Topic : True Love

Have you entertained the possibility that perhaps it is not your husband's job to make you happy? You say he does everything he is supposed to. Perhaps you are unhappy with yourself for some reason. Do you enjoy hobbies and recreational activities? Do you have friends and confidants that you can talk to regularly?  

I may be way off base here but sometimes we project what is wrong inside of us onto other people. I say give a good man a chance. He may be unhappy as well.  

I can completely understand where you are at.  I have always made much more money (not rich, but comfortable) than hubby.  It was a huge issue when we first got married.  I always was the dependable one where he has gone through more jobs than I can count.  I have "floated" him for years and it is only recently that he has had to carry the financial burden-and he is shocked/stressed about it.   Now onto my wise words:  Money is just that: MONEY.  Get a job (again), and put yourselves on a budget.  I had 3 young kids (well, I still have them they are older now though) and we didn't even get to purchase a house until we were married 8 years!!  It took us all that time to experience the growing pains of marriage, young kids etc and get our lifestyles in check with our incomes.  TRUST ME-it does take time but one of you (and I admit it was me) has to stand up, not stand for the situation (not be adversarial, but take the bull by the horns) when it comes to money and take care of it. 

I can't even LOOK at macaroni and cheeze without gagging (cheap, easy meal) or hamburger helper either.   

It will work out-you just have to committ to it.  He does too-I would insist and nag hubby to maintain SOME job.  That was the requirement.  If you were leaving one job (for whatever reason)-you had better not come home without another one in the works.  ONE week would be all I give him.  If it meant flipping burgers (which he has done on several occassions), oh well.  Now, I would do all the overtime that I could, I even picked up a second job at one point-but it was all worth it.  We have owned our own home for 5 years, we have 2 cars (paid off), and although there are some times (like now) that it gets a little tight-we just know what to do-- 

It does take time, but perservere, trust me it is worth it in the end. 

Before I became pregnant I was dating my fiance for 4 months and before I knew I became pregnant and now i've had our son and we will be getting married wihtin the month. My fiance scares me in his behavior, although I do have faith in him. I'm also scared. He'll still want to go out with his friends on the weekend and leave me and our son at home while he partys, and hangs out till mindnight or 2am sometimes. He also left alot when I was pregnant and would tell me it was because our house was to small and he needed to get out while I was there alone. He knows I don't like it but then again i'm also very easy going and non confertational. Am I starting off on the wrong foot...I love this man with all my heart, he can be a jerk and say stupid thing but he's a wonderful father, and very caring and loving. He is the man I want to grow old with and raise our son with, but I feel like he still needs to grow up, and how do I help him. What do I do to help him, how do I help him. I don't want to give up on him because i know we are capable of having a wonderful marriage together, but it needs to start now.