Topic : 12/19 Generation Rx

I would say to him those are pretty heavy statements of accusation and you feel he owes you some insight into them so you may improve yourself, if nothing else.

 

Dr. Phil has often said replace a bad habit with a good one. I found I was able to get off a pot addiction (30 years ago) by getting into a physical activity and having some goals in that regard. Does your son want to get off drugs, and if not, what is his reasoning?

 

I also remember being anxious at one point. Offer him a safe haven, your house or otherwise. I believe a pyschiatrist told my father I was a good boy and to be kind to me. Kindness works wonders. I ended up living with my parents for the next 30 years and cared for them both during the five years they each needed it. They both basically died in the house and the journey of those years was very gratifying. We have kids in a crazy world and expect them to somehow adjust and be happy with it. In truth you have kids for yourself and given the circumstances it is logical for them to ask why. In ages past families stayed together and didn't have to seek out strange and removed friendships. The money I saved in rent was extraordinary and life has turned out very nicely for me. I thank my parents for that as well as the pleasure of their company through those years. This is from a guy who once was so stoned during the day he slept down on the embankment of a freeway just to have a place where he couldn't be found out.

When a person goes into treatment for anything from Alcohol, Drugs, Gambling etc-one of the biggest issues is "what about my friends?"  You need to have a united front with your family to continue the treatment after leaving the facility-going to meetings, random drug tests, one on one counseling for the addict and the family members.  It is very hard because the addict cannot see that the "friend" was actually part of the problem by enabling-whether it be by supplying, or denying to the parent/guardian of the addict.  Here is an example that I have seen:

The parent/family of the addict contacts the other parent/family of the friends.  Tell them that the child is being treated for the addiction-go into details-pot, OTC meds, etc-give dates and places where child was getting the items.  Explain that until further notice, you do not want their child to contact the addict. No email, phone calls, pages, text messages, letters, contact through other friends etc.  Explain that under no circumstances will any of those things be allowed to take place.  Also, be prepared to get a temporary restraining order.  This can and has been done.  (Check with the laws in your town/state/provience) .   Most parents will have no problem with your requests, but  Be ready for the whole "not my kid, my kid would never do that, you are pushing your problems on my child etc".  Turn to the support network through the treatment facility/support group-ALANON, AA, etc .  There are plenty of other parents that have gone through this and are more than happy to support you in protecting your child.   If you have to, as I have seen send a certified letter in the mail to the childs parents, explaining what has gone on if it is too hard to face them.  I have seen parents who have taken the friends to funeral homes and asked them to pick out what they wanted their friend to be buried in and if they want matching caskets because that is where their child is headed if they do not get treatment. 

Unless that child and their parent/guardian is prepared to go to the meetings and abide by your rules, then they have no business in your childs life.  Have a unitied  front with your family to protect the child. 

 

Kids die from over the counter meds because of misinformation. They watch the news, or read an article in the paper, or browse the internet, and see all this hype about cough syrup. All of these sites claiming that there is a rampant outbreak of "OTC" drug abuse.

So lets take Timmy here -->:), Timmy wants to try something new, he watches the news, "kids getting "high" on nyquil and other allergy medicines", so timmy goes down to the store, buys some crap, drinks it, pops it, and dies. Very sad. Maybe if he knew that he could try a drug safely,  (because try to be honest with yourself for a moment), because most drugs ARE safe to do, he might not have died. He might have known that antihistamines and decongestants kill you, and know that there are only about 5 or 6 out of the 60 some cough medicine preperations that are safer (without extra ingredients) can get intoxicated from without dieing, he might have known what to look for. Instead you are all lumping it together, do you even know what chemical kids look for in cough syrup? Probably not, you probably havnt researched the subject at all, you would rather all sit around at your computer, typing in your pearls of wisdom and shoulders to cry on to one another about you sob stories of failed parenting. I dont know any of you personally, and thats unfortunate, because I'm sure you are all wonderful mothers and fathers and what not. The thing that surprises, and scares me the most though, is how much you all buy into this stuff. Your taking one thing (dextromethorphan), and blending it with another(heroin and crack.) And this story with Christina, or whatever her name is, its a hoax, a story, its propoganda. No DXM abuser would drink two ounces of syrup a day for 4 years, it makes no sense, that wouldnt make sense with any kind of drug abuser. Theres such a thing called tolerance everyone, even for a first timer, 2 oz. would rarely give anyone a "buzz" or "high drunk feeliung" or whatever it is you people think it does.

This "OTC" craze makes no sense at all, google "DXM", and get some real information,  this web site is so completely skewed and misinformed ive been doing a lot of laughing. But the chances are that this message will be deleted shortly so i dont upset anyone, or it might not make it to the boards at all and filtered out. So this was a waste of my time i suppose, oh well, at least i got that off my chest.

Best of luck to all you clueless parents. 

             some parents have something to do with the way their kids choose to live their life-but not all-- im 41 and my son is23-- i have no ideal where his drug uses came from-- his dads genes--i guess-- my parenting wasnt perfect whose is- but i have no control of him-- people tell me to kick him out and some say if you do it will only make him worse-- besides me and my husband i supose my son only hangs out with drinkers and drug users-- i LOVE himSO much he wont get help-- i took his car from him -so he walks-- he wont work-- where his little bit of money he does have comes from im sure NO-GOOD. he is a machanic-- but gets fired-- because when he has money he spends it on high-- im so sad- and sick-- he is so sweet and loving and careing when hes not high or coming off of a high-- but he wont get help--he was raped when he was 15 and will not get help for that. thats why i cant kick him out-- husband might move out if i dont kick him out -my 14 yr. old daughter will be affected by this too-  DRUG ABUSE is SOOOO BADDDD it hurts so many innocent people... its been a year since hes worked-- his stepdad wants him out-- what to do - why should i have to choose- huband or son-- of course my son comes first - but will anything change if my husband leavrs... i want my son to get on with his life-- he wont change and doesnt think he has a problem

Hi!  I am Stephen's mom -- the first guest on the show that Dr. Phil attacked so hard.  If I made as much money as Dr. Phil does, then maybe $29.99 x 365 days x 4 years  (a total of $43,785.40 plus tax) might seem inexpensive.  But one of the things that Dr. Phil chose NOT to tell you is that I am a single mother with 3 children.  My ex-husband doesn't pay child support and I have been unemployed for the past year and a half.  I sell on eBay just to try and pay the bills.  There are days when I can't scrape together $2.00 to give Stephen lunch money -- much less come up with $29.99 a day for drug tests that don't work. 

 

I did take Stephen to a professional clinic and have him tested.  That cost me $60 and he tested negative for everything, even after school administrators and the Sheriff's Department SWORE that he was on drugs.  If Stephen can beat that test, I know he can beat the $29.99 drug store tests, in spite of what Dr. Phil implied.

 

Another thing that was taken out of context on the show was the amount of money my son had and how I should have known that he was selling drugs because he always had more money than I did.  We weren't talking about hundreds of dollars.  I was talking about the days when I couldn't come up with $2.00 for Stephen to eat lunch.  Some days I couldn't  come up with $1.00 for Stephen to buy milk.   I felt horrible!  But when I apologized to Stephen as I tried to scrape together pennies and nickels, Stephen would hug me and say, "That's alright, Mommy.  I have money.  I can buy my own lunch today.  Don't worry about it."  He never had $50 or $100 or $200 as Dr. Phil implied.  It's just that he had $2 when I didn't.   Was that supposed to alert me that my son was selling drugs?  I don't think so.  To me it just meant that he had probably not eaten lunch earlier in the week and saved his lunch money.  But to Dr. Phil, if Stephen had $2.00 and I only had 24 cents, I should have immediately known that my son was selling drugs.

 

If only all parents would be all-knowing like Dr. Phil . . . 

As a 13 year teacher at the elementary level I KNOW that 8 times out of 10 kids are the way they are because of what they experience at home. It's a fact! You're right. in some instances there are biological factors. That's why I say 8 TIMES OUT OF 10.

 

I know exactly what this teacher is saying because we experience parental influence on children DAY IN AND DAY OUT.

 

I know, now, if you choose to respond to my message you'll say something about how "I must not really care about kids" or  you're "thankful that I don't teach your kids because I'm so uncaring, ignorant, and judgemental" The truth of the matter is that it breaks my heart to see so

many parents tune out or even undo the positive influence we teachers try to impart on our young people. I could tell you story after story after story that illustrates my point. So could every other teacher out there.

 

I could talk about home visits I've done and how my colleagues and I can practically predict which of our students' criminal activities we're going to read about in the paper when they become teenagers because we couldn't get through to their parents while their kids were still little.

 

We, teachers shouldn't judge? You shouldn't judge until you've "walked a mile in OUR shoes"!

 

I couldn't have said it better myself!

 

How DARE the cough syrup guzzlers take the spotlight away from the heroin addicts.

 

Seriously, I'm so glad Dr. Phil did this story. As a parent of an 11 year old I'm thankful to be armed with any information that can help me be a better parent.

As a teacher I'm appalled that you were told that your child's presence at school could not be confirmed until the next day!! What is the name of this school?! Where is it located?! This is absolutely inexcusable! It makes no sense! What school would not ask a parent the child's name, check records to see what class the kid was supposed to be in, then call down to that class to see if the child was there? It would take about a minute and a half!

 

As a parent, why did you accept this!?  

 

 

I don't know what advertisements show up in different regions or if many are the same, but.......I found it very ironic that, during this particular episode, one of the sponsors was Gummie-Vites. You know, children's vitamins packaged as gummie bear candy. What does THIS  say about Dr. Phil's or CBS's credibility? Really, should medicine be being packaged as candy!?

I can't find the post, but someone wondered how Christine (guest on show) could hide 50 pounds of vomit in her room. I have an eating disorder (anorexia),  I don't purge but I know many people who do and hide it in their room in bags and haul it out on garbage day. It's very humiliating for them. But bulimia is an illness. The audience looked disgusted when Dr. Phil mentioned it. Well I can assure you that it's not something that Christine or anyone else would be proud of. It's sad. I felt so bad for Christine. I hope her treatment works and that she doesn't walk out.

 

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