Topic : Breaking Up

Quote From: apfreema

Hi, 

I haven't logged on in a while. I hope you are doing better than before. I hope you stay strong and remember what I said in my message.  To answer your question I did consider abortion, I even went to 3 different places with him to talk to someone. I had the strangest feeling come over me and I left.  Needless to say at this point it is to late. He has started calling but still doens't want to maintain a relationship.  I have been praying and putting my faith in God.  Sometimes thats all we can do.  

April  

Quote From: mavertsr1

Hi All 

  

I am in the process of getting divorced after 23 years of marriage. My wife and I have 4 sons ages 22,20,18,and13.I have loved and still love my wife. In my 23 years of marriage no other woman has mattered to me other than my wife. I have never even looked at another woman. The son rose and set on my wife.She on the other hand does not share my feelings of love. She is a bartender and that is more important than me. I am not fun to her OI am just a bill payer. I earn a great living and we financially want for nothing. 

 I have now entered into a relationship with a wonderful and beautiful young lady who I have fallen deeply in love with. She is also in love with me. We have know each other for 4 years but only very casually.Not even as friends but aquaintences. She was our waitress at a resturant that I frequented 2x a week. When she herd that I was getting divorced she called me as a friend to see if I was OK. that nite we talked for 5 hours about nothing at all . we spoke the next nite and over many weeks one thing led to another. The problem is that  I am 49 years old and she is 23. I know this has disaster written all over it but for every bad reason there is 1000 good things happening. My marriage was pretty lousey for the last 7 or 8 years so I have had plenty of time to greive for the loss of my marriage. I am someone who loves to love and be loved. With my new lady I feel both. I am COFUSSED and would love to look in from the outside but I am too involved to have a good look at the situation ,but my GUTand my HEART tells me this is good.  

  

Thanks for any insite that anyone can give. 

Quote From: mavertsr1

Hi All 

  

I am in the process of getting divorced after 23 years of marriage. My wife and I have 4 sons ages 22,20,18,and13.I have loved and still love my wife. In my 23 years of marriage no other woman has mattered to me other than my wife. I have never even looked at another woman. The son rose and set on my wife.She on the other hand does not share my feelings of love. She is a bartender and that is more important than me. I am not fun to her OI am just a bill payer. I earn a great living and we financially want for nothing. 

 I have now entered into a relationship with a wonderful and beautiful young lady who I have fallen deeply in love with. She is also in love with me. We have know each other for 4 years but only very casually.Not even as friends but aquaintences. She was our waitress at a resturant that I frequented 2x a week. When she herd that I was getting divorced she called me as a friend to see if I was OK. that nite we talked for 5 hours about nothing at all . we spoke the next nite and over many weeks one thing led to another. The problem is that  I am 49 years old and she is 23. I know this has disaster written all over it but for every bad reason there is 1000 good things happening. My marriage was pretty lousey for the last 7 or 8 years so I have had plenty of time to greive for the loss of my marriage. I am someone who loves to love and be loved. With my new lady I feel both. I am COFUSSED and would love to look in from the outside but I am too involved to have a good look at the situation ,but my GUTand my HEART tells me this is good.  

  

Thanks for any insite that anyone can give. 

Quote From: samgurly05

 I've been with this guy ever since i've been in college 3 1/2 years ago.  Well this past December he graduated and ever since then we have been having problems.  Every time I start to think it goes good it starts to go bad.  I've done everything in my power I think to make it work.  I go home every weekend to see him, but lately he just doesn't seem like enough.  He works 2 jobs right now so we dont get to spend time with each other as I would like to.  It might sound selfish but I feel like he don't put in the effort that I do.  Maybe its just a guy thinh I don't know.  Here's my problem and he knows about this guy.  I have been talking to this other guy back and forth over the phone and internet over a week or so.  We go to the same school and I don't see the problem with it.  My boyfriend knows that we have been talking and didn't seem to have a problem with it.  It's not like I was hiding anything from him.  I believe trust and honesty in important in a realtionship.  Here is when the problem comes in the other day after I got out of school I met him for lunch and thats IT! Nothing else happened me and this other guy went our separate ways.  Heres the thing my boyfriend knows that the other guy wanted more in return and assumes that we have done something apparently.  I felt really bad after the fact and told my boyfriend that night that I had met him for lunch even though I didnt do anything that would indicate to me that I did anything wrong.  Well after I told him he got real quiet and went ballistic and as a result told me he never wanted to see me or talk to me again.  I can't help but think about him and how horrible I feel for doing that, but at the same time I feel like I was not out of line on this one I told him and I didn't keep it a secret from him.  I have a hard time thinking what I would do without him and I was wondering is he going to realize he reacted or just give up on our future together?  Also I want to know peoples feedback on whether I was wrong or not meeting him for lunch and whether that is considered cheating?

Quote From: help__me

I recently found out that my fiancee/boyfriend of 5 years was having a secret affair with another girl. It lasted about four months. I eventually caught them in bed together. Needless to say, I took him back. I later found out he started seeing the same girl again, 2 weeks after i caught them together. He had told her we broke up and the only way i could find out was to confront her. So i did. Yet again i took him back. I found out about the second affair in December. But now I'm finding so hard to live a happy life with him. I'm constantly questioning him and accusing him of being with her. I'm afraid that i am begining to push him away although i now believe he has stopped cheating on he. I've become extremely depressed and it's putting a strain on our relationship. I guess what i'm getting to is that i need advise from anyone and everyone that has it, good or bad. How can i overcome the resentment i feel towards him? I cant even go one hour without thinking about him with her. Please help me!