Topic : Breaking Up

Recently I found a saved messenger conversation between my girlfriend and a mutual male friend of ours,he has a long term girlfriend. The conversation was mostly about my girlfriends rear end and how much he enjoyed it so to speak, she didnt even attempt to discourage the conversation and never mentioned it to me, ive been friends with him longer then her, they were friends, not close, before we became a couple and he has a way of beeing like that with everyone even around his girlfriend. Heres my problem(s). first I find that very rude that he would say that to her only because I would never say that sort of thing to his girlfriend, second that she didnt seem to discourage it and third that she actually saved the conversation! she tells me she doenst know why she saved it........and that nothing has ever happened to them before or after we started going out. I want to believe her but Im having a hard time trying to decide whether to blow of the sorta friendship with him and work it out with her or just to blow them both off, weve only been dating for 2 months and i feel like that is not a good way to start a relationship. If this has happened to anyone in the past or youve got some words of wisdom please let me know as Im confused right now how best to deal with this. One thing I am sure of is the friendship with him is done, Im not putting up with that kind of disespect for our friendship.  

  On my 50th birthday my boyfriend of the age or 45, my daughter and her boyfriend and my son were at my home to help me celebrate.  I had too much too drink and had said a couple things that upset my boyfriend to the point that made him decide that he probably would not want to be with me from that point on.  So anyways what happened I started to tickle my daughter's boyfriend foot and my boyfriend said what you have a foot fetish I'll give you something to suck on and I said that I would suck on anything. Now mind you that I was pretty damn good. 

  So it wasn't until the later the next day that I found out from him that he didn't want to be with me because of what I had said.  I told him that I was sorry but it wasn't enough. And since then I have been begging for him to take me back and crying my eyes out and feeling sick to my stomach. He has been saying to me that I would be better off with someone else that would treat me better.  You see we live 3 hours away from each other so he also mentions the situation of my family being down here too regarding us being together.  Which seemed okay before this ever happened.  In the past he has broken it off with me 4 times and we have gotten back together.  I am in love with him which I have told him so and he has told me that he loves me.  You see hes not sure if he wants to be with a women like me.  I guess a women that talks like that.  I told him that I won't be drinking anymore which I won't be and that It wouldn't hurt me one bit to clean up my act but he's telling me to find someone to be with that will except me for who I am.  But I am so in love with him and he makes me feel so good. 

    So with our last conversation his last words were "okay have it your way" which I am not sure exactly what that means.  I know that I should probably just leave him alone and not bother him. But I have left a text message for him telling him that I miss him.  This is something he already knows. I don't want to get him pissed off nor do I want to lose him.   

   We have been / or were together for 6 months and I am not sure if I should move on.  Could you folks please offer some kind advise. 

Thank you so much 

Hi all,

My ex common law husband for 4 years and me had a 6 yrs. old daughter.  During those time of separation, we were off and on until last time was December 2004.  He had dated here and there and had a girlfriend in 2004 but only lasts 5 months.  He introduced our daughter to this girl only once.  After that girl, he dated another one that only lasts 3 months.  He came back to me and got back together again but only lasts for not even 2 weeks.  After a month he started seeing a new girl and already started exposing our daughter to her.  They are still together and both been spending time with my daughter sometime every other weekend when my daughter is with him. I overheard on his voice mail messages that this girl is already saying I love you to him.  I know it is not illegal for him to expose my daughter to her..but it's making me really angry.  I wanted to know this girl so I know who my daughter is spending time with when she is with her dad but he would not introduce her to me.  He already introduce her to her family but not to me.  Am I entitled to know or for him to introduce to me to his girlfriend or is this out of my business?