Topic : True Love

is really good to be in love but for me i have been lonely for long now and am looking hoping to find someone......please if u are interested pls mail me on judeukaruchi@yahoo.co.uk.

I am new here-  I hope it is ok to post here?

Well-I believe in true TRUE love-but it has not happened for me- yet.     There are so many negative messages  out there that I am trying to ignore them and get the negative voices-and tapes-out of my head-But it is NOT easy-

True love is a true blessing and even more of a true blessing to 'find' and meet some one -like a magnet-a strong magnet-

I have been searching for him for years- Now it is time for my other half to search for me- After all-true love tkes two!   Where are you-my true love?

Hope all is well and I hope that  is it ok to post here and that I did a good job!!  LOL!!  My first time!

Bye

My suggestion to you is not to look for your true love but be yourself and enjoy life. The one  for you will come when he is suppose to, if it is meant to be, it will happen. Life is too short to waste on wondering and  wishing.

Hey NYC homegirl....

 

Just to give you a frame of reference...My wife Jane and I met at 33 years old, and since then it has been the best ten years of our lives. Every day is better than the last, but not as good as tommorow....So don't put a timetable on this...you are just terrific the way you are...and when it happens, it happens...

 

Your first post is fine :)

 I was 28 when I met my hubby, 29 when we married and 37 when I had my first child, 39 when I had my second and absolutely no regrets. True Love is wonderfulw hen you know it is the right one. Certainly worth the wait.  :)

As I look thru all of the messages on the bord under Marriage...I am saddened to see all of the unhappy people. Do you realize that there were only around 750 messages under TURE LOVE? I wish there were more. I am 32 yrs old. i am happily married to my best friend of 15 yrs. Now, don't let that fool you! We have only been married since 12/27/05. We have a son that will be 13 in OCT. We dated yrs ago, but when I became pergnant, we broke up. He was not a father to his son for many yrs. I asked that if he could not be there full time not to be there at all. We remained "friends" but he was not involved. I lived in a different state and he was busy making a life in the Entertainment industry. I moved on...or so I thought. I married a man when my son was 3 yrs old. We were together for 5 yrs and had a lovely daughter. She was the only good thing that came out of that. He was abusive and cheated on me the entire 5 yrs. I waited and married a man I had known for some time. Little did I know that after we had 2 children, I did not know him at all. I was wife number 11! After the shock wore off I tried to make it work until he found someone else. I decided that at 30 yrs old and 4 kids i would not live my life sad! So, at 2:30 am I paked all the clothes I could and all four kids in my Suburban and drove from South Texas to Las Vegas, NV. That trip almost killed me and really opened my eyes to alot.
So, you ask WHY LAS VEGAS? lol Well...my husband now and an old boyfriend lived there. They were friends and I called the ex-boyfriend to see if I could "hide-out" until I figured out what to do. You see...my parents were swindled by my husband and they were on his side. Even trying to get him custody of our babies the yougest was 9 months old. Don't be too hard on them...they have come to see the light. They love me still...lol
Well...when I got to Vegas after 42 hrs on the road, I called my son's father to come over. That was the first time he laid eyes on his son. Just a month befor his 11th birthday. The first words out of my son's mouth was Hi DAD! I cried he cried...we all cried. When he walked up, he wrapped his arms around me and for the first time in yrs I felt all of the feelings rush back to my heart.
1 month after I went to Vegas My son's father moved to New Mexico! Which was great with me. I had a divorce to resolve. That was September of 2004. I moved back to TX and started divorce proceedings in DEC of that yr.
Well...our son went to stay with his dad for the summer of 2005. They had a blast! He sent him home to TX and said that he would fly down for his 12th birthday. He did! In Oct of 2005, He flew into Houston and was rushed to his first PARENT/TEACHER conference...lol We then headed to a Kid's Karoke  place for the party. I begged him to get up and sing. He laughed and said that rela musicians don't KAROKE! He did it anyway! lol ( the pwr women have over men is CRAZY) When he was up there singing I could not take my eyes off of him. It was like yr before when he would sing to me and only me at a concert. My grandmother, cousin and sister-in-law all leaned over and asked me why we were not still together. Baffeled I stuttered and stammered that we were best friends now and I would never mess that up! They laughed at me...lol
Later that night we sat up talking about our son and what he had become over the yrs and the regret that he felt for not being there for us! US? hmmmm...I began to really see him in a different light. My divorce behind me and my pledge to never date again...sort began to fade. 3 days later I had all of my children at the house and beds were now limited. I offered for him to share my KING SIZED bed with me. He said ...sure! Now dont get the wrong idea...nothing happened. I slept on my side and he on his. THAT NIGHT! lol Well...the next night when we went to bed we lay in the dark just talking about life and kids. I cried about some of the things that I had gone thru as a single mom without him there to help with his son. He put his arm around me and I laid my head on his chest. That was comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. I would look up at him and he would look away! Finally, he kissed me! AND WHAT A KISS!
I blocked out the yrs before when we were together, so for me that was like a first kiss all over again! We both decided that was where it would end. He went on home to New Mexico and the phone calls began. I think we talked for hrs at a time online and on the phone. We really got to know each other again. So, in Nov I went to his house for Thanksgiving with his family. I decided that I had 8 days to see if something was there or not. I told him that I would put my whole heart into it for those 8 days and if he did not want me when I left he could tell me then. I professed my love to him and he said that he did love me but was not IN LOVE with me yet. My heart did crack a little. But I had survived worse. He did say YET!
I left his house at 5:30 on a Saturday after Thanksgiving. By 7:15 he called to tell me that he had a flight to Houston in 19 days and he was spending Christmas with us! All of us! Kids and me! I was on Cloud Nine for those 19 days!
He arrived on Dec 16. That was a wonderful day! We spent time with all 4 of my children. Something that we did not do much of when he came in Oct. After 6 days of instant family..lol he told me that he had fallen in love with me all over again. He did not think he could do it that fast but he did. He said that he had to know if the other 3 liked him before he could give his heart away again. You see our son is his only child and he never married. So, on Dec 22 he proposed to me and 5 days later we married!
I feel like a princess with him. he loves me drama and all. He loves my kids and they him. We have moved form TX to New Mexico and have begun to make a beautiful life. I finally married my one true love. He has allowed me to become the woman that I always dreamed of being and when I do something a little goofy...he smiles and says how cute I am! I love this man with all of my heart! I do believe that if there were award given to the Best husband and father in the world it would have to go to him. Sorry Ladies...i am partial to my hunny!
I am sad that everyone can't feel the love for another person that he and I feel for each other, It saddens ne to see all of the hurt and anger from people towards their signifigant other. I know that this one was very long winded...that is me! I am sure that there are some misspelled words in here...it is 2:24am and I am awake waiting for him to come home from work. lol But I HAD to say what I said because maybe it will inspire someone else to make that jump!
God Bless you all!

Sorry...i had to post this little comment...I will make this one short...

WHAT IS LOVE?

I believe that love is what is left after the lust is gone. Sure, you see someone and you think you r in love...but when you look back...you see that it was their eyes or their smile or their laugh...or for some of you their butt...lol But that is all out of LUST! It is when you see them at their worst and you still think what a beautiful person they are that you realize you are in love and there is no turning back! Have fun you all! I am sure I will get some commments on this one! lol
God Bless you all!

That is a silly thing to say. some ppl are loose with those 3 words. I hear it all the time from ppl that I hardly knwo. You know...Love ya bye! When lust is faded and you look at the person your are with and say WOW! My goodness! That is a beautiful person. Then you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are in love and it is the real thing.
Maybe you feel that way because you give into the pleasures of lust before you know someone and when you get to know them and you have already "given in" so to speak you see that they are not the person that you thought they were and you were blinded by your LUST! then the guilt of what you have done sinks in and you feel terrible about it. You have said I love you and now you know you did not meant it. When you find someone and they genuinely say and mean that they are in love with you you may be so cold and bitter against the love Vs Lust idea that you  push them away and you end up losing out.
Just be careful!
God Bless you!

Christen...GREAT TOPIC...

 

Its difficult to define love because it is *at best* an ambiguous word. I love my first cup of coffe in the morning, but not like I love my wife, ya know?

 

Maybe its easier to define what love "isn't"...my favorite example of this (even though I am an Aethiest) comes from Paul's letter to the people of Corinth....

 

Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited...It is never rude or selfish It does not take offense, and it is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.

 

Man...those are great words

Those are great words.  I feel that if more people took the time to live by those words there would be less strife in marriages.  You do not need to be of any organized religion to see the truth in those words.  We will be celebrating 15 years of marriage this year because of what love isn't.  I feel those words can also apply to family relationships as well.