Topic : 12/20 Marry Me or Else!

Yeah, it's an old saying, but it says it all. What man  will want to marry a  woman when he can get his clothes washed, home cleaned, dinner cooked and if there are kids, baby-sat? Wake up, please, and know that no man will marry a woman that lives with him. How many times do we hear the story of the guy that leaves a woman after living together for 10 or more years, and marries another one?

Believe me, kick him to the curb, or move out if it's his house, and watch how fast that proposal will come. And if it doesn't, move on......

It shocks me to think you may be serious. How do y ou go on living when a man doesn't want to marry you?

Do you have a job? Money of your own? Friends who will stand by you? A family? A cheap apartment you can find, rent and have fun fixing up? If not, get them.

Marriage is not a goal.  How do you show you can live without him if he says no? How do men live without women when THEY say no? They put one foot in front of the other and move on.

Sure, it's scary. Winning a million dollars can be scary. Getting a great job can be scary. Next year, if you are lucky enough to be alive, you can be having a great time doing all the above, or you can still be miserable and stuck with a man who loves you just enough for his own needs but not enough for yours. Your choice.

Hello,

I was in this same situation.  I was with a man for 5 years, we often spoke of marriage...he was not afraid to talk about it and fantasize with me about it, but would not follow through.  I finally told him that he had 3 months to make a decision about marriage and then I would have to move on with my life.  He did not propose and I have moved on.  In retrospect, I really wish I had made my choice much sooner...now I am almost 40 with no kids and am pursuing having a baby alone because of my age.  So ladies....get out while you can.  It is unloving to expect/demand something of someone that they are not capable of giving. 

What is your hurry to get married?????

The wedding and marriage is suppose to be special.

We cannot pressure our men to get married just because we want to.

They have to want to make the commitment.  If they are not ready, respect that.

Do you want to live happy or have your husband regretful and unhappy for the rest of your married life??

I have been with the same man for 7 yrs. and have 3 children. 

I will wait my whole life for my man to say,"Lets Get Married"

He respects that!

I know that I will get to walk down that isle soon and we will both be happy.

Is it the fact of planning the whole occastion or actually living as a family and do all the house playing role?  What is the hurry?????

I can't believe that Tony is thinking of getting suckered for a third time.  What does it take to get through to him?  Here is what you get after marriage:

1. "I am just not in the mood for sex."

2. "Don't forget that half of everything is mine."

3. "You'll never see the kids if you leave."

Today's show should have started with a clip from the show that Dr. Phil did where the women were explaining to their husbands how oral sex was okay before the wedding, but not anymore.

There is no upside to a man getting married.  If Tony is worried that she will leave if he doesn't get married, then he should keep in mind that marriage does nothing but represent a transfer of his wealth to her.  She can leave him just as easily after the wedding as she can now.  The only difference is the size of the cheque.