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Created on : Friday, September 29, 2006, 09:49:49 am
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Have you ever felt like you’re running in place and going nowhere? What if you could learn some critical keys to increase your intelligence? Dr. Phil, along with Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board and author of The IQ Answer, gives you practical techniques to maximize your full potential. His first guest, Elizabeth, says she’s tried everything to wake up her daughter, Miranda, in the morning -- massaging her feet, splashing water on her face, even blasting rap music! Miranda says she can sleep up to 17 hours straight, and has lost five jobs because of her tardiness. Find out what happens when she gets a wake-up call -- Dr. Phil style! Then, Faith says her 17-year-old daughter, Myia, panics before taking tests. She gets headaches, stomachaches, and often comes home crying. Can Dr. Lawlis help the teen get over her fears? Plus, find out why Dr. Phil needs Dr. Lawlis’ IQ Answer, and learn important information every parent needs to know about retraining your child’s brain. Talk about the show here.

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October 7, 2006, 2:02 pm CDT

I understand how Miah feels in a way

Well I have had a hard time all of my life I have been stow since I was born it has taken me all of my life longer to do things and I have always struggled in school and doing my classes I feel like I am not very smart or very good at anything and I have said a lot of negative things to myself. My mom and dad were VERY concerned about me and worried and I took lots of different tests and they figured out that I was NOT mentally handicapped I was just slower learner and I did go to college though and I got a 1 year degree but it took me 5 years to get it because I only could take 1 or 2 classes at a time to finish it was too much pressure and anxiety for me to do more then that once I did 4 classes and it about killed me it was SOOOO stressful for me. I have only been able to get B's and C's or worse grades all of my life.  I wish that I could have been on Dr Phil's show and could have had him help me to figure out what on earth was wrong with me at that time. But I was glad for that they had this show because I can use it with my kids when they get old enough some day. If they have the same problems as me I hope I do not pass that gene onto my kids though and they don't have the same problem. Is that possible to pass on smart or dumb genes onto your kids? Well if it is then I know what to do now since they had this show and I will be able to help them.

 
October 7, 2006, 5:25 pm CDT

Miranda has a sleep disorder not a motivational problem!!! She needs a sleep evaluation!!

Dr. Phil really dropped the ball on this one!  I am a 44 year old practicing school psychologist, who has struggled with fatigue for all my life.  I have been given dianoses ranging from depression, ADHD, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.  I am a highly motivated person however, just like Miranda I struggled to get out of bed every day and was so exhausted.  I tried anti-depressants, ritalin, meditation, yoga,and lots of behavioral therapy.  These therapies helped but I continued to struggled every day until I found a Dr. who referred me for a SLEEP EVALUATION.  I was diagnosed with OSA (OBSTRUCTIVE SLEEP APNEA) and now use a CPAP machine at night when I sleep.  IT HAS TOTALLY CHANGED MY LIFE!!!  I  look forward to waking up feeling rested, and feel like a new person. I have been able to exercise, stick with a healthy eating plan, lost 30 pounds, work and enjoy my life.  Even my thinking has changed from depressed rumination to hope.  I can't beleive I had to struggle for 40 years.  As a child, my parents had done the same thing to me as Miranda- calling me lazy, questioning my motivation and squashing my self-esteem.  I couldn't keep up with my siblings, and was considered to be a hypochondriac.  I wanted to be successful and tried everything.  My Dr. even increased my Ritalin until I was addicted.  I am know drug free, and rebuilding my life.  TO ALL OF YOU WHO ARE EXHAUSTED EVERY DAY- GET A SLEEP EVALUATION.  SLEEP APNEA CAN BE LIFE THREATENING. IN ADDITION TO HEADACHES, DEPRESSION, MEMORY PROBLEMS AND CHRONIC FATIGUE-- IT CAN ALSO LEAD TO HEART DISEASE, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, STROKE, AND MAY BE ASSOCIATED WITH SIDS.  I hope Dr. Phil will do a show on Sleep Disorders.  This is such a prevalent problem and so underdiagnosed.
 
October 7, 2006, 6:10 pm CDT

what about those who can't eat much protein

 i am not a child but Dr. PHil talked about the absence of words...our short term memory.  They talked about the importance of protein foods for the brain.  What about those of us who are restricted from protein foods.  Someone who's inside plumbing and wiring has been changed.  HELP!
 
October 7, 2006, 8:00 pm CDT

What a great show!

This was such an informative show.  It is also one that needs to be repeated or at the least, continued periodically.  It is the story of many a persons life; when talking to others they say much of the same.  I'm sure a  lot of what was said will be tried and used.  I know I learned from it and will be giving it a try and passing it along to others.  When Dr. Lawlis and Dr. Phil talked of music it reminded me of how little I had listened to it since my brothers passing 2 years ago.  I will begin to implement it again as it was something I and many in my family always had going and was not aware of the effect of goodness it has on one's mind/brain.   I think it was great to learn that even Dr. Phil, if he stops moving/going, wants to fall asleep.  Many of us in my family are like that and we thought that we were weird or something.  Nice to know it is common, experienced by Dr. Phil, and addressed by Dr. Lawlis.  I think Dr. Phil's show is great for giving the world the straight up and not pulling any punches.  The world could use more of his style.   I would be grateful for any more information that could be learned on this subject that has affected many of us in my family, others talked to and friends.  Knowing there are reasons and ways to deal with it, is half the battle, that the solutions are doable, and do not cost a fortune makes it all the better for many of us.  Should you do a future show on this can you ad to the equation if  "SAD"  plays a part in the whole of it, or, is this a whole other topic?  When the flowers go into hibernation I feel like I do also.  This has made life very hard to deal and cope with for years.  This affects many in our family.  Any insight on this would be appreciated also.  From one very grateful viewer who appreciates the real life situations on your show that come with ways to deal with the everyday situations that are not always easy for people to talk about in public and honest to goodness light at the end of the tunnel responses and ways to deal with such!  Best wishes for the holidays!
 
October 7, 2006, 8:34 pm CDT

Thank you for your input too

Quote From: drsuesview

Dr. Phil really dropped the ball on this one!  I am a 44 year old practicing school psychologist, who has struggled with fatigue for all my life.  I have been given dianoses ranging from depression, ADHD, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.  I am a highly motivated person however, just like Miranda I struggled to get out of bed every day and was so exhausted.  I tried anti-depressants, ritalin, meditation, yoga,and lots of behavioral therapy.  These therapies helped but I continued to struggled every day until I found a Dr. who referred me for a SLEEP EVALUATION.  I was diagnosed with OSA (OBSTRUCTIVE SLEEP APNEA) and now use a CPAP machine at night when I sleep.  IT HAS TOTALLY CHANGED MY LIFE!!!  I  look forward to waking up feeling rested, and feel like a new person. I have been able to exercise, stick with a healthy eating plan, lost 30 pounds, work and enjoy my life.  Even my thinking has changed from depressed rumination to hope.  I can't beleive I had to struggle for 40 years.  As a child, my parents had done the same thing to me as Miranda- calling me lazy, questioning my motivation and squashing my self-esteem.  I couldn't keep up with my siblings, and was considered to be a hypochondriac.  I wanted to be successful and tried everything.  My Dr. even increased my Ritalin until I was addicted.  I am know drug free, and rebuilding my life.  TO ALL OF YOU WHO ARE EXHAUSTED EVERY DAY- GET A SLEEP EVALUATION.  SLEEP APNEA CAN BE LIFE THREATENING. IN ADDITION TO HEADACHES, DEPRESSION, MEMORY PROBLEMS AND CHRONIC FATIGUE-- IT CAN ALSO LEAD TO HEART DISEASE, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, STROKE, AND MAY BE ASSOCIATED WITH SIDS.  I hope Dr. Phil will do a show on Sleep Disorders.  This is such a prevalent problem and so underdiagnosed.
Thank you for your input, and letting others of us know what lack of sleep can do. Plus why it is important to get checked for sleep disorders and by doing such may negate the need for so many meds and other illnesses may be eliminated or at least alleviated.  I have written down the "DSPS" to discuss with my doc.   It helps to read the input of others and to see what they did and if it may, in fact, also help others.  In reference to Dr. Phil dropping the ball, I feel it entails a much broader span (however,  his show is only an hour long) than what was discussed on his show, but it is better to get some info out there and at least get people moving than not doing anything at all and if what was said helps someone then it was worth it.  I think the show needs to be expanded on and entail more.  But, that is just my opinion.   The one question I do have is, "Why is the baby boom generation so messed up with health problems and what at least seems like more than other generations?"  Prior generations seemed stronger in many areas.  Again, just my opinion.  Thank You!  Happy Holidays!
 
October 7, 2006, 10:29 pm CDT

SLEEP STUDY

Quote From: drsuesview

Dr. Phil really dropped the ball on this one!  I am a 44 year old practicing school psychologist, who has struggled with fatigue for all my life.  I have been given dianoses ranging from depression, ADHD, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.  I am a highly motivated person however, just like Miranda I struggled to get out of bed every day and was so exhausted.  I tried anti-depressants, ritalin, meditation, yoga,and lots of behavioral therapy.  These therapies helped but I continued to struggled every day until I found a Dr. who referred me for a SLEEP EVALUATION.  I was diagnosed with OSA (OBSTRUCTIVE SLEEP APNEA) and now use a CPAP machine at night when I sleep.  IT HAS TOTALLY CHANGED MY LIFE!!!  I  look forward to waking up feeling rested, and feel like a new person. I have been able to exercise, stick with a healthy eating plan, lost 30 pounds, work and enjoy my life.  Even my thinking has changed from depressed rumination to hope.  I can't beleive I had to struggle for 40 years.  As a child, my parents had done the same thing to me as Miranda- calling me lazy, questioning my motivation and squashing my self-esteem.  I couldn't keep up with my siblings, and was considered to be a hypochondriac.  I wanted to be successful and tried everything.  My Dr. even increased my Ritalin until I was addicted.  I am know drug free, and rebuilding my life.  TO ALL OF YOU WHO ARE EXHAUSTED EVERY DAY- GET A SLEEP EVALUATION.  SLEEP APNEA CAN BE LIFE THREATENING. IN ADDITION TO HEADACHES, DEPRESSION, MEMORY PROBLEMS AND CHRONIC FATIGUE-- IT CAN ALSO LEAD TO HEART DISEASE, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, STROKE, AND MAY BE ASSOCIATED WITH SIDS.  I hope Dr. Phil will do a show on Sleep Disorders.  This is such a prevalent problem and so underdiagnosed.

My history sounds very similar to yours...still have the fibromyalgia diagnosis, but I now know that I have Narcolepsy, and my life has been changed by the right meds.

 

My oldest son is now a straight A student because of getting off of ADHD meds after his sleep study showed Narcolepsy.  He is now on Provigil and so much better off...Adderall has such bad side effects.

 

My husband has sleep apnea (has a CPAP), and also restless leg syndrome, for which he takes Requip.  He is now so much easier to live with.

 

My younger two boys were also discovered to have restless leg syndrome, and the sleep studies showed that they were waking up over 250 times a night...no wonder we were having such behavior problems...much better with the proper meds.

 

I haven't seen Dr. Phil's experts ever mention a sleep study as part of a person's overall evaluation...sleep disorders are more common than people would think, and there are over 200 different sleep disorders known so far...Dr. Phil should get on the ball with this one.

 
October 7, 2006, 10:34 pm CDT

evaluation

Quote From: mcr321

He just started kindergarten about a month ago and to get him to do his homework everyday is a job.  He throws tantrums and starts crying that he don't want to do it.  Then he will say he can't do it. I always tell him he can do it that he can do anything but it dosen't seem to help. I am worried that maybe he needs some extra help. I asked the teacher and she said he was doing fine but that he is very shy it is almost like he is backwards. I don't know how to get him out of this or to even help him in anyway. My mother told me that I was that way in school. I just want to help him come out of his shell. I'm not sure if that is why I am having so much trouble when it comes to his school work? or maybe he just dosen't understand the school work? I know when I went to school I had trouble and didn't understand alot of things like math and comperhension I was terrible at it. I could use some advise about this?

The first place to start would be with a visit to the school counselor or psychologist.  Get all of the testing available through the school district...if there is a learning disorder, it is best diagnosed early. 

 

Also, make sure he is getting enough sleep, and has a regular routine...structured time for homework, and a time to play.  A definite bedtime routine at the same time every night.

 

If you are still having problems after all of this, consider further testing, including a sleep study...my youngest son behaves just fine at school, but was soooo tired after school.  A sleep study revealed Restless Leg Syndrome, a sleep disorder.

 

Good Luck

 
October 8, 2006, 7:32 am CDT

7 year old help

     My son is in 1st grade. He is incredibly smart and gets his work done but his behavior in school and after school care has people frustrated. I've tried spanking, grounding, removing toys, stay in the room all day, and my last try was really sitting down with him to find out what is wrong and explaining to him how he is hurting people who love him. nothing seems to work. Now what i have noticed is he only acts out with the teachers who look like push overs. I don't know what else i can do. Oh, by the way he is so smart he taught himself how to forge my signature so well in fact i didn't notice until this morning that he was signing his own progress reports.

 

Also my daughter, who is in kindergarten, has trouble learning things. By that i mean she already failed kindergarten, and she seems to get intimidated when she doesn't know the answers and throw herself down and quit. When I tried to help her she acts like she scared to work with me, I don't know how to help my children. If anyone has any advice I need it badly.

 
October 8, 2006, 10:31 am CDT

My best to Miranda

I am so glad Miranda is getting to share her story because I believe this is something that really gets "misdiagnosed" alot.  It is so important that kids don't get categorized as wanting to be this way.  Through my youngest memories, I slept alot; it was nothing for me to sleep two days through -- even when I would go to my grandmother's house where I loved to go.  I was always "tired".  One time I rolled out of bed and landed on an adjacent wooden rocking chair and tore up my face.  I was told that my sister got my parents and they dr'ed me up in the bathroom and I never woke up.  I got up the next day and didn't know what had happened to me and was very scared.  I hated my childhood and my father who was very mentally controlling, but didn't realize it.  I was sick alot with things like sore throats, tonsilitus, flu type illnesses.  I had 3 reoccuring nightmares that haunted me.  I wonder if this is part of the reason I developed my sleep pattern. 

I hated school K - 2, but then started helping other kids with math in the 3rd, and started liking school.  I was designated a mentally gifted minor in the third grade and transferred to another school  in the 5th which had gifted classes and then I started hating school again and started getting C's and below.  I tested out of school in the 10th grade through a proficiency exam and after the 11th started attending the city college where I chose to take remedial classes and start all over.  Still to this day I don't feel like I learn correctly.   I started working everyday after school and weekends when I was twelve years old and outworked many of the adults because I was so much of a thinker and quiet to go about my job I guess.  

When I was in my late teens, I worked for a (world wide) corporation and at my two year review they gave me an alarm clock and wanted to put me on disability because of always being late to work.  I had the second to the top work performance in the nation and that is the reason they wanted to keep me on but between strep throat for six months and being late they had to do something.  I finally just quit the job because of the stress.   I covered my late-ness at my next two jobs by getting jobs that I had to do part of my work before arriving at the office.  Nobody every knew I was late.  My next job's boss realized I put in extra hours every evening and even started adjusting his schedule to arrive later and later so again it worked out.  During my next job I would just stay awake basically all week and Friday night when I would get off, I'd fall asleep and stay there til Monday morning when my room mate would wake me up. 

I had good health insurance during all these years but all the doctors just kept saying there was nothing wrong except having strep all the time.  When I got my tonsils out, (finally recommended by a specialist) they kept waking me up in the hospital because I was falling away.  I just knew it hurt like hell to be awake!  Back to the tiredness issue,  I endured test after test including the old fashioned glucose tolerance torture on two occasions.  Finally, a small town female doctor said she thought I was sleeping too deep but that's as far as it went.  I had room-mates throughout these years and they constantly were checking me to see if I was alive!  They knew I didn't do drugs or alcohol so they couldn't figure out why I was so sleepy.

When I turned 21, I purchased my first townhouse.  Wow, my own place.  One of the first things I did was get a puppy.  It was a spur of the moment.   I was visiting friends that had a six week old litter of husky-cross pups and I took one home.  The puppy had separation anxiety like most do and every few hours it would start crying.  That woke me up instantly!  As soon as I would hear the puppy, I would snap out of my sleep and go to comfort the puppy.  Of course that was the worst thing I could have done for the puppy but it solved my deep sleep issue because I never made it into that deep state of sleep.  The puppy eventually started sleeping longer and longer and so did I until I realized that getting exactly six hours of sleep left me feeling totally rested and raring to go!   Now still to this day, many times I get more sleep than I should and I pay for it being tired. 

Much of the time coma is the better word for my sleep.  I can know what is going on around me but am totally "asleep" -- it's like my mind and body are two different entities.  I believe this is what it's like when people say they have an out-of-body experience like at an accident scene or dying in the hospital only to be revived.  Many years ago I read of an experiment where they put these people in an underground cave to live.  They took all measure of time away from these people and fixed the environment where they could not calculate the days by any means.  If I remember correctly, these people started having something like 30+ hour cycles of sleep to wake but didn't realize it.

So to Miranda I say "Ask your Mom for a puppy!!"   To Miranda's Mom I say "Say YES!"  and you'll be glad you did.  And who knows, I grew up to be a rancher and now I have lots of critters to keep me awake!       

 
October 8, 2006, 4:37 pm CDT

Waking Up

I have the same problem as all the others...  But I was wondering - I heard Dr. Phil say something about a particular alarm clock with specific sounds or something...Does anybody know or have a specific alarm clock that they would suggest?  Thanks,  Sleepy

 
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