Quote From: kellyjohnwI dont know what to do. Anyway, this is my story, I have been married for 4 years with one hudsome boy. All throught I really trusted my husband and I didnt even bother checking on his mobile telephone or even a surprise visit to his work place. Come last Thursday, my husband accidently left his cell phone charging in the house, it rang and then I decided to pick it. A female answered the phone but I didnt think much about it as I thought maybe it is just a workmate. Then I saw there was a text message on his phone and I decided to read it. To my surprise it was written. Thank you, I love you too.
My husband came back for his cell phone and i confronted him on the message on his mobile phone. He was breathing so hard and snatched the phone and deleted all other messages very fast from his cell phone. I couldnt do much about it as he left the house so fast and I didnt alert the nanny on what was going on. After a while I received a call from the woman saying that the message was not meant for my husband but later my husband admitted that he had a close "work" relationship with the woman who is a colleague. So my question is how can I know the truth? Please some one help me. Is there anyway I can be able to retrieve all the messages sent on his phone?
I talked to the woman and she agreed to meet me on the coming Saturday but she never showed up and then all of a sudden my husband informed me that the woman resigned and she will be leaving for Canada. I feel he is cheating to me.
You know what is going on don't you? Our minds have a way of trying to convince of things we want to be true. This is called denial, and denial kills our dreams and eventually can kill us if we persist in it.
Think about the events:
1. By your words, "my husband accidently left his cell phone charging in the house", I assume that he keeps his cell phone with him at all times, and leaving it behind is out of character. You may be in denial about it, but it also leads me to believe that you have been suspicious for some time. Your decision to pick it up when it rang bears this out.
2. A female answered. You were right not to think much, it could very well have been a workmate calling about work matters. Also, the text message COULD have been a wrong number.
However, and this is where noticing the actions of others tells you the real truth.
3. When you confronted your husband about the message, he:
a. Began breathing hard.
b. Snatched the phone from you.
c. Deleted all other messages very fast.
d. Left the house in such a hurry you couldn't go with him.
e.After a bit a woman calls out of the blue saying that the message was not meant for your husband.
This last one begs the question, did you know who the woman was when you saw the message on the phone? Or did your husband say who it was when you confronted him? If not, who did he know to contact about this, to have them call you and give you the excuse that the message was not meant for your husband? And if it WAS just a call from a woman at work on some work-related matter, why all the drama?
Does it LOOK like an everyday occurance? No, it doesn't. NOBODY, and I mean NOBODY acts this way if there's nothing to hide, and you know it.
Don't believe a word about her resigning and leaving for Canada. That's just another lie your husband is telling you to passify you into denial.
