Topic : True Love

Is it possible that she is starting to go through early menopause?  Women tend to suffer from depression, lack of sex drive, anxiety etc...

If not, there has to be a way she can put how she feels into words.  Maybe she just does not want to hurt your feelings but there is a reason she is no longer attracted to you.  Naturally we all age, did you gain weight, did you lose your hair or let yourself get to the point where the sight of you repulses her?????   I would suggest that you get into marriage counseling,  as this issue could ruin your marriage especially since you want to be intimate with her and she has no desire to be intimate with you.  Sex is 90% of a marriage when there is a problem, but only 10% of a marriage when there is no problem.  I heard Dr. Phil say this but I'm sure I did not quote his words 100%.

I am a total believer in true love, and love at first sight. It happened to me and my husband. It's like finally surfacing for air. I think people that don't believe are the ones that have never experienced it. A lot of people think they have been in love, but soon find out they haven't.

Fabulous Roxy!

I think it's one of those things that either 'is' or 'isn't.' 

We knew it in 15 minutes.

We were right.

I've asked a few older people that are still together and still in love and the say the same thing. They just knew, and they knew right away, and 40, 50, 75 years later they were right.

It's a wonderful mystery.

Enjoy every second.

What does any one think of the post I left- About true love and disability ( or disabilities)-

I asked somebody this last nite-

Hoping for a response and your feelings about this-

I have been told that no man would EVER want me because I have a disabilty-And I have been told by people that unless I had alot of money-no man would want me-

I have also heard that people with disabilities  will never find true love-

II talked briefly to a counselor last nite before we were disconnected-But I will NOT ever forget what she said- 

You've heard people with disabilities won't find true love?...

You live in NY right? Well, as a fellow NYer let me tell you how to handle someone who would say something so boorishly inane...with your best brooklyn accent...tell them to "Go F*** themselves"...

I know that I am not your favorite person who posts here...but for this, I want you to listen to Richard...Every pot has a lid. Beleive me when I tell you that right now, at this very moment, there are many guys who would *love* to be in your company. I don't know what your disability is, and frankly it doesn't make a bit of difference in this case. ...You're having trouble finding true love? Well that makes you like everybody else. If it were easy there would be nothing special about it.

Your thoughts and actions define you. Not your disablity. That is what will ultimately determine who your "lid" is...Just be you, and let the chips fall where they may...and listen to the Supremes "You can't Hurry Love"...

You pose a very good question because most people will become disabled at some point in their life. Disabilities are not necessarily something you are borne with. 

There are a multitude of different kinds of disabilities.  Some we can easily see physically others are hidden in the personality, character and behavior of people.  Disabilities do not stop love at first sight nor do they stop true love from happening to people.

One of the most recent and famous true love stories with disabilities is about Christopher Reeve.  Reeve was famous first for playing superman but was paralyzed during an equestrian competition and was confined to a wheelchair for the remainder of his life.  Christopher Reeve became a spokesman for disabled people and his wife remained in love with him until the day he died.

Reeve later admitted that he briefly thought of suicide after realizing the extent of his disability. He credited his wife, Dana, with pulling him out of his depression. She told him, **"You're still you and I love you."** Reeve has often said that these were the words that saved his life.

What makes you…you…?  The uniqueness of your personality, the high moral content of your character and the dignity and honor of your behavior are what make you who you are.  It is these qualities of a person mixed with a positive, adventurous, and passionate attitude that really make the essence of attraction and eventually true love. 

I believe of all the countries in the world to have a disability in the USA is the best.  In America we work at removing barriers in society that oppress the emotionally, mentally and physically disabled.  States that are not actively removing social barriers for the disabled can be oppressive. In the USA we have the freedom to choose our attitude, choose our behavior and move forward to pursue happiness. 

Yet, here is the thing…no one is going to just hand out our true love to us.  There is no line that we stand in and wait to receive our portion of happiness.  We must pursue it, get a plan of action and act on it.  We must work at it until we get it. There will always be challenges and risk and adventure and yes eventually some sort of disability.  These things should not stop our pursuit it should inspire and make us more determined more committed.

My journey is now pulling me in another direction so this will be my last week to visit this board.

I have enjoyed reading and responding to the important value based issues here.  Sharing and articulating my thoughts and feelings with you all has been rewarding for me.  It has reaffirmed in me that we are all in this together.  It is our willingness to do this hard work together with dignity and respect that makes this journey of worthy change an enjoyable one.  Thanks.