Topic : The Other Woman

"I did not step into her life. I want nothing to do with her. " 

Yes, you did.  Her husband is a PART of HER life.  If you wanted nothing to do with her, then you should've left her life alone. 

"There is no way I am responsible for his extramarital affair." 

I bet when you got in trouble as a child, you blamed the friend you were with too..."but mom, patty made me do it.  I wouldn't have been there if it weren't for HER..." 

You may not have taken the vows with her, but that doesn't excuse you from treating people with common morals and decency.  What about his kids??  You didn't birth them.  Are you not going to have ANYTHING to do with them either?  No interaction?  If you didn't have anything to do with their existance, you better not have anything to do with them at all.  Or, is that different, because it suits your needs differently? 

I hear what you are saying, I really do but I do not feel that I should be held responsible for his affair. 

You were a part of it.  So, how can you NOT be partially responsible? 

I have no problem with her being in the picture as long as she knows her place. 

OMG!  Now I think we are being played by YOU.   You DIDN'T just say that, did you?  As long as SHE knows HER place??  Sweety, HER place was with her family, still is. 

The only thing you are right about, is that their problems are THEIRS.  But, how do you think you are helping the situation by being involved?  It's THEIR problems, THEIR marriage, THEIR business.  I hate to say this, but you seem incredibly naive, or are just playing us here.  I hope you are just playing games with us here, because if you ARE this naive, we'll eventually be seeing you on the 'cheated on' board. 

There is no way she is standing in my way anymore. 

Yes, there is.  It's called reality. 

Because you were the other part of THIS extramartial affair, remember, it takes two,  whether you like it or not you are partly resposible.  It doesn't matter if he made the first move and started this affair or not, If you knew he was married or once you found out he was married, you should have done the adult, mature and responsible thing and gotten away from him instead of tangling yourself in this web.  Had you done that you would not be dealing with so much bitterness in your life right now in trying to claim someone who was not yours to claim in the first place.  Now you are simply dealing with the consequences of your actions.  It doesn't sound like he forced you to be with him, and if you went into this affair knowing full well he was married, then you are now just simply living the reality of the affair and aftermath that you helped create not the fantasy you wish you had.   

There is no doubt about, this is a horrible situation for all parties involved.