Topic : 09/25 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 2

What a delicious exercise it would be, though. What if Dr Phil used the "no vulgarity" as a means of showing how exlusively emotional his troubled guests were, and how little rational thought entered into discussions. Without the crutch of certain phrases or *&^%$ words, the powelessness of their arguement would be revealed. If ANYONE could do this it would be Dr. Phil.

If I can repeat from him,"we teach people how to treat us." It seems a cross between a monumental leap of faith and a decent first step.

Almera

  We have discussed this many times and have come to the conclusion that we were both emotionally immature when we married. She was raised not knowing that there were any consequences for improper behavior ( she was spoiled by doting parents), and saw no need to try to do the work required to change my attitude towards her.

 Yes, I was unapproachable in many ways. I was introverted, had low self esteem perhaps because I was raised in a family that did not show emotions of any kind. I was more concerned with making a living than anything else at the time. I loved my family very much but did not know how to show it. I was never physically cruel but I was demanding and very distant emotionally, which in a woman's eyes can be construed as cruel. If she gave me any hints about my behavior when we first married they did not register. As you know most men do not respond well to subtleties and hints. We must be hit in the head with direct statements.

Choices 101:

No one can complain about  you, that is if  you are making good choices. Why would they? So  you might as well make your choices good ones.  

It's pretty hard to save a marriage that began as an affair. I've seen other Dr Phil guests whose marriages began the same way. And, come on his show fighting like a pair of buzzards over roadkill.

Or, cars! Where I live, Northeast Georgia, anyone who parks their car at the lake is likely to come back and find the rubber around their windshield eaten by buzzards.

Back to these marriages that begin as affairs. Husbands? Your wife cheated  with you on her first husband. Can you really trust her not to cheat on you? Wives? Can you trust the guy who cheated with you not to cheat on you?

How can you say that it is his fault  because she did not keep her legs closed..... So far we have heard of 2 affairs she had on him.. and let's not forget last week she was denying it saying she was  so close to telling him she did so he would leave her alone that is her trying to put the blame on him Now i am sure that she is not completely to blame since it does take 2 to makea  marriage work.. But come on this is reality  she wants to play the victim.. JESSICA YOUR NOT THE VICTIM  THE ONLY VICTIMS IN THIS SITUATION IS THE KIDS YOU HAVE TOGETHER. Jessica needs to wake up her  8 yr old has said he wants to die to get away from it all and furthermore what kind of parent  admits on national tv she puts her own selfishness before her kids.. WHEN YOUR A PARENT YOUR KIDS ALWAYS COEM FIRST NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION IS.. I am soooo SICK of her trying to be the victim let's face it she is NO BETTER than he is and SHE NEEDS TO REALIZE THAT... If she didn't want the awful task of admitting to  todd she cheated then she should have kept her legs  closed liek any other  married woman  with morals and who took her  vows seriously...   SHE is to old to be playing house

Bottom line is neither one of them  care abotu their kids and those KIDS NEED TO BE REMOVED FROM THE 2 OF  THEM NOW  

The kids should divorce BOTH of them.  Sad to say, but there it is. 

Jessica needs a man, not a daddy.

Todd needs a woman, not a shrew.

HOWEVER, neither are mentally, emotionally or chronologically civilized enough to be with anyone else.   Both of them need to evolve and mature as human beings first. 

Their problems began long before they got together with each other or their previous spouse(s).

Dr. Phil, offer them the help they need (separately) if they want it but GET THE KIDS AWAY FROM THEIR BAD INFLUENCE.