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Topic : 10/06 IQ Answer

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Created on : Friday, September 29, 2006, 09:49:49 am
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Have you ever felt like you’re running in place and going nowhere? What if you could learn some critical keys to increase your intelligence? Dr. Phil, along with Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board and author of The IQ Answer, gives you practical techniques to maximize your full potential. His first guest, Elizabeth, says she’s tried everything to wake up her daughter, Miranda, in the morning -- massaging her feet, splashing water on her face, even blasting rap music! Miranda says she can sleep up to 17 hours straight, and has lost five jobs because of her tardiness. Find out what happens when she gets a wake-up call -- Dr. Phil style! Then, Faith says her 17-year-old daughter, Myia, panics before taking tests. She gets headaches, stomachaches, and often comes home crying. Can Dr. Lawlis help the teen get over her fears? Plus, find out why Dr. Phil needs Dr. Lawlis’ IQ Answer, and learn important information every parent needs to know about retraining your child’s brain. Talk about the show here.

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October 6, 2006, 4:01 pm CDT

about math education in the US

I am a Senior at a public high school in Oregon and I have noted that many people struggle with understanding math. Yet the concepts are actually very simple. The cause? I have found through my tutoring experiences (that is tutoring other students) that it is caused by the total lack of theoretical mathematics. An example when teaching solving linear equations high school students are not even introduced to the theoretical model ax+b=0. This makes understanding the the methods of solving the problem far more difficult. Additionally students aren't being asked to "think like mathematicians." At first it might seem that this is a tall order for high schoolers but it really isn't asking them to be geniuses at all. What I mean by that statement is that we should expect high schoolers (and lesser grades) to do some problem solving (guided and unguided). For example if I was teaching high schoolers the theoretical model above. I would ask them to work out isolating x from the equation (and obtaining x=-b/a). I would have already taught them how the order of operations reverses when you solve for an unknown (addition/subtraction first etc.) Similar problems exist in almost all other main subjects and the average grades show it. (I have seen an English class with a 58% AVERAGE!!!). I have spoken with a few administrators recently and they seem interested in changing their teaching practices but the red tape will take time to clear and the adjustment might be very bumpy.
 
October 6, 2006, 4:22 pm CDT

there are different reasons for kids not doing well in school

I just finished scrapbooking my report cards and class photos from my childhood. I am nearly 40 and it was quite an exercise for me.

 

Apparently I did well until 4th grade though I remember that my first grade teacher scared me. I was social and got good grades. In 4th grade my teacher would put us in groups to teach each other our times tables. I was a bit slow to learn them and he would ridicule me for not getting it. At a parent teacher conference he told my mom I was stupid. not maybe I needed a tutor but that I was stupid. She sadly told me what he said though I knew he believed that without his confirmation. I still remember the feeling of completely shutting down..for a very long time.

 

My 5th grade report card was horrible, I had withdrawn and didn't talk to anyone. I don't even remember that teacher or any of the kids in the class. Come 6th grade I had a wondeful teacher who tried his best to get me caught up for Jr. High...he did what he could but I was so withdrawn that it was hard to figure out what I did or did not know. I was terribly depressed and slept...as often as possible. I felt like a failure.

 

I BARELY graduated from high school but did go to Jr. college for a couple years and did really well in some classes and slept through others. I also worked a couple jobs. I had a friend of my brother's mentor me as a restaurant manager and for once I had someone encourage me and believe in me. I went on to manage several restaurants until I decided to try hi-tech. Again, I had people beleive in me and outwardly encourage me. After a layoff I changed to bio-tech which is where I am now. My manager is the best teacher, mentor, motivator ever. I am so blessed to have landed here. He takes the time to teach me one on one and if I don't get it, I can tell him and he just tries another way. eventually I get it.

 

My point is that parents need to not compare their kids to others and should really take to heart that the teachers teaching them ARE pivotal people in their lives. They too shape a kid's esteem and belief in their abilities. And some kids just don't do well in school but can go on to have a very productive adulthood.

 
October 6, 2006, 4:40 pm CDT

interested

I'm very interested in the I.Q. Answer cd.. How can I purchase it?? Can I do it on Dr. Phils site?/ I have a son that has been doing very poorly in school . This may help me. It does appear he has signs of ADD but hasnt been diagnosed...
 
October 6, 2006, 4:42 pm CDT

Test anxiety!

Wow, I can relate very much to the kids that were on teh show today in regaurds to their test anxiety. I do not have ADD and I have never had any learning disabilities. In the 5th grade I think I had a 9th or 10th grade reading level. When I moved to Las Vegas I didn't think that anything Had changed...well that is until now. I was told by one teacher that I was lucky I was pretty because she didn't see me going far in life with my "skills" I was told by a math teacher that I was just a bad test taker... little did she know how much effort I  put in. I am much older now and I am in college and I find myself hearing those words while taking tests and it sends me into panic mode. I think... "What if their right?" What if I am dumb?" I came home the other night from class to my husband and I was crying because I had failed an exam and I felt at a total loss. I had studied so hard for that test and all I could think of was those teachers that put me down when all I needed was a little support. My husband thinks I have extreme anxiety and he says that I have low self esteem.  Sometime I want to go back and show them what I've done and other times I think that I just need to do it for myself. So for anyone out there who has been told other wise you are as smart as you want to be and don't let anyone tell you other wise...not even a teacher! I am now considering dropping my classes and not returning due to my  test anxiety, but luckily I have my husband by my side constatnly reminding me that I can do it! Good luck to you all and continue your education no matter what.
 
October 6, 2006, 4:50 pm CDT

too much sleep

Maybe this girl should be tested for a sleep disorder.  My husband ,from the time he was very young, has had an unusually hard time waking up.  He had a hard time in school because he

never became fully awake until a couple of hours aftering rising.  He was tired most of the day.  He was called lazy by his parents and of course this had an affect on his self esteem.  After he graduated high school his mother happened to read an article about a condition called sleep drunkedness that could be treated by a mild anti-depressant.  They went to the doctor and he was put on this medication called Vivactil.  That was over 20 years ago and it completely changed his life. 

 
October 6, 2006, 4:51 pm CDT

my son

My son is now a senior in high school he has been in resources classes starting from elementary school on. I really need help though he just does not like to read no matter how much I preach the inportance of reading he just refuses to put any time or effort in reading! I am so at the end of my rope because he is in the 12th grade and is now 18 years old. His grades are good though that is surprising to me as well but every year he has failed the state requirement test in reading and math.. I listen to him read and he still stumbles through words he should know automatically... I would love the help of someone like the professor on Phil's show!! I am desperate I feel like a failure and I really want him to have confidence in reading for his own self esteem.. Is there any suggestions from anyone here that can help my family!! thanks for listening
 
October 6, 2006, 5:11 pm CDT

10/06 IQ Answer

Quote From: lakemaiden

I am 42 and all my life up until a year ago, I had to get at least 10-12 hours of sleep. Always sleepy. I also had depression, but lethargy was also with my life.  I finally had my thyroid tested. It was only borderline "normal" most doctors would say, just slightly lower than normal, but a naturopath said he had had success even when it was borderline. I went on Thyroid medication, and now my lifelong depression is GONE and I only now sleep 8 hours a night and actually wake up and am not sleepy or feel coma-like anymore! I feel so blessed and kiss the ground my naturopath walks on!! I tried so many antidepressants and the depression and the sleepiness ruined my life. I hope the girl on the show checks her thyroid too.
 My 16 year old son has been suffering with chronic fatigue for several months now.  It seems to have started following a trip to Mexico where he became violently ill from something he ate.  When he came back, he continued to suffer from stomach pain and cramping, diarrhea on and off and he could sleep for 17 or 18 hours a day.  After many tests and missing 2 months of school in total, the gastrointestinal specialist has diagnosed it as being post-infectious irritable bowel syndrome.  She really didn't have a diagnosis on the sleeping, but thought he might be depressed.  My son ended up having to drop two of his classes and repeated one in summer school.  He managed to get up and go to class in the summer most of the time, but now that he's back in school, he has struggled to get up in the morning and has been home for the past two weeks, feeling nauseous and sleeping till 5:30 or 6:00 p.m. or later, every day, so that he is only up, laying on the couch, for about 5 hours a day.    I did not see today's show but I heard about the girl who is 26 and sleeps 17 hours a day.  Has anyone else had a similar experience?  Do you think this Dr. Lawlis might have some answers?
 
October 6, 2006, 6:13 pm CDT

Reply to the IQ Answer

10/06/2006

 

To Dr. Phil and Dr. Lawless,

 

I am a man getting up in age and take a serious interest in your shows. For almost 50 years I struggled with psychological disorders such as PTSD, Anxiety and finally Depression when I realized just what kind of a predicament I was in. I watch most of the Dr. Phil Shows and have copied most in order to play them back so the message can sink in. I had a sort of bad time being able to remember in the 50 years of therapy what the therapist (Psychiatrist, Psychologist, Social Worker) said. My head would just block it out. At any rate, this should be legal, as they are for my personal use.

 

The point of this message is to say that your show hit the spot dead center for me and I learned a great deal about myself. I have never before in my entire life until I started watching these shows have someone explain what vitamins and such help and how the brain reacts. I am reasonably knowledgeable as to how the brain works. Anyway, this happens about once in every 6 to 10 shows or so. The information Dr. Lawless put forth today was extremely helpful, and I will purchase his book tomorrow. I am older than the people on this show and have solved most of my psychological problems. Only insomnia, if I do not take something for it, remains.

 

My girl friend for the last 12 years and I watch the shows as sort of group therapy.  In the last two or three years or so I have had some pretty good help at the VA.  It looks like they and the Dr. Phil shows have cured me of all psychological problems.

 

I still have real insomnia if I so not take something for it. I have always thought this is part of the problem that caused much of my dilemma. For several years after I graduated from North Carolina State University with a BSEE degree and started to work, I was working under real stress. I would crash on Friday nights and sleep for about 10 or 12 hours. There was no more going to sleep until the next Friday night. I could doze but not lose consciousness for the remaining six days in the week.

 

I held that job for 5 years with little time lost. I thought I was severely mentally ill, the people I worked with could see it; and the managers knew it. My wife and I fighting all of the time in front of our children did in my opinion change my oldest son.

 

There are two or three things in my background that I have little knowledge as to how they have affected my brain, if any. I fell off my bicycle and hit my head on the asphalt when I was about 12 years of age. I had a severe case of strep throat also at about that age. I was in the hospital for a week receiving x-ray treatment for that. I had a thyroid tumor at about 45 and had surgery for it. There is a disorder called P.A.N.D.A.S. (Pediatric Auto-Immune Disorder Associated with Strep) that could have caused me problems. I was really nervous when I got out of the hospital. I felt like it changed me. I was always angry, anxious and felt the beginning of my depression when I realized just what a predicament I was in. I always take flu shots to insure that I never get like that again. I had whooping cough at about that age.

 

With what I have said, could you tell me just what kind of disease, disorder, neurological condition or anything else could have brought that on. I would be most appreciative.

Thank you very much. Also thank you for those shows that helped me so very much.

 

Harold Braswell

haroldbras@bellsouth.net

 

 
October 6, 2006, 6:15 pm CDT

Disappointed in the show

I taped this show with plans to share it with my children (15 and 12), both doing well in school, but challenged by the increasing difficulty of their rigorous curriculum. I erased it after I watched it. The only things I came away with were to breathe during tests and to enforce better breakfasts. (The kids get enough sleep and get up on their own; and the orthodontist and school frown on gum.)I had an amazing Psychology 101 class in college (beyond that it was the class I met my husband-to-be in) that taught us to figure out how our individual brains learned. Two things changed my way of thinking and turned me from an okay student to a dean’s list student. One was to learn how I best retained information (to simplify it, visual vs. auditory). The other was to think of my brain as a filing cabinet and to cross-reference the material I wanted to retrieve. Think of a visual cue, a mnemonic cue, etc. My 12 year old daughter was struggling with tests and I sent her room and told her to write a song about the material she needed to learn. She laughed at me, but it was a changing moment for her. As the kids start taking honors and AP classes we are looking for tools for them to put in their toolbox to help them digest the material and demonstrate that knowledge on tests and projects. I was expecting more from this show. Are they just trying to sell books now?
 
October 6, 2006, 6:16 pm CDT

The young aren't the only ones who want to learn

I wish learning for adults had been discussed more.  Young people aren't the only ones who want to learn.  Now that adults live so much longer and are so active after retirement, we are interested in learning, also.

 

I'd love to see a segment of Dr. Phil discuss school and learning for adults and seniors.

 
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