Topic : 09/29 Wedding Dos and Don'ts

  I aggree with the writer.  If you have much is expected.  I'm so SIX AND TIRED of you RICH hollywood families that can have all the bells and whisltes.  I wonder how many children in Durfur your extreme wedding costs would have feed the small children who are hungry.  I would really had admired you and respected you if you had done something for these folks.

How do you know that was the wedding of the bride's dreams?  Why do people assume that a big production is everyone's dream?

 

My dream wedding would be a small, simple, intimate affair with only our immediate family and very close friends in the presence of God.  But, if my parents had their hearts set on giving me a bigger wedding and including others in the celebration, then who am I to take that away from them? I wasn't an easy daughter to raise. I owe them a lot more than just giving them the opportunity to give to me. I admit, I would probably try very hard to convince them to save their money for my sister's wedding. But, failing that, I would indulge them. 

 

Now, how would I feel about the groom's family offering to throw a wedding that my family couldn't afford?  I would feel awful for my family because they wouldn't want to deny me a 'dream wedding' or deny the groom's family the joy of giving a bigger wedding to their son.  That's why I appreciate the graciousness shown by Erica's mother.   

 

 

The bride seemed pretty happy about the whole deal. If she was embarrassed by the lavishness or expense of the wedding, it wasn't apparent. We can only go by what we saw which was an edited version of the day and there is no evidence that anyone involved was unhappy or resentful. We have no idea how much Dr. Phil paid for or how much Jay and Erica, who have both made some significant earnings, paid for, or how much may have been donated. So my point is, we should not CREATE drama in somebody else's life. With four daughters, maybe Erica's parents were pretty darn happy to have in groom's parents do so much!!

 

You SHOULD have your dream wedding. I had 75 people at my wedding and I thought that was perfect. But I don't go around criticizing someone who has 5 or 500 guests.....it's not my business. Not everyone has to do things MY way! What a radical thought!

I am very happy for your son and his new wife.  However, I was distressed that in showing the planning of the wedding and the wedding itself that the bride's parents were seen very little.  It appeared that Robin and the bride did all the planning and that the bride's mother was totally left out.  Is that because the bride does not get along with her mother?  I realize that the McGraw family must have paid for the wedding, but I think it would have been nice for the bride's mother/family to have been "showcased" more.  I believe that a wedding is for BOTH families.  A lot of brides leave the groom's family out -- I was surprised that (it appeared) the bride's family was left out.  As a mother who is planning my daughter's March wedding, I would be very distressed to be left out of the planning process and to be a guest at my own daughter's wedding.  Also, we are including the groom's family in everything and the pictures should reflect that.  In other words, we will have pictures taken of the groom's family just the same as the bride's.  This is a union of two families and both are equally important.

DR PHIL AND ROBIN THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR SON AND NEW DAUGHTER IN LAWS WONDERFUL HAPPY DAY.  YOU ALL COULD HAVE JUST QUIETLY AND PRIVATELY HAD THE WEDDING BUT YOU INCLUDED YOUR FANS. I FELT LIKE I WAS THERE IN IT ALL.  I CRIED WITH YALL AND I LAUGHED WITH YALL.  I GOT MARRIED JUSTICE OF THE PEACE AND OH HOW I WISH WE COULD HAVE HAD A NICE WEDDING.  I DREAMT OF A WEDDING DRESS SINCE I WAS LITTLE BUT HUBBY AND I HAD TO GET MARRIED QUICK CAUSE HIS LAWYER SAID WE HAD TO FOR THE REASON OF HIM HAVING CUSTODY.  WEVE BEEN MARRIED 12 YEARS AND I STILL LONG FOR THE WHITE DRESS AND ALL. MONEY IS TIGHT AND ALL SO I JUST LOVE WATCHING OTHER WEDDINGS.  JAY AND ERICA ARE SO MUCH IN LOVE YOU COULD SEE IT WRITTEN ALL OVER EACH OTHERS FACE.  GOD BLESS YOUR WHOLE FAMILY DR PHIL AND ROBIN. 

GIDDY PLEASE ERICAS MOM AND DAD WERE RIGHT THERE IN IT ALL.  IM SURE THEY HAD ALOT TO DO WITH IT BUT COMON IF MY DAUGHTERS FIANCES RICH AND I MEAN RICH DAD AND MOM WANTED TO USE THIER BEAUTIFUL MANSION I SAY HELL YEA.  YOU SOUND LIKE A PETTY PERSON AND JUST COMPLAINING TO COMPLAIN.  ERICAS MOM AND DAD WERE ON THE SHOW BUT PERHAPS YOU WENT TO THE POTTY HAVE A GOOD DAY AND CONGRATS ON YOUR DAUGHTER AND LET YOUR DAUGHTER PLAN HER WEDDING YOU JUST PAY FOR IT. LOL

NOW LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT WHAT YOU SAID I LOVE THE BIG TADOO DR PHIL AND ROBIN PUT ON FOR THEIR SON. WHY SHOULD THEY KEEP THERE RICHES TO THEM SELVES THEY HAVE WORKED THEIR BUTTS OFF MAKING THEIR MONEY. ME AND HUBBY ONLY MAKE 500 A WEEK AND THAT IS NOT ALOT THESE DAYS.  CANT PEOPLE JUST BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS EVEN IF THEY ARE'NT  RICH HOLLYWOOD FAMILIES.  AND DR PHIL AND HIS WIFE ROBIN DO GIVE TO HUNGRY KIDS AND KIDS WITHOUT STUFF. DID YOU NOT SEE THE SHOW ON THE KATRINA KIDS WHERE THEY WENT AND GAVE AND GAVE AND GAVE.  SO I GUESS YOU DIDNT SEE THAT SHOW HUH?  THERE IS A 10 COMMANDMENT FROM THE BIBLE THAT SAYS "THOU SHALT NOT COVET THY NEIGHBOR" IN OTHER WORDS DONT GET MAD FOR WHAT THEY HAVE, DONT BE JEALOUS OF WHAT OTHERS HAVE. JUST BE HAPPY FOR PEOPLE. 

THE REASON DR PHIL SAID THAT IF JAY DIDNT MARRY ERICA HE WOULD ADOPT HER IS BECAUSE HE LOVES HER CANT YOU READ BETWEEN THE LINES IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH HER PARENTS, DR PHIL WAS JUST COMMENTING THAT THEY LOVE HER AS A DAUGHTER SHEESH MO NETTTY!

I totaly agree with you , i also sent in a message with the same dissapointment. I would have been devastated if my daughter had done this to me on her wedding day

Sorry, I don't agree with you. If the bride's parents didn't want to be on TV or involved in their daughter's wedding I would think that a psychiatrist could find a way to get that across to his viewers. From all appearances, it seems that the bride's parents were just excluded from the preparations.