Topic : True Love

i am almost 46 and have this year been married 28 years with four sons and two grandsons. 

  

i've never been in love but something tells me it can happy to me if i were in the right place at the right time. for all of you who have found it, i think that's just awesome. 

My son, who is 8 has a friend who is a 10 year old girl who lives across the street from us. I suspect that they have crushes on on another as they spend almost all of their free time together, she meets him at his bus stop and walks him home, they have "Eat overs" in place of sleep overs, and when he is sick - she comes over just to sit and watch tv with him for hours on end.  For Christmas my son got a snowboard that he was desperate to give a whirl on Christmas day.  Most of our snow had melted but there was still a bit of icy snow next to our driveway.  My son's friend told him to get on the snowboard and get balanced, then she bent down and grabbed hold of the snowboard and proceeded to PUSH him down the hill... no easy task I assure you.  I asked her why she was willing to do it... she said, "I just like to see him happy"... a lesson in love for sure. 

:) i absolutely love this story. by the time i got to reading the last few lines i was smiling so broadly you would have thought i was in a room full of people instead of in my room alone. beautiful and yes...just wanting to see someone be happy is definitely a less in love. :) for sure.

True Love: Im  military wife 27 yr old. and been married for 4 yrs. Feeling True Love is a good thing but even the best relationship still can have its problems even though there is love. I also had been divorced and found a love online. We both got married and we two where from different worlds. But the more you get to know a person and depending on your invironment you are in, it can change if your not careful. Sometimes one or the other can be changeing with out you knowing if you dont talk about it. Even though there is Love in the relationship. Sometimes people may not think always talking is important enough. But holding it in, even the littles things inside can be a big thing ina  realtionship if its not attended to by each other. No person is the same no matter how we think we may fit. Love today people think its just a feeling but sometimes we dont know how to love in every thing we do tords one another. Thats ONE of the biggest things i feel marriages lack. Especially knowing the true meaning of  True Love.

Im 27 yrs old and i met my second husband and it is True love also we are inseperable but yes its not perfect there are days Im happy, angry and confused when we dont expect them to act a certain way there will be dissapointement. But if they can see that and both spouses make it better just supporting each other is enough. True love is a wonderful thing as long as you maintain the love. Its worth it. Key thing is keeping the relationship alive and positive. 

I was married when i was 18 to  my High school sweat heart. We dated for two yrs. and was married for three yrs. I loved him dearly and he loved me. But the longer we was together we became more like friends cause we both liked the same things and that wasn't our problem. i guess what I'm saying IS we grew apart as far as a husband and wife should be. I was the bigger person and asked for a separation. I thought of my life and asked myself  where do i see ourselves together. And i tell you i didn't see what i wanted for me. It hurt cause neither one of us cheated or anything like that. But we needed to grow and that wasn't gonna happen with each other. I became the bigger person and i saw it as saving me and him years of unhappiness and struggle. i Loved him very much and he loved me he didn't want to do the divorce. But we did. Believe me it hurt like hell. But you know why and you had reasons. and its just saving yourself from a bigger waste of time and mistakes when you can start over and do better next time. Especially when you are in your younger yrs.  But i wont regret the happiness we once shared and thats fine with me. I agree with one of your repliers If he really wanted to he wouldn't care what any one thought true love stays  and no one gets in between it. He can finish school living wit his wife if  he wanted to there are options. If it cant happen because of money then thats something that needs to be discussed maybe a student loan, he has no income? no support?Student aid? Bank loan he can continue Education. He can succeed as long as he is serious But if it seems he wants to get over with school now then he will loose his wife but i tell you two yrs is long and not a happy one especially when the separation is not necessary, its foolish. Sad to hear his dad is putting such ultimatum on his son when he is already married. You need to think about you, in this matter and what you willing to put up with. Are you willing to let people Use you? Till they ready to notice you as a person. You might have to  be the bigger person here. But remember you may fall but you can always get up. You can use the time to find yourself and rethink your life even through a separation period between you guys will stir up thoughts. In his head weather he really wants to loose you or not. But he knows he as well would have to make a decision that caters to the marriage. If by then he does not then you divorcing sad to say that word may have to happen. Its all how you are feeling as a person if you think its best. So you can move on and make better choices with out any silly ultimatum's involved. Females mature faster then men and thats a fact.

I'm 27. It Sounds to me you need a close friend that can get you through this maybe a few close ones. To help get your mind of this man that isn't really there for you. Its true you cant depend on a person who isn't there for you if thats what you base your marriage on. Some people get married to people they match but know there are sacrifices, when it comes to support. But if the sacrifices are to extreme it needs to be addressed. Now if they cant be met to the point each other are happy, then there isn't much love as you think there is. Or maybe it sounds like you are controlling and need to be constantly with him emotionally then i suggest some self esteem support classes or just strong friends. Another part of your message to me sounds like you developing obsessive behavior  be careful it  can lead to some one not loving you (no one likes a leach) as much and will turn yourself more into a greedy monster of love. If he cant see that it is hurting you mentally, physically and emotionally  then he needs to be told.He is your husband he suppose to help change it if that isn't happening and he seems not to care to much about it then you need to get yourself your confidence back. He is not the only man out there. You need to know your better then that. Are you able to go with him on any of these business trips? is it not an option? I don't know your plans as a couple every one should have one if its not going by plan then as far as building a life financially and lovingly then you need to take action regardless of your so call love for him cause you seem more in pain then in love. You need to just do it and not turn back. You don't want to be suicidal you are depressed and depression and obsession is one of the signs. Do not allow yourself to go to the point of seeing a physic. and getting on those meds they will make you worse and make realty weirder just save yourself and the left over sane sense you have left over and get out. Cause by then the one you are left to really love the most is yourself and when that happens you see clearer and can start fresh. Try a Counselor see how far you guys have come. You might find out differences you didn't really know about that the counselor might get out of you both. even confessions.

After five years of being with the man I love, I asked him to leave. I uncovered a few lies he'd told, he bought me a wedding ring and said I could have it when I was a size 10, I was a size 18 at the time. He became mean to my kids and didn't go to work for more than 4 weeks in the last 6 months. He seemed like Dr Phils flake, faultfinder and moocher all rolled into one. Having the man I love in my life and knowing he didn't love me made me decide to ask him to leave. A councellor we went to said it was an abusive relationship and we should have a break and try again from the beginning. I would have done anything to make him happy, but no matter what I did it was never good enough and I never understood why.He found someone else within a couple of weeks of leaving and has a new family, new house,is working hard and loving life, living close by,this lady's child is at the school where I work. I see them daily and I don't know how to let go of him. I still love him as much as before. I thought I'd feel better ending this relationship, I thought the pain of never being good enough would stop if I just got him out of my house.I didn't expect this to happen. I'd give anything to have him back, at least I had a chance while he was still here. Its been 4 months since I asked him to leave, now I've had a rest from his demands, I feel like I could do better now and can see many things I could do or say differently. The pain of watching him happy with someone else is destroying me. I've stayed away from them and wished him well, but I am driving myself crazy with self blame and hating myself for giving up on him. Obviously it was my fault when he is so happy with someone new. How can I love someone who doesn't love me?I feel like I've ruined my life and want to learn how to fall out of love. Can anybody give me stategies for getting over this man and being able to go to work and shop in our town without anxiety attacks or crying everytime I see them.

The man you see happy right now is someone different.  He was not the SAME man you were with.  He decided to change his ways, and for the better but he didn't do it with you.  That is a huge slap in the face of reality.  He didn't help relationship and apparently was ready to move on, as he did so quickly.  What is there to love?!?!?  He is a jerk and is not worth crying over anymore.  Dont' think of the good times, think of the reasons why you kicked him out in the first place, and how he cleaned up his act (who knows for how long though) for someone else.  NOT you!   

WHo needs a man that gives you a ring but you have to be a certain size?!?   

Hello no...let his other woman have him. and in time she will realize he is still the jerk that you were stuck with until you wised up! 

A good marriage takes two people to make it work. Don't beat your self up over this guy who showed you no respect, he was basically manipulating you to give you what you would have liked to have, if he truly and honestly loved you then he would have given you the ring regardless of your size. Unless this guy has gotten help to resolve his inner problems, he will eventually do the same thing to this other lady, when she starts failing him in certain areas, he will do the same with her and even if he doesn't, there are better men out ther then him. Love and respect your self and know your self worth and don't settle for less then what you are worth. You have a heart and you deserve to give it some one who is deserving. Enjoy life and your children, life is much better then what this guy had in store for you, believe me, I dated a few guys who I thought was it but after seeing right through them, I am glad that I never ended up with one of them. I was 28 when I met my now hubby, I was 29 when we married and after almost 13 years of marriage, I am glad that I waited for him, he was certainly well worth the wait. Good things come to those who wait. Believe in your self and forget this person, you are wasting your time thinking about him, he certainly isn't worth your time and day by the sounds of it.