Topic : 09/25 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 2

Maybe the reason the Mother-in-law was broought in was to get the children?  At least I hope so. Grandma needs to show up and get her grandkids out of that house and away from both parents for a while.  You know what I worry about?  I think those two should divorce, but man is that going to be an ugly, children stuck in the middle divorce.  Where are the other parents of the two older boys? The ex-husband and ex-wife? Why have they not petitioned for custody?

I was watching the show on monday about the Dr.Phil house and i dont necessary agree with moving the mother-in-law into the house. I thnk that will be talked about I guess on their next episode. That just seems to me that they have alot of talking and figuring out things themselves. By moving her in that I thnk will just add insult to injury.

this was my life with my x-husband and four children. the yelling screaming,and threatening every day. it was horrible for me and yes the children most of all!  finally i got the strength up and said i want a better life for my kid's and i. i made my husband after 16 long years leave the house. i have now filed for a divorce and happy to say i met mr.right. i'm happier but most of all my kid's are happy.  i know i should've left earlier but i wanted to say i tried my hardest.

Seems as though both have issues that were never resolved from previous marriages. Mental abuses are the most hidden due to the fact there are no physical signs. Anger left to it's own devices can be very distructive. Refusing to take responsibility for ones own actions can be a very distructive also. Until both admit to their own personal issues can their own personal healing begin. One thing for sure is that the children did not ask or do they deserve what they are getting now. Unless things change the cycle will continue

Where would you suggest he approch her at ......in front of everyone? At least there was more privacy there than anywhere else. Why not admit in a place where all her indisgressions had taken place......She wasn't ready to admit to anything....Sometimes ya do what ya have to do to get the needed results.......

      The couple in this house certainly do some loud, and in some cases unfair fighting. I can only imagine those poor kids who are at most 15 years old having to go through hell. I'm 36 and live with my mother and boyfriend, and, minus the physical abuse factor(except when I hit him every once in a while to try to shut him up about my mother), their fighting is just as bad if not worse. Today I cried for seven hours about this. I was forced to move from NJ to FL in June because the cost of living is too high in NJ for me to afford to live on my own. He bought a house down in FL and we moved in June. I'm proud of them for being able to get their first home and all that. But once in a while, they fight so bad it makes me scared, and I've had fatal attempts on my life a few times from people in the hood of Atlantic City and Camden, shall we say. There are issues with them not being married after 11 years, and who gets the house if he dies before her, etc. I've threatened to move back to NJ if one more fight like this happens in this house. They really don't care when I tell them that, even my mother. He cares about me and treats me quite well, but sometimes treats her(when drunk) worse than I treated those who tried to kill me. I can't really escape because this section of the town in FL is semi-rural. I have a friend in NJ whom I've seen for eighteen months, but they are not ready to move in at this point, and has some health issues of their own right now. I'm pretty much stuck here without a job, and the people who I interviewed with wouldn't take me(me being socially disabled may have a bit to do with that; I also left a job I had for a couple decades, who couldn't afford the raise I needed to stay in the quite expensive state of NJ). Sorry for venting, but that's what some people do here. Thanks.

This couple is so insensitive to each other, but mostly to their children! If each of them put the amount of negative energy into positive relationships with their children and each other they would not be starring on the Dr. Phil show!

 

I can't image how someone lives with themselves knowing that they have betrayed their spouse and their children. She must have a lot of free time to put into having an affair!

 

Thank you Dr. Phil, for calling her bluff.

All I would like to know is." What is going to happen to the children if their is a divorce?" Maybe someone needs to step in and control all of this. Dr. Phil I know that you will do all you can for these people, But I come from a divorce family and my parents put me throu hell and back for many years, a divores will not stop the fighting till all of the children are eighteen and moved out out their own. Than their will be no ties left. When my exhusband got a divore we still fought about the children and what went on in our marriage. He just would not stop blaming me for everything, so while he came to pick our children up for his visets he would start in on me. It all stoped when I remarried. My husband I have now controls the problem! He goes with me to take my children to thier dad's and he is the one who walks my children to the door. If it is my turn to pick  my children up the samething happens. My husband takes control. My ex won't say or do anything to affend my new husband out of fear! It works my ex can't get to me. My children still hear how I am a wrong person, a bad person and all I do is take all of his money. My children tell me these things and all I say back is sorry he fells that way about me and the money well you get everthing you want because I get his money to help out. My children by him is only eight and five. Oldest a boy, youngest a gril. So what I am tring to say is this! The mother in law may be just what this family needs! She can help by getting the kids out of their!

I am looking forward to seeing this. I myself was the mother-in-law set in a situation very much like this and am looking forward to Dr. Phil's words of wisdom when it comes to seeing your own child hurt like this. I know it isn't all the wifes doing that caused her to cheat BUT it is so hard to control yourself as a mother when you see your son hurt like this. I would have loved to see this show about six months ago! Now I will have to watch to see if I handled the same situation as well as I should have.  "Always room for improvement!" It is also nice to see a mother in the same position as mad as I was when this happened to my son. "I'm not saying it was right.....but.......emotions DO run high!"

I have to agree with both of you. Pain isn't something a person can handle like the text books but, as the next writter pointed out, we can't all turn into Lorena Bobbit when our spouse cheats on us either. I have heard both men and women say exactly the same views on cheating. Some go to extremes and some don't. It is the extreme that takes a bad situation and makes it worse......the saying 2 wrongs don't make a right. I don't think to many people out there condone cheating. Not to many condone what Lorena did either!