Topic : 12/20 Marry Me or Else!

Well first of all God says that you are playing house because He tells us not to have sexual relations before marriage.  So if you are living with a man than most likely you are  having sex with him so you are already going against what God tells you to do.  Yes you still have struggles, not really all the same struggles.  Let me explain.

If you wait to have sex with a man before you marry him then you will build a stronger foundation.  You will get to know him, build a friendship before you become completely intimate with him.  Sex is like superglue, God intended sex to help us become more intimate with our spouses, it was a gift that we give to our husband after we are married.  If you are already living together and not married you can no longer give this gift of sex to your husband, which means it cheapens the gift of sex that God intended you to give to Him on your wedding night. 

Since there is not a real committment, ie marriage, yes it is a piece of paper, but it is more than that it is a committment.  It is standing before witnesses and God and saying out loud I commit my heart and my life to this person.  If you are not married you haven't done that and so that breeds an atmosphere of "this person could walk out on me at anytime", which creates an underlying feeling of distrust.  Waiting for marriage to have sex or living with your husband to be, allows yourself to know that your future spouse is willing to sacrifice for you by waiting for your hand in marriage.  If a person is not going to sacrifice for you, that means put your needs above their own before marriage, then they probably won't do it in marriage. 

You have the same struggles,but your struggles are underlined with trust issues and committment issues which exacerbates the problems, you can't see it, but your heart knows it and it is felt in your spirit, that is how God wired us.  You can try to do things your own way, but it won't work really, there will always be an underlying sense of insecurity in the relationship. 

God tells us that it is never too late to do the right thing, God is longsuffering He patiently waits for us to choose His ways and when we do He blesses us for it.  The best thing you could do is to get married, if either of you can't do that then what I have written about is true, if you can than God will bless your marriage.  God is for marriage He is not for living together.  God is not a killjoy, He wants the best for us, He knows what is best for us because He created us.  And if you want to know how something works look to the inventor you will get all the answers. 

His best is that you get married.  If your mate will not marry you then ask him to move out, yes it will be a hardship on both of you, but you know what? God will provide for you in amazing ways, just honor our Lord Jesus Christ and He will honor you back.  God doesn't promise that we will never have hardship, but He does promise that if we do things His way He will reveal Himself to us more and more and direct our lives more and more to His ways, which are always better than our own.  God uses trials to strengthen us and He will use this trial to strengthen each of you to make you more like Him. 

Well first of all God says that you are playing house because He tells us not to have sexual relations before marriage.  So if you are living with a man than most likely you are  having sex with him so you are already going against what God tells you to do.  Yes you still have struggles, not really all the same struggles.  Let me explain.

If you wait to have sex with a man before you marry him then you will build a stronger foundation.  You will get to know him, build a friendship before you become completely intimate with him.  Sex is like superglue, God intended sex to help us become more intimate with our spouses, it was a gift that we give to our husband after we are married.  If you are already living together and not married you can no longer give this gift of sex to your husband, which means it cheapens the gift of sex that God intended you to give to Him on your wedding night. 

Since there is not a real committment, ie marriage, yes it is a piece of paper, but it is more than that it is a committment.  It is standing before witnesses and God and saying out loud I commit my heart and my life to this person.  If you are not married you haven't done that and so that breeds an atmosphere of "this person could walk out on me at anytime", which creates an underlying feeling of distrust.  Waiting for marriage to have sex or living with your husband to be, allows yourself to know that your future spouse is willing to sacrifice for you by waiting for your hand in marriage.  If a person is not going to sacrifice for you, that means put your needs above their own before marriage, then they probably won't do it in marriage. 

You have the same struggles,but your struggles are underlined with trust issues and committment issues which exacerbates the problems, you can't see it, but your heart knows it and it is felt in your spirit, that is how God wired us.  You can try to do things your own way, but it won't work really, there will always be an underlying sense of insecurity in the relationship. 

God tells us that it is never too late to do the right thing, God is longsuffering He patiently waits for us to choose His ways and when we do He blesses us for it.  The best thing you could do is to get married, if either of you can't do that then what I have written about is true, if you can than God will bless your marriage.  God is for marriage He is not for living together.  God is not a killjoy, He wants the best for us, He knows what is best for us because He created us.  And if you want to know how something works look to the inventor you will get all the answers. 

His best is that you get married.  If your mate will not marry you then ask him to move out, yes it will be a hardship on both of you, but you know what? God will provide for you in amazing ways, just honor our Lord Jesus Christ and He will honor you back.  God doesn't promise that we will never have hardship, but He does promise that if we do things His way He will reveal Himself to us more and more and direct our lives more and more to His ways, which are always better than our own.  God uses trials to strengthen us and He will use this trial to strengthen each of you to make you more like Him. 

God does not fix people's problems and believing that he does, I think will lead people to disappointment.

You talk about the woman giving sex as a gift to a man. Is sex a gift for a woman from a man?  And why do you only talk about it being a gift for a man?  You make it sound like men can have sex before marriage, but women can't because it's a "gift" for the husband. 

And if it's true, that the poster you are responding to is not Christian....then I agree that this will not convince them to get married.  You see, there are many other religions out there and not all believe the same thing.  This is simply YOUR point of view and I don't think it will help the other poster at all.  You sound more like you are preaching than giving advice.

I say, that as long as two people are living together and if they don't want to get married, then they shouldn't.  What's the big deal?  So they live together, but aren't married.......who cares?  If they are happy and it is not a problem for BOTH of them, I say let them be.  However, if one wants an acknowledged relationship (marriage) and the other doesn't then there is a problem.  I can't tell anyone what to do, but I can say that if they know what they want, they'll probably know what to do.

 I'm a Christian too, but the poster you responded to doesn't have the same beliefs.  I don't think a religious diatribe is going to endear her to you, but drive her away.  God doesn't want someone to love him because they HAVE to, but because they want to, it's the gift of free will.

That applies to the marriage thing, you don't want someone forced into an unhappy relationship when they're not ready.  They have to come together mutually, with no qualms or hesitations.  Otherwise, the relationship is a joke, all one-sided.  Anyway, just a fellow Christian's thought.

You are right, God does not fix our problems, He patiently waits for us to do things His way and then He honors us for our decision.  I talked about the women giving sex as a gift, but it also applies to the man as well.  If God says to wait to have sex until after you are married, common sense tells you that He is talking about both the man and woman because we don't marry ourselves.  Okay I didn't implicitly state that, but that is what I meant to say.

This is not MY point of view, this is God's point of view.  And whenever anyone reads God's point of view, especially if they are not Christian, will always see it as preaching.  My point is not in giving advice,but in calling attention to what God thinks about marriage.  I realize that people have all different kinds of beliefs, but God doesn't care about that, what He cares about is the truth and that is what I wrote about, His truth. Just so happens I agree with His truth.  If you don't like His truths then don't read or respond to my post. 

Who cares is God, He cares what we do with every aspect of our lives.  YOU may not agree with that, but it doesn't matter if you agree with it or not, it is the TRUTH.  Jesus says I am the TRUTH, THE WAY AND THE LIFE!

You can't tell anyone what to do nor can I, but I can tell them what God thinks about the matter.  If they so choose to heed what He thinks then they will be blessed for it, but if they choose not to then that is their choice.  God gave us all free will, which means we have the right to choose His ways or our ways.

I simply posted God's point of view and hopefully they will consider His point of view, if not then they are exercising their free will that God gave them.

Great you are a christian too! Praise be to God!  I realize that the person I responded to does not have the same beliefs.  I responded with what God thinks about marriage.Sometimes there are people out there who need to know God's truths about marriage.  I speak boldly for Christ and christians such as yourself should not come against me.  We do not know how close or how far a person is from receiving Christ, it is our responsibility to share the messages of the gospel.  This message just happened to be about marriage. 

I NEVER said anything about anyone having to love Him--why did you add that into your post.  I talked about how God views marriage, that's it!

If two people are living together and they are happy then God would rather have them married.  If they do not marry each other He would rather have them not living together.  Where did I say that people should live in an unhappy marriage? 

My post simply stated God's views on marriage because He is the one who originally instituted marriage, not man!!  I realize anyone reading my post who is not a believer is going to be offended, but that's okay because you know as a fellow believer that just mentioning the name of Jesus offends people.  I was delivering God's viewpoint, not my own.  As you stated people have free will, they can choose to read about God's viewpoint on marriage or they can ignore it.  If they ignore it then they will suffer the consequences associated with that. 

I am also not saying that all who are not married and live together are unhappy.  The issue is not about being happy or unhappy, the issue is about living our lives God's way or our own way.