Topic : Infidelity

Hello all

 

Well, it took an act of Congress to get in here and I am now almost sorry I succeeded.  This looks a great deal like Oprah and I NEVER liked that message board.  The only good thing I see is the spell check option.

 

Where are the archives?  Why did Dr P take the boards down for TWO WEEKS with NO WARNING?

Any chance to at least get some of the most recents posts back?  I have TOTALLY lost track and feel so sorry for those that posted just before the site went down.  They must be really frustrated.

 

I took a hint from some of the first members to return and updated my profile so I hope message order will not be a problem.  Best suggestion-let's return to the old format.

 

 

To read the old archives just go to the main message boards page, you'll see a link at the top right of the board that says Messageboard Archive.

   It is so sad that morals just don't exist isn't it?

 

  Be the better person and protect your son. He will benefit by seeing his mom fight for what is right.

  there really isn't a way to carry on with a post- you have to go find the original post to QUOTE it then put it in an entirely different Window, if you will. There is no continuation to this. This makes it very hard to follow along.

 Okay let me add to the b8tching...when you reply to a post or quote a post or whatever the heck it is being termed, the persons name is not there to refer to so you have to stop and go back and then start again! Too much work! Also, the outline was truly a great way to follow a subject or person or pick up where you left off the previous day or even last week.

 

   I think the powers that be will realize how hard this format is an change it to something more accomodating...eventually and then we will all once again loose track of eachother :(

so you would recommend me sue the school. how would i go about doing it?

i am in a custody battle with my husband because he wants to teacher, and is giving up

on me and our children.

do i wait till it is over or go ahead and get a lawyer to sue the school it is a private school.

i live in sandpoint about 5000 people and she is a slut in the neighborhood. the head teacher

knew of her actions and didn't condone it.

i want her fired so badly to make a point i will not allow my children to be hurt

  If you are already in a custody battle, it doesn't sound like he is trying to leave the kids behind ??

 

 If you have an attorney that is working on your marital issues ask that person if they can also handle this type of civil lawsuit and if not if they could recommend an attorney that can. You will probably be able to find one that will do it for a % of settlement. You need to make your case more clearly though; how did they get rid of your son. It sounds to me like the head of the school did CONDONE this affair behavior as they did not condemn it.

 

 being a private school they may have a more aggressive or stricked personal conduct manual, maybe your attroney could get their hands on that.

 

  How are you doing yourself? Do you have a support group for ending your marriage or for surviving infidelity?

well lets just say my life sucks. i have been in counseling for a year. this all started a year ago and i have been trying to get the family back together. He just doesn't want to do the work and he likes this girl alot and won't let her go. I had no choice but to file for my protection. my children are having a hard time. they are in counseling also. it is hard because i just put a restraining order on him. i know that our custody battle is only for one reason to get to me. He has never been the best of fathers.  The school has condoned the incident but hasn't done anything to make it better. the teacher is still their and it is like nothing has happened to her. so instead my 4 year old is having to deal with everything and i know that school thinks i will let it go i guess. She sees me and smirks at me when i last went back to that town one month ago. I did nothing wrong and neither did my children it was my husband and that teacher that has made the three of us suffer. I don't want revenge but i want them to know that what happened was terrribly wrong and those type of people should not be teacher young children  

I teach college, so the rules are different for me, I'm sure. I would think, in your case, that a phone call to her superviser might result in her being fired. It is a HUGE breach of ethics for her to have an affair with the married father of one of her students, especially considering that her actions have resulted in harm to one of her students (i.e. she broke up his parents and he had to switch schools because of it). You'll have to decide for yourself, however, how important revenge it to you and whether or not it would be revenge if you were to take legal action against her. I would probably stop at the phone call and let the school handle it from there. I wouldn't want to involve myself in the ugliness of a law suit. My first husband had an affair with a woman he worked with. They had both been reprimanded for the inappropriate content of their emails back and forth to each other but neither of them was fired. I certainly considered calling their boss and letting her know just how far it had gone in hopes that one or both of them would get fired. I also considered calling her husband and telling him about her affair. I did neither of these things. Ultimately, I decided that my energies were much better spent getting MY life back on track and taking care of my daughter. Besides, foul deeds rise. I figured she would get hers some day and I didn't need to to soil my hands helping that along. So sorry to hear you have to go through this. Just know, it does get better. You will recover. Good luck. 

I'd be happy at this point just to have the outline format option back. I think I could deal with all the rest. Perhaps that's an adjustment that could simply be added to this format without having to return completely to the old format although, I must say, I really enjoyed it and miss it. Oh well. Maybe they were trying to get some of us to stop posting so much by making it harder. Perhaps the good doctor thought we were getting addicted. ha ha.