Topic : He/She Won't Commit!

While it is true actions do speak louder than words - you still can't ignore the fact that he told you he does not want a relationship right now either. He had a bad experience in his past relationship which you are paying the price for.  He is giving you mixed signals and words and you need to talk to him again about this "friendship" and clearly understand what it is that he is doing.  If he again says he wants to be just friends then you need to get your heart and emotions in check and realize that should you decide to continue in this relationship, your heart will eventually get broken.    Don't put all of your eggs in one basket.

I would limit my time with him and date other people and go out with your girlfriends etc.  You are in college and are young.  Your education should be your top priority.  This is a high risk relationship, he's told you that already.  If it was me, I'd say goodbye and tell him to call you when he is ready to try again.    Only you can decide how much you can handle and are willing to risk in the hands of a "friend"  who can't mentally commit to a serious relationship right now. 

Being friends with someone you are in love with doesn't work, normally you need to cut all ties and move on.

You really need to slow down.  I read your previous posts about your husband cheating on you etc.  Your focus right now should be about getting your life on track, taking care of your daughter and emotionally healing from your problems with your husband.  Have you two divorced yet????

This other guy has his own life.  He sees you when he wants to, he talks to you when he has time.  You need  get on with your life and if you two happen to hook up on a weekend that's fine but certainly do not wait for his call and do not call him.  You've only been kinda dating for 2 months and really haven't seen eachother very often.  Normally in the early stages of a relationship two people can't talk enough or stay away from eachother - I don't see that happening here.  I see a guy who lives an hour away who has a busy social life and sees you when he's got nothing better to do.  You need to do the same. If you were meant to be together, things will work out - if not, at least you haven't been sitting around waiting for him to call and obsessing in your mind what he's been doing.  This is a casual relationship and you need to treat it as one.  Move on with your life, go out with friends, do fun things with your daughter - don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call. 

This guy is clearly telling you that he can not give you the future you want.  He is not nice to you, he is not emotional with you, he does not want to work on this relationship - all he wants is sex a few times a week.  No strings attached!!! 

So you have two choices.  You can dump him for good, mourn this relationship, and move on when you are ready    or  you can put up with being treated like a door mat and continue in a dead end relationship which promises to go no where!

Are you the prize idiot?  Yes.   Do you need to look at the whole picture?  Yes.    Do you need therapy to find out why you can't let go of a relationship that is absolutely no good for you?  Yes.

You can't even blame him.  He is very clear on his intent, he has promised you nothing and has not lied to you.  You obviously think you can change his mind and make him be somebody that he is not.  Wrong!   The only thing you can change is your outlook on this so-called realtionship and know that you need to move on.  You love the guy that he used to be, not the guy that he is now.