Topic : Reigniting Romance in Your Relationship

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  I 1st off wonder if this happens in every marriage. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. He used to be so nice, and loved to cuddle and etc. Now, it's nothing, really. We NEVER and I really mean NEVER cuddle anyone. I asked him last night if we could and he said "I was almost asleep, you know". Ok. The thing that I dislike the most, is the other day, a set of blinds fell on me. Instead of asking if I was okay, he started to yell about how I should have rememberd that they were broken. If I cry at something on TV, like a movie, "Why are you crying...it's nothing to cry over" I feel as though I can show NO emotoin around him. I am to the point of just wanting to go on a trip together, just to two of us ( we have two kids) and seeing if anything is still there. I must admit I am scared bc it doesn't seem like the love is there anymore. PLEASE HELP!

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  I 1st off wonder if this happens in every marriage. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. He used to be so nice, and loved to cuddle and etc. Now, it's nothing, really. We NEVER and I really mean NEVER cuddle anyone. I asked him last night if we could and he said "I was almost asleep, you know". Ok. The thing that I dislike the most, is the other day, a set of blinds fell on me. Instead of asking if I was okay, he started to yell about how I should have rememberd that they were broken. If I cry at something on TV, like a movie, "Why are you crying...it's nothing to cry over" I feel as though I can show NO emotoin around him. I am to the point of just wanting to go on a trip together, just to two of us ( we have two kids) and seeing if anything is still there. I must admit I am scared bc it doesn't seem like the love is there anymore. PLEASE HELP!

Tell him how you feel. BUT! don't use "you make me feel" instead use I'm feeling like this or that" example: Honey, I feel that we don't cuddle any more" or "I feel scared that there's no romance in our life anymore" . and " I really miss how you make me feel". I'm hoping that he'll catch the hint if you know what i mean. Try these samples and let me know what kind of response you get. Much luck to you!

take care and good luck.

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Well my husband and I have been married now for almost 7 yrs. come the 24th of Feb. We've been through alot. About 2 years ago, We had some "friends" of mine ( if that's what you want to call them) stay with us for about 1 year. Well We had just had our 3rd child, 2 months before that, We were having problems and I thought it would be nice for us to help others, and maybe help ourselves. Well my marriage was falling apart, and before I knew it I had an affair with the guy who was living with us. I knew afterwards it was wrong, but at that moment I didn't know how to act... I mean I'm bi-polar and I had been off my meds. for awhile, and I hadn't dated really til I was out of high school and out of my parents house. My husband has been married once before and had a daughter. That marriage didn't last very long, and he says it was his experimental marriage. We have been having alot of problems since then, we've moved about 5 times within the year, and we have 3 children, which the youngest lives with my parents because of all of this and because I wasn't takeing my meds. Now Im 5 1/2 months pregnant, and we've moved again. Im not sure what to feel at this time. I sometimes don't know what to feel about my baby on the way. My feelings towards my husband should be better, but we have these problems. My husband does know about the affair- after I left him for about 1 month to try to figure out what I wanted and how to support my kids, Well we ended up back together and all, but sometimes he throws the affair up in my face, and says about trust. Well I have a hard time trusting him to support his family. I mean my parents have supported us alot and it's time that they didn't. How do I make my marriage stronger, and better, like we were before we married?

I am 22 years old, married for a little over 2 years.  I have 2 kids, a 2 yr old and an almost 1 yr old.  So here's the deal with me.  I had my son when I was 20 and met my husband while I was pregnant.  We spent most of our relationship being very far away from eachother and I thought that it was a good thing bc we were spending our time talking instead of being physical with eachother.  So we got married when my son was 3 months old and he is a very good father to him.  After being married about a year we got pregnant and had my daughter.  Now things are ok, but they could be better.  Since we were already parents when we got married and we are very young, the parent thing completely took over!  He is constantly bugging me about sex and I never want to have it.  By the end of the day I am exhausted from chasing after 2 kids that I want nothing to do with him at all.  And when he tries to cuddle with me, I push him away bc once again I am trying to sleep and I feel very uncomfortable with him all over me.  Im not big on affection and he is so we are constantly butting heads.  We are at the point of not being physical whatsoever and honestly I dont even miss sex!  I mean he isnt bad at it or anything, so I dont know what my problem is!!!  Is it me? Is it him?  I love my husband very much and I want to make this marriage last a lifetime, but I know if things dont change then the lifetime part might not be very realistic.  I know there are alot of things that we did that we shouldnt have.  I know that we shouldnt have rushed into a marriage and having another baby.  I know that we went about it all wrong.  But the truth is, we're here now so how do I make sure that even though we made mistakes, we can stand here today and have a happy marriage and family. 

 You think looking at PORN is OK obviosly you have real problems and this message is nothing more than your sick way of trying to justify that. It is almost like you are explaining why it is acceptable for you to look at Porn perhaps for your spouse/partner. When someone as sick as you trys to convince others that it is right to be sick and twisted, just like you, then you need to seek help,and I pray you do not have kids. Marriage is not about talking about every bad thing someone does but rather looking at the good things and forgiveness. But there are things that can not and should not ever be forgiven cheating is one and when you stare at PORN that is pretty much what you are doing, do the math MR. SICK. Please seek help.