able to stop it.  I know it is my choice to eat what I do.  I get so discouraged and so lonely.  Sometimes I just pray for God to let me die becasue I am so tired of living with the pain.  I rarely go out with friends anymore and even going to church is a struggle.  It is just so amazing how much chronic pain takes out of you physically and emotionally.

 

I also have IBS, chronic pelvic pain sydrome, interstitial cystistis and I struggle with depression. 

 

 Sometimes I just sit and cry becasue it feels like I can not take anymore.  But I do.  I go on. 

 

Thank you for reading this.  It is nice to talk with people who understand. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hello all, (very few) but that's okay,

 

I have had Fibro or have been diagnosed since 1997 and I have sympathy

for all who suffer from it. It's so very hard to get people to understand the

person with the condition. However, my husband has been wonderful (thank God)

Also have had 4 back surgeries so it's so very hard to know if it's the old back

or the fibro acting up. I think everyone is somewhat depressed because of

the pain it goes hand-in-hand. The only thing that we can do is find a good

dr. and continue on as best we can. Look around there are so many people

even children who are so much more ill. I love life although it's difficult at times,

I pray a lot. Loved talking to you ladies and thanks so much for listening to my

complaining.

 

Fibro friend and listerner also.

 
 
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