Topic : Infidelity

 

   Condone- to accept /Condemn- not to accept

 

 

  It isn't revenge when you are protecting your kids and making someone accountable for a fall out to a wrong. Sueing the school is not revenge. If they ask that your child leave, but had that cheating teacher stay, it is not revenge to sue. Please, talk to an attorney about this, do not make your decision from a chat board.

 

  If this woman is smirking at you, you have even more reason to haul her butt and their butt into court. Let a good and aggressive attonrey help you get some modification to this situation! YOU should not be the one being belittled here, and your children deserve to have a better educaiton reinstated and I feel the other school should darn well pay for his educaiton now!

 

 

 

the restraining order is to prevent him from calling me or taking the children from me. he belittles me into telling me i have pushed him to her. My upsetness at him not letting her go over the past year i have been angry and upset. I tell him that when he talks with her it is like they are intamate again and my heart is being hurt. He says he cant stop talking with her.  I am not gone from town for more than a few days his car is at her house, they are boating together, talking, spending time together. It hurts so bad.  it has been all me that hasn't got the family back together. i feel used and betrayed.

 

i just want to set things right. Not get revenge but show this behavior is unacceptable and my children welfare have been the costs. i want this woman to no longer be teaching young children.

and this school needs to know that . the parents should know. the head teacher knows but has done nothing to make it better than to remove my childr. also i was told to pay the rest of the tuituion. i haven't but who know if my husband did.

 

i feel i wasted a year of my life, dealing with competeing with another woman for my husbands love and respect. being played with by her, and my childrens welfare being hurt. he tells me keeping the kids from him is hurting our children, but in my mind a father who does unethical behaviors needs to have limited visitation until he is a better role model for our children 

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years.  We have two children (our oldest was born before we married) and we now have a third on the way.  Having a baby is usually a happy moment in ones life, but I'm not feeling that way. 

About a month before I found out I was pregnant, we were on the verge of separation.  I believed he was having an affair (not the first he has been unfaithful) and wanted out.  We talked things out and he convinced me that things would change, more than that - he would change.  For awhile things were great!  He treated me exactly as he had before we had any issues.  What I didn't find out until later was that he was still calling the other woman.  When I asked him for the what seemed like 100th time he swore never to speak to her again.  Once again, I found out from him that he had spoken to her a few more times after that even.  I'm so bitter with him that it's really affecting our marriage and how I feel about him.  He acts so dumb and clueless about why I'm acting the way that I am.  I don't believe I deserve to be treated like this, and don't want to live with this anger any longer.  Top it all off, he is in a band (that's how he met the other woman in the first place).  Since I've caught him through his cell phone bills, he's begun playing every weekend when our agreement from day one was that he would play no more than 3 weekends/month max.  I'm thinking that now he is using his band as an excuse to meet up with her. 

Although I have no proof that he is in fact doing that, I've still told him that I'm unhappy with his schedule.  He works long hours during the week at his job then is gone for most of the weekend with his band. 

I know what I want to get out of my marriage and I am upset because I don't feel that I will ever get it.  I feel like our issues just keep building up, and nothing is getting resolved.  When and how do you call it quits when you have two children and are expecting a third?  I'm not even sure I want to put any effort into fixing our marriage, and feel it may be better just to leave. 

Hopefully this makes sense and someone can give me advice...there is so much more to my story, but I can only explain a little at a time...

I need anyone's advice on what to do about my brother in law. It is nothing new to my parents that my brother in law likes me, and i thought that they were just saying that. but a couple of weeks ago my sister broke her arm and she couldn't clean. When he would come home from work they would fight because the house would be a mess. ( mind you she has 3 boys that are 7 years old and a 3 year old and none of them listen) Well I got tired of listening to her crying about him, so i started going over there and cleaning making him think that it was her. When he found out that it was me he thanked me and was a little touchy towards me. I didn't think anything of it, until the next day when he called me and told me that he liked me and that he has been having dreams about me. I told him that he was married to my sister and that I loved my sister very much, and that I was very happly married and that nothing would happen. Now that he has done that I feel uncomfertable around him, and the clothes I used to wear I cant anymore because he has a coment about them. Another problem that I have is that my son loves him so much and my husband ( his step father) thinks that my brother in law is just trying to make himself look better than my husband. I don't know what to tell him and if I need to tell my brother in law to back off. Please help

ctackett01, you need to tell your sister, and not talk to your brother-in-law (bil). You may even want to ask yourself why you have not already done so. It sounds like he is a real jerk, and the last thing you need is problems with your sister. Families are forever, husbands/wives come and go in this day and age.

You need to have a talk in person with your sister, and let her know what was said. If he is hitting on you, he is probably doing as much at work, or wherever. In this day and age of STD's and HIV, you nor your sister can take something like that back. I hope this helps, and good luck

azimm31, not only do you not deserve this, your unborn child is none too happy when Mommy is not happy! Like the good doctor says, a child would rather be from a broken home, than to live in one.

In this day and age of STD's and HIV, do you truly want to take the chance of leaving your children as orphans? Obviously your husband doesn't seem to care. Like the old saying goes, a leopard can't change his spots, and although people can change, it sounds like your husband has no desire to do so.

You need to be thinking of your children as well as yourself. I know there are studies that will agree that when a mother stays upset during the pregnancy, it effects the fetus.

People can only treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Don't put up with this. He can promise to kingdom comes, but that won't change whatever disease he brings home to you and your children. I hope this helps.

2 months ago my husband just didn't come home???!!!  Our marriage had been in trouble for some time and I suggested marriage counselling but he wouldn't go.  He says he just wants to be left alone.  He is living with his waitress (although in a separate room)  I don't believe a word of the BS he is feeding me.  He flat out denies he is having an affair.  The problem I have is that my 15yr old daughter is now spending the weekends with him.  Although I ask how her weekend went with her dad, I don't inquire too much.  I have tried to get her to talk about the separation and have offered her counselling but she refuses.  I believe that she also knows there is someone else and is trying to hide it from me(she recently started putting her Dads things away at home)  She is telling me that she is just cleaning up.   What a terrible situation to put your child in.  Do I tell her that I believe there is someone else to ease the burden or do I wait until her father tells her the truth if ever?  I don't know what the truth is!!!  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I feel I should tell my sister but, there are a lot of things that is stopping me.  First of all she is on medication for depression, and I don't want her to end up in a mental inst. Next, after I told her husband that nothing would happen their releationship all of a sudden got better.  I feel really unconfterable around him but it is not like I can keep from seeing him. My son loves him to death and I know that my sister would be really hurt, and I don't want her to take it the wrong way and be mad at me?  Does this sound reasonable or does it sound like I am making up excuses?

You get em Real!!!  Great seeing you again, and looking forward to reading your post!