My boyfriend calls me to tell me that he misses me, after I had ended things with him a week earlier, yet there was no initiative or drive in him what so ever to go out of his way to talk to me in person when I told him that I prefer to speak face to face. He's working on renovating his friend's basement and so he's staying at his friends, well really his friend's parents place, for his convenience. He doesn't drive, nor does he have a cell phone, and he's 20, whom acted completely indifferent while we were together, coming up with every excuse in the book to avoid seeing me, at least that's the impression I got. His friend has offered to take him to see me, and has done so, as long as he provided him with gas money. However, generally, I've always notice that my boyfriend would not take the initiative to see me even when an opportunity occurred. It's like our relationship survived over the phone and we would see each other once or twice a week, sometimes the odd 3, or every other week. I did go out of my way to see him too and I don't drive nor own a car either. I wanted a balance and I was always the one to take the initiative to make plans, he never did, and the majority of the time our plans rarely followed through. I've asked friends to take me to see him and so on ...Anyway, since transportation was an issue, every night we would talk to each other and say good night, but suddenly that changed. It seemed like a hassle for him. His excuses were that if he was home his brothers or sisters would be using the phone, or he would tell me that he’d call me back and he wouldn't. Once he's been staying with his friend, putting the blame on his family no longer existed because his friend has a cell phone and home phone line that he could use. Obviously he was going out with his friend, whose single, but I didn't care and I told him that, I just wanted to hear from him because I think of him and I found it sad that he was giving off the impression that he wasn't thinking of me. I told him that and i asked, so transportation is cut, and now communication is as well? I told him that I wanted him to be a part of my life but he was only pushing me away nor allowing me to be a part of his, so what love is there? He’d tell me he loved me all the time. This is the 3rd time I’ve ended things with him, but this time is final because it's only been the same for the past 6 months and I feel like we haven’t grown together at all. He gets his family involved...like his mother in on our conversations and arguments...his sister doesn't speak to me and I don't even know why, nor do i care anymore. His sister and I were friends to begin with and I trusted him because I thought I had a good sense of his sister and family and he became my first in all... This is the 3rd time I’ve ended things with him, but why does he have the nerve to call me back to tell me that "I don't know what to say", and "I miss you", why bother, if he never seemed to be interested, or pretended to be, to begin with? Whats there to miss?
We didn't have many opportunities to sleep together, it happened a few times, hen what exactly is he getting out of this idea of us? It's like he prefers to keep a relationship going on the phone, which isn't consistent, and again, I miss his call and that very day he tells me he misses me and leaves me a message telling me that he'll call me back and then he doesn't, normally he always did... so why bother calling me to begin with? I think he's selfish because he is only considerate of his own feelings....but what exactly is he trying to do? I don't want to be his side dish...and I’m feeling spiteful...what can I do to clear up my foolish image of having stuck around for so long and come across as being better than him rather than one of his subjects.....
