Topic : 12/20 Marry Me or Else!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that as long as everyone involved is on the same page.

I didn't have a problem with you spreading the message.  What I did take issue with was the way you did it.  I don't think a nonChristian would respond well to paternalistic sermons.  I never said i was okay with her situation, but as Christians, we should use tact.

It seemed that you were trying to force something on someone, when that is not the way to recruit anybody.  They have to take Christ into themselves and want to change and transform their lives.

I was talking about the marriage thing, because our relationship with Christ is mirrowed in our marital relationships, and also ties into the topic of the show.

As a Christian, I'm not "going against you" but merely questioning your approach to the poster as something that would draw her in, or drive her away, and it seemed that it would more likely repel someone, than draw them in.

I'm trying to relieve the conflict and make peace, because she is our sister, and the peace leads her to us.

This is certainly one of the saddest topics for any guy to read.  Marriage is a complete financial, emotional, and social negative for any male.  Whatever it might have been in the past, (if any better) it's now about woman who make less money than you, have less education, are younger and have less job experiance, taking your wallet and house when the leave with YOUR kids.

I can't believe any man would put up with any woman who wanted him to sign a poison oppressive contract like anglo-saxon marriage.

This institution should be dumped like it's other great 19th century peculiar institution, slavery.

If you haven't been able to get married after 13 years, "he's just not that into you!" 

Be Strong Women!!!  You don't need to have a man to be a good woman, or to have value.  You can be a whole person without a man in your life.  Don't make a man validate you.  Have confidence to live your own life the way you want to. 

I am 56 years old, and I just got married for the first time last year.  I wasn't looking, I was completely confident in who I was, and I was very happy spending time with myself.  I am happy being married, but my husband does not define me as a person.  I am able to do whatever it is I want to do, but we also have a lot of fun together.

Find someone who wants to settle down.  Believe me they are out there.  It is extremely difficult.  But, what have you got to loose?

I find it annoying when others say "God wants you to do this".  You do not know that for sure, you really do not.  Living together before marriage has got to be one of the smartest ways to go about it.  Of course not for EVERYONE, some people will disagree of course.  It is important to do what is right for YOU and your partner.  But it seems these days we have evolved, and evolving is fantastic.  Change is a good thing, it helps us grow and mature.  People who cannot see that have very closed minds.  Not living together before marriage is a thing of the past.  We have evolved to recognize that moving in together and then getting married if both people see fit, is definitely the way to go. 

What if you get married and once you are living together you cannot stand eachother?  I'm not talking about minor problems that can be solved, or even major problems that can be solved.  You could realize you've made an awful mistake.  Why not realize that before you walk down the isle?  Be smart!  Check out your options before marriage. 

I'm not saying everyone should live together before marriage.  I just don't think it's right to say that that is wrong "according to God".  I don't care if you do not live together before, so you should not care if I do.

Don't even get me started on the "no sex before marriage" nonsense.  Wow.  I can't even imagine how many people get married only to realize there is nothing there physically....

Anyway, do what is right for you, but saving big events until after marriage, in my opinion, is asking for trouble.