Topic : Lost All the Weight and Still Hate Your Body?

It is sad how the media promotes being underweight as something to strive for.  However, alot of poor body images don't come from media, but people that are close to them.  My mother influenced me in my poor body image and still pushes that unhealthy thinking on me.  I look back and was not fat at all in HS.  I gained weight after having my daughter and kept it on until having my son.  One year after having my son I had returned to the weight I was when I started college.  I have maintained it by healthy eating and a love for running.  Despite what the scale says I still see a huge cow in the mirror.  I know logically that I am in good shape and healthy weight, but still hate what I see.  The issue is far deeper than media influence and the numbers on a scale.  Definately working to improve my self talk!  I commend you on loving and being comfortable with yourself.  I hope to someday to be able to say the same! 

I started losing weight about a year and a half ago.  190 to 144.  Great right?  NOOOOOOOOO!!!  Everyone said i had lost too much.  I looked sick.  It wasn't me.  And on and on.  Well, in the privacy of my bathroom, I knew it was me.  Sickening stretch marks and this whatever it is around my waist that no amount of exercise is getting rid of.  I am disgusted by the "Thing" around my middle.  So, I thought "why am I trying when I look like crap anyway."  Gave up.  Gained about 15 pounds.  Then I realized I am very unhealthy.  so, here I am at it again.  Working out almost every day.  Eating the right foods, keeping track.  (I joined WW)  I'm glad I decided to start thinking about what i eat, but i stll, after six years will not let my b-friend in the bathroom with me.  I know he loves me, and i know he's seen "sneak-previews" of my body, but to just be like "OK honey, come on in and stare at my mammoth gut" is out of the question.  I avoid sex alot because of my insecurities, not because I'm not horney.  I would love to have sex in the middle of the afternoon, but that will NOT happen until this big hunk of flubber decides to leave.  Yes, it impacts your life.  Yes, i think about it EVERY DAY!  And yes, I have thought about surgery.  Finances don't allow that, so I know im pretty much going to have to find a way to accept my "friend"  around my waist and hips.  Just "hanging" out.  Comfortable right where it is with no intention of ever leaving.  Like a renter who refused to be evicted.  IT SUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!

I am experiencing the same problem unfortunately. Ate age 14 I weighed over 350lbs but I was able to lose 150 of those pounds due to eatting right and exercise. I was always worried about loose skin but I hoped against hope that it wouldn't happen to me. I've been trying to see what options are out there and praying that it's not just plastic surgery. I actually started a blog a couple weeks ago to document my struggles and to hopefully meet other people experiencing the same problem. It's really the elephant in the room. I give more details there. You can check it out my blog here: http://lifeaftertheloss.blogspot.com/