Topic : The Other Woman

You are 100% correct in SOME on your comments.  He is too blame for his lack of respect for his family and his wife.  He choose to believe that the grass could be greener (most of the time, it's not!) and he is the one that took the vows.  But you as a human being also should have morals and you dare sit here and say you have no problem with what you did and no regrets.  Well I would have a reality check here Miss, because if the tables were turned....you would be smacked in the face with hard core reality.  He is the unfaithful one...YES BUT you too know it was wrong to be with a married man who has a family and children and having no regrets does say a lot about your character.  She does have every right to hate you and hate him, she wants her family back.  But if she only knew, he is better off with you than with her.  Because you two apparently have the same morals.  I am not saying everyone is perfect, NO WAY.  But you too need to take responsiblty in part of this as well.  Not for breaking up the marriage, because that was his doing but for the lack of respect for another person's feelings.  

I do agree with you, men are always looked at as boys being boys.  But it's us women that let them think this way.  I WOULD never think of you or someone in your position as a whore or homewrecker, it's the cheater that is the whore and homewrecker!  That burden is NOT on you.  But like I said.  We do make choices and you choice to be with a married man.  Yeah I see he lied to you about where his marriage really was.  But until you are in this position, you can't speak for his wife or her husband because you only know him as your mistery man but not as the one that came home to his family.  I know people stay together for the kids sake, I too am divorced with children and we talked about that as well.  But it doesn't work and we all know it.  The kids need parents but they don't have to live in the same household to still be a good parent.  She may have taken it all for granted but he still was the wrong person in all of this.  And the only reason I seem to come down on you is because you sit here and say you have no regrets.  But if you knew about all this before, wouldn't you have changed it from the beginning.  If he wanted to leave, he would!  No doubt.  She can't force him to stay.  Nobody can force you to do anything....so if he really truly wanted to out of this marriage, he would be.  And in regards to your wrong doing.  SInce you didn't know about the truth to begin with, I can see how you are not wrong either.  BUT you do know and you still sit here and blame her for it all and how she treats him.  Well I guess she pushed him away into your arms, but that doesn't mean she deserved to be betrayed and lied to.  What type of man are talking about, you are acting like he is worth all of this.   

You seem to keep bringing up her faults in this.  You dont know who it truly is in that house.  Either way, he is putting up with it.  He is not leaving, he made his choice and I am sure it sucks for you.  He has played everyone against each other, dont you see that.  Of course he never said anything nice about her.  Therefore you know her faults and only her faults.  Don't talk about someone you don't know, it's not fair.  His behavior is sick and unforgiveable.  I would have kicked him to the curb by now.  But she is naive enough to think that just because he is there, he is there for her.  Apparently he is not sure what he wants in life and can't stand up for anything.  You, her, kids, marriage, happiness?  So why talk yourself into staying in love with someone like this, when you should distance yourself from the man you thought you knew and realize who he really is.