Topic : 10/02 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 3

Hi, Sorry to say this but you can't help someone that can't help their self.  You can push them towards help. It may seem to you that he wants the help, but he may say that just to get you to feel sorry for him. ALL drug users will tell you what you want to hear. Maybe prison is the best thing for him. He will get the help he needs and he will be taken care of.

Today was the first day of viewing the Todd and Jessica drama; however, the background presented was helpful but what concerned me the most was that both of these individuals are a product of their life experiences which involved an adulterous affairs that brought them together. The issue of trust and cheating is a reality for both......."pot calling the kettle black" ... Duh!!!

The children are persecuted without being asked if it was OK. They become the victims resulting from the consequences of the choices made by the parents. My concern is that these children will take this experience into their generation and replicate. Believe it or not the duplication is taking place.

There is fault of both sides of this issue and both Todd and Jessica need to own their own mess and be willing to effect change and learn to forgive one another for forgiveness is powerful but at the same time one must care enough to confront.

I love the dr phil show however i dont agree that bring the MIL was the best thing, notice how right after she showed up and they talked he went bazerk again, and before that he was fine and was trying to work things out?? When you get married you are to cleave to your wife.. not your wife and the inlaws or parents. MIL should not be involved other than support when her son asked. Notice too how when he said to her that she lied about this guy after he called her at the phil house?? Well gee... you lied too buddy cause you knew that your mother was coming and then when she asked you you said "oh i didnt know that she was coming"!!

She may of had affairs and i am not excuseing that is wrong but lets be honest if HE has been like that to her from day one and his father was like that (ie. MIL said FIL was like that) no wonders she was looking for someone to tell her things were ok.  If my husband was barking at me like a doberman pincher i too would go defensive esp when the momma dog comes around the corner.. in dr phils words   "WHAT WERE YOU THINKIN!!"

Yes the family needs to heal however the problems that the couple has needs to be fixed and THEN AND ONLY THEN do you add a family conseling issues into it. You just cant fix things like this dr phil, i just dont know what you were thinking.  ITs like a box of plates you have a wife and husband plate the kids plates and inlaws plates and they are all broken... you cant fix them all at once you have to fix them one at a time!!

 As I said before, the children are the ones who pay. being 15 and having to be more mature that your parent is more than anyone could ever imagine. Once my parents got into a physical fight when my dad was drunk. And I had to call the police. ME!! A 15 YEAR OLD2!! no one can ever imagine what it is like to have to call the police on a parent. No one can know what it is like to have your dad who is screaming at your mom turn on you, corner you and scare you beyond anything. The biggest load of  crap is staying together for the kids. Because if you are causing so much pain to your children when you are together, then for god sakes slit up. Im sure the kids would be happier if you did.

are you kidding me?????????????????????  maybe he made her do this?  that is the stupidest thing i have ever heard, knowone can make anyone do anything, she is responsible for her own actions and that is just a lame victim excuse.  I sure would like to run around blaming everyone or anyone for every wrong or bad choice i have made, life would be so much easier, but then what would i be learning from that, and what would i be teaching my kids? 

I'm sorry but if that is how you truely feel, maybe you should be on the Dr. Phil show, if your husband was cheating on you why did you go cheat  on him if you knew how it felt?  And it sounds like your still upset about it so i guess the cheating back thing didn't help either huh?  ( go figure)  haven't you ever heard of two wrongs don't make a right?  Jessica realllllllllllyyyyyyy needs a reality check, and you should watch all of the episodes before posting a ridiculous comment.