Topic : 10/05 Attack in the Night

             i no whatyour going threw i was rape 8years ago and i gave my house to my sister son and i had 5 years left and would have been payed for i well pray for all of you i no it is hard cause it is still hard for me today but ot dose get better and god well be with you    and yhe guy who did this to got away with it the cops believed him not me i live in a very small town what is bad it was mine daugther boyfriend and my grandson father and he lives 35 mikes from here but i pray to god everyday and i well put your family in my prays god bless you you was so brave today and that is a start       

I was wondering whether or not to post my thoughts on this incident, since everyone seemed to be willing to overlook what I thought were some pretty significant discrepancies.  After reading a little more and seeing there were some others who also had doubts, I decided to take a chance.

First of all, I agree - there are definitely some things about this story that don't add up:

- the intruder knew his way around the house (this was stated by the husband).

-if my children were in the house under these circumstances, regardless of the danger to myself,  I would fight through hell and back to make sure they were safe.  I would not shut myself in the bedroom while some lunatic was loose in my house and leave my children at his mercy.

-it's interesting also that the intruder broke into a neighbors house to steel the weapon he wanted to use.    It pretty much seems like this individual knows the neighborhood - he might even live there himself.

-the husband sustained the most serious injuries and, (amazingly)), when he went out the window to get help, the intruder decided to leave.

-when the husband left to get help, instead of running to check on their children, the wife is yelling out the window?  Her daughter was awakened by her screams.  I don't know, but if it were me, again, my first priority would be to get to my children.

It's interesting that the private investigator was leaning toward a gang initiation or just a random incident and neither one makes sense, especially if you go back to what the husband stated about the intruder seeming to know his way around the house.  If the attack were random, that would certainly not be the case.  If it were a gang initiation, for someone to have known where to go and get the tool and then get around inside the house without any problem, would have taken some serious planning.  Do they go to that much trouble for gang initiations?  I really don't know,  I'm just asking.

There is definitely more to this than meets the eye.

had they not pushed the attacker out in the hall nether one of them would be alive now.!!

the guy that was atacking them wasnt going to stop after he beat on them a little, from where im sitting they did the only thing they could do to live, if you are ever attacked like this please call dr phil and go on the show to tell all of us just how you handled the situation, im always willing to listen to anyone who can remain totaly calm when they are being killed and staying totaly comaposed and thinking clearly in a life threating situation, its a true honnor for me to hear the words of some one like you you seem to be able to remain cool-calm-and collected in all situations, maybe you should wright a book and share your secret with the rest of the world.

I don't think a dog is the answer. Dogs tend to bark all night and are a nuisance to the community. They can also be dangerous to small children.  My son was bitten by a neighborhood dog when he was 11. He's 35 today and still carries the scares of that day.

Get a gun and teach the family how to use it.  Alarms are also effective.  They should be placed outside, so that a loud warning is issued before entry. More homes are a target because of the security at businesses.  So, you have to protect yourself. Get a gun and protect your family.

I am absolutely amazed that you can make such harsh judgments about people you don't even know.  Maybe it makes you feel safer to think that it wasn't a random incident, but it does not help the family AT ALL to put the blame on them. You are right in that you don't know all the facts and shame on you for even suggesting that the wife is lying. I think you are the one in deep need of therapy.

Some facts that might make you a little less judgmental of the wife....the kids were not left alone. They were in a locked room with their grandmother. There were NO doors unlocked. The intruder broke the glass door in the back yard. There are many more facts that did not get on the show, but the Dr. Phil show is not an investigation show. That's not what this show was about.

I hope the next time you think about judging someone you don't know, you'll take breath and realize you can't make judgments without knowing all the facts.

If any of the Dr. Phil staff reads these messages, maybe you can add something to one of you shows about the affect of these negative messages. Maybe you can even get this negative writer on your show so she can get some help.

My attacker broke into my home while I was out returning a video to a Blockbuster store.  Prior to breaking into my home, he broke into the next door neighbors home (who were away) and stole a knife from their home.  He disguised himself with gauze and wrapped his head like a mummy.

He raped me and only after I cried out; "Why are you doing this to me" did he stop and tell me to

lock myself in the bathroom and wait 5 minutes before coming out.  Thankfully he left my home; unfortunately the police work was sloppy and they never caught my attacker. This happened to me 17 years ago (I actually had to stop and count which is a good sign).  This crime changed  my life forever. Thankfully, I received excellent help by participating in a Federally funded research program which offered various types of therapy to determine which type best helped a rape survivor.  I was in the control group which received both types of therapy ; It was not easy, I had to expose myself to being in situations that brought my fear level so high at times I thought for sure I would die, but I made it through and actually the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which I received has helped me in overcoming other hardships in my life. During the investigation,  the Police said on a number of occasions "regardless of what you do to your home; if someone wants to break in bad enough they will."  Although that may be true, what does help is making sure that you know your neighbors,installing  outside lighting around your home and entry ways, keep shrubbery low, make sure that your deadbolt locks are installed so that the deadbolt is drilled  at least 2 inches into the wood, alarm your house and use your alarm, even if you are going out for 5 minutes ( I was gone for only 10 minutes when my home was broken into).  Don't assume that your dog is going to save or prevent you from being attacked.  Dogs can be given treats or worse they can be slain before you know about it.  Be aware of your surroundings at all times.  Educate yourself on how to not be a victim; but if you happen to become victimized remember that if you survive; regardless of how you survive; you did what it took to stay alive and that above all else is what matters. You lived to tell about it!!!! Lastly, do not let any crime or other life altering event ruin your life; GET PROFESSIONAL HELP TO GET THROUGH THE EVENT!!!!!

God Bless.