Topic : True Love

I can fully understand you, and truley hope the best for you.  My husband is doing the same to me, but wants sex to be one of his fringe benifits.  I have three children, am in college, and am unemployed.  He is simply the provider, even though I have to beg for gas money.  I am also looking for a job, and as soon as I can afford it, he is out!!! 

Girl, your husband is like mine, a jerk.  I cannot understand how selfish a person must be to expect it all, and give nothing.  Get a job, and get him the hell out! 

I never thought of it as comfort.  I guess thats why i feel guilty sometimes after.  Its more of me trying everything i can to  make him happy.  I am very confused! 

I to met my current husband online, yes there is to this day alot of  

people that lie and abuse the thoughts and feelings of others online. 

I do not recommend it to everyone, but true love is out there and 

its not nessasarly in your back yard. We have been married 5 yrs 

now, I do  admit even though we chatted online for over a year just as 

friends without any intentions of ever meeting. Therefore alot 

of the communication was easier and free of alot of lies. We had 

nothing to gain from lieing. There to is alot that never gets completely  

understood. Meaning when we met and then married we only thought 

after over a year of chatting we covered all the communication, but learned 

to late that alot was misuderstood or not covered at all. But because 

we both are committed to our marriage are willing to comprimise on 

the other stuff. We are determined to make it work, because we learned 

from the beginning that we both hold total committment to each other 

our top prioity. Which was our first attraction the shared values and goals. 

And for me whether its coming from the husband or the wife its no 

different. It is wrong none the less. If your marriage has failed then get out of 

it. However dont look for the happiness in another while your still married. 

Getting out of a stale marriage is one thing, but cheating while your still  

married or living with your spouse is out right sick. Sorry its my comment. 

I want you to know that I feel love is wonderful, but what about the man you stood in front of God with and promised fidelity?  Cheating is wrong, to put it in a nutshell.  Lets put it this way, what if you found out your husband was in the same situation with another woman?  I venture to say that you would be crushed.  You are a woman who has successfully raised beutiful children with the man you have promised an eternity.  And in my opinion, marriage is like an insurance policy.  You join when you are young and crazy, learn who you are and how to live as a couple through life, and the reward is living your retirement and growing old knowing someone will always be there. 

Do you think you are taking this man for granted?  He has been good enough for this long, doesn't he deserve the best?   

please be the best woman you can be, please don't cheat until you are seperated.  God may have put this new man in your life, but not as a gift, maybe as a test.  Ask God for his help on this one. 

I met my true love when I was finishing college (I was 22 and he was 30)  We had a great relationship, we were so good together.  I tried to get him to settle down with me because I was tired of dating and wanted commitment, and when I found the right one, why drag it out?  He was not ready to settle down yet.   

I was introduced to my husband at this same time.  He was totally in love with me, I was not ( he was not my true love).  I dated my husband to try and get my true love to realize that I would move on, if he didn't commit to me (Immature, i know) Any way my husband convinced me to move to a different city to live with him and 3 months later he proposed and 6 months after that we were married (very rushed...  We were married just at a year from when we first met).  I thought that if I couldn't have my true love, then security was second best.  I didn't know about all the "family drama" he had on his side of the family (lots of problems)  I didn't know about all the debt he had accrued before meeting me (didn't find out till 2 years later) I didn't realize how affected he was by the troubled childhood he was raised in.  We have a son 2 years old.  I quit work when I had him, because that is what I wanted to do my whole life, stay home and take care of the kids.  We are in financial trouble.  I had no idea how bad until 2 years ago, after quitting my job to stay home.  He had told me we were in good shape and most everything should be paid off by the time I quit.  Well that was far from the truth.  My parents helped us out and we are still in bad shape.  He is in denial.  I took over the finances because he wasn't paying everything on time or every month.  He is also VERY perticular about how the house is kept.  He comes home from work complaining about how messy the house is (when it is not a mess).  He even makes jokes to his mom (who is also a neat freak) about how I don't keep up the house very well.  She even comes over and cleans the house when she is here!  So I don't have the security I wanted from my husband. 

I never have got my true love out of my mind.  I think about him alot, even dream about him (us being married, etc.) Right after I had our son, my true love wrote me a short note asking what had become of me...was I married, any kids, etc.  I didn't respond.  I didn't know what to say (I made a big mistake I am in love with you, but I am married with a new baby.)  Any way I continue to think about him and this week I got the nerve to contact him and see how he was doing, if he was married, any kids, and could we try to keep in touch with each other.  Expecting him to have moved on and hoping he would remember me from 5 years ago.  To my surprise he has never been married and no kids.  He said didn't know what he had till I left town.  He wanted to tell me not to leave, but he thought I was happy with my husband and didn't want to cause problems.  He told me he was being punnished from God for letting me go.  He said he can't find anyone that can even compare to the relationship we had together.  I am now very confused...  Do I stay in my marriage and be okay and raise our son or do I leave to find true love, and be excited about my life?  Please, any advice would be appreciated.  Thanks.