Topic : Reigniting Romance in Your Relationship

the two of you went on a carribean vacation? There is something about blue waters, strong rum drinks, and warm breeze, to make anyone want to be romantic.  If all else has failed, save your pennies and go on a short carribean vacation. If that doesn't work then you know it is doomed.  Good luck and get packing. :)  And for the record, no, I do not work in the travel agency business.  KIMI

My wife and I have different personalities.  She is a highly driven career woman and I am more laid back in my approach to life.  I've made mistakes and I've been downright lazy, giving in to depression..letting it sap my motivation.    She also feels I'm not "there for her" the way I should be.  I really want to be and it saddens me that she feels this way.  I feel like that capacity is within me, I just don't know how to let it out I guess.

  We've argued about this throughout our relationship, but now it has really come to a head.  She says she's not happy anymore and we sleep in seperate bedrooms.

We're in counciling...I just hope it helps us.  I love my wife and I don't want to lose her.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and pulled things back together?  Can you offer some advice?

Hello;

I'm 31 years old and have been married for 8 years going on 9. My marriage is on the brink of disaster and I don't want it to end. I have lied to my wife numerous times and hurt her so bad that she doesn't really know me anymore. I can't say anything to her without hoping that she will believe me in the end. How can I save my marriage and reignite the flame we once had 8 years ago?

First thing that comes to mind is:  YOu can't undo something that was already done.  You can redo something that was not done correctly.  If we break something, we try to fix it so that it resembles what it was like before it was broke. Sometimes it can recover 100%sometimes we have to settle for the broken but salvagable thing. Sometimes the darn thing just can't be fixed. Maybe not the right or strong enough glue, parts, inexperience. Maybe it wasn't that good to begin with which is why it broke? Or maybe it was very fragile and we didn't realize how much so.

The same with love and relationships. We are not going to do it right every time, or if we break trust, loyality, make bad choices, the relationship gets damaged, much like the crystal in the car trunk.....Next time we know what not to do, and what to do better, but it does not always mean we will get to do it with the same person/crystal lamp that we had once before.

If the relationship is over and your were left behind, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back on the track. Its the only way. Kim

Don't forget to allow yourself time to grieve the loss/change. It is very important to our self worth that we set personal boundaries, treat ourselves good, and to be aware when we are not. Your self esteem is hurting now, meaning it is how you feel in this given moment (looks, talent, our work, etc)........self worth is how we feel about ourselves in general. Our worth to society, others, ourselves, that can never be taken away. Tap more into your self worth and see that judgements can only last so long, but the beauty that resides within you can never be removed. YOu were born worthy!

I think i'm a sex addict i always think about sex, and i feel horny all the time and i musturbate everyday. i do have a boyfriend he does not like sex, he wants it once a week but i want to have it everyday, ican;t get enough of it......

does this mean am addicted? plz help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1