Topic : Sex

There are tons of reasons why he is reacting the way he is reacting. One could be he is a selfish jerk, that only cares for his own pleasures, and if he is going to have to "work" for it, he is too lazy to do anything about it. 

Now here are some other reasons that very well may have some of the causes, only he knows for sure. There could be a drop of testosterone levels, or some medication he is taking could cause a drop in sexual desire. He should have his doctor run some blood work, as well as discuss the medications he may be taking. Another medical problem could be erectile dysfunction (ED). ED would be an embarrassing problem for a male, and if a guy is having that problem, he could very well become defensive and lash out at you to prevent from facing this problem with you. Of course he could be lashing out as a defense mechanism to any situation to keep from having to talk about it with you. 

Stress and exhaustion are other reasons to cause sexual desires to drop. You may want to think about  any changes in his job or some activity which may bring more stress into his life. Another reason of course could be another woman. Ever hear of the song "Torn Between Two Lovers?" You have given no indication, but I am trying to touch base with all reasons I can think of it being. 

Lastly it could be he has never had to, nor knows or cares about how much more intimacy can be enjoyed when shared between two people, and working ones way up to the climax can be more exciting than the actual climax itself. 

Communications is the cornerstone of any relationship, and that is what you should be doing. At some point in time, when there is no threat of actually having sex at the moment, (in other words you would not want to have this conversation in bed for example) you need to sit him down and have a talk with him about it, and not in an accusatory tone or manner. Talking about it during, or right before, or after would only bruise the male ego in him. Find a nice quiet time when the two of you can't be interrupted, and there is no threat of this being brought up in order to have sex at the moment, and talk openly about the situation, and again be prepared to listen more than lecture. Communicating is a two way street. Ask him his opinion more the just tell him yours, and hopefully he may just feel safe enough to open up. 

I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex! 

I work in a restarant and have some serious sexual tension going on between  my manager/bartender at work. We both feel it but have sustained from anything going on. I have been married for five years and don't plan on breaking that. I know the tension I am feeling is just the  undivided attention I am getting from him. What do I do? I love my husband more than anything. Is this normal? 

Here's something I'd like to know from you girls: 

Why did you choose men who wouldn't give you the time of night in the bedroom to be your husbands?  Was it that they made more money than the nice guy in your sociology class?  They had a better car than your high school sweetheart? 

As someone who was teased by females, lied to and cheated on, I have to say that it's hard for me to have sympathy for a woman who complains about a lack of passion in her marriage because I was the nice guy that you gals claim you wanted, but was always passed up for the jerk.   

Hence, I have now become that jerk.  It's hard for me to supress that nice guy.  However, if I want to get laid, that's what I have to do.  This is because you don't appreciate nice guys.  You abuse them.  You marry guys who don't really want you and it's sad that you make the choices you do. 

you don't plan on breaking your vows .  

But why ask what to do ? You realize its sexual tension you realize its the undivided attention. 

You say you love your husband , Then give him a call out of the blue  say * I love you *  

Each and every time you happen to have sexual tension due to someone other then your spouse , Think of your spouse , how much you love him , call him , write a letter or note to give him later ..  

Most important is to have as  LITTLE  to DO or SAY to this manager/bartender  other then work related ..If your still having these problems , Find another job , take yourself away from the situation . 

You know the reasons and you already know the answers .