I have been married to the same man for almost 37 years. Seven years ago he started his own business. He convienced me to come and work for him as his receptionist. He has a girl working for him but because she was rude to customers on the phone and her personal appearance wasn't the best this was his reason for wanting me to come to work for him.
I worked for him for four years. June of 2007 she and I had an exchange of words over something I had ask her to do. I had ask her to take care of a fax I was expecting from a customer. Get the work out into the factory asap. she said o.k. and I ran the errand my husband had ask me to.
For several weeks prior to this she and I hadn't been speaking to much. The reason for this was she had questioned me about money I spent on the company at my husbands request. My husband has a partner who is the CEO of the company.
I mentioned this to my husband one evening at dinner. He said she was just worried about money and kinda passed it off. The next day he told his partner about what had happened and his partner said he would speak to her about it. He said it would be better coming from him rather than my husband because I was his wife. Supposedly he told her that she needed to show me a little more respect because technically I was a third owner in the company.
This made things worse between her and I. She just quit speaking to me all together.
That really didn't bother me because for 4 years I had been stepping on egg shells with her. My husband told me when I first started that on Mondays she would be in a bad mood because she drank on the weekends and was hungover on Monday, so don't speak to her until she speaks to you. He said everyone knew this and just delt with it.
To make a long storie short, The day that I ask her to take care of the fax she said she would and I ran the errand. When I got back she had gone to lunch. I went into her office and the fax was in the machine and the paperwork was still on her desk. She had not taken care of it so I took it and did it myself. When she got back she ask if I had taken the paper off her desk. I said I had and she started slamming drawers and mumbling to herself. I went to her door and ask what the problem was and she looked at me and said nothing and I told her I knew something was wrong so what was it. She got up and said she had work to do and to leave her alone. She then walked out into the factory.
I was boiling by this time.
In just a few short minutes my husband and his partner came back from lunch. I told my husband that he better find out what her problem was. He ask what went on and I told him. His response was "SHE IS WHAT SHE IS". I replied to him, Is this all you have to say and he repeated it. At that time I told him I was done and all he said was "Take your computer with you when you go"
I was so hurt, disappointed, mad and betrayed.
I started gathering up my things and our salesman (who overheard her & My conversation) came to me and said I couldn't leave. He said if I did he would too. I just told him not to do anything stupid.
That evening when my husband came home he told me that he and his partner had called her into the office and talked to her. He said she would probably come in on Monday and quit. He was very upset that she might quit and he said his partner was to.
Not one mention of how I was dealing with it, or he and his partner speaking to me Nothing. This happened in June. It has ate at me and still is to this day. I ended up in the hospital for a week in Aug. with the shingles and then a week later I had to have my gallbladder taken out. When I spoke to the doctor he ask me what was bothering me. I explained to him what had happened. He said that this was probably what put me in the hospital. He told me I need to express to my husband how he made me feel and get it off my chest.
I have not done this because I don't want to argue with him. He is the type of person who twist things around to make it sound like it is my fault and it just would end up making me feel even worse. I love my husband very much but this experience has affected our relationship. Our sex life is usually once a week and there is no romance anymore. He don't acknowledge my birthday, or our anniversay. When I ask him about it he says he gives me affection everyday. After 37 years of marriage wouldn't you think the man would know that a card or some flowers would mean so much or just a suprise every now and then.
