Topic : Breaking Up

My ex has blamed me for numerous problems in our relationship.  I understand how you feel.  My thoughts on this are as follows: 

There are two people in a relationship and if he blames you for all the wrongs he is not worth crying over.  I totally understand that you want to do everything in your power to fix this situation, but until he understands that it takes two to tango, that will never happen.  I have three children as well and I am finding it extremely difficult to "move on", but I am trying.  Letting go is something that is unattainable.  I still have feelings from high school relationships.  What you need to do is think of things that you want and things that would make you happy and start there.  Obviously if he is making you "crazy" and "foolish" that is not making you happy.  Take some time for you and figure out what it is that you want.  If you project happiness and content in your own life, then everything will fall into place, either with or without him. 

This is just my opinion, hope it helps you. 

Anybody who can help me, I would appreciate it so much!  (Im 19 yrs. old, by the way) 

Okay. Basically, Im thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend. He is driving me absolutely insane, and he has gotten to the point where he is emotionally abusive to me. He doesnt trust me whatsoever (but I've never given him a reason not to) and he's always asking me who Im trying to "impress" whenever I look nice. He throws a fit whenever I dress up nice and he isnt there. He doesnt want me to wear makeup, and questions me when I do. None of my friends like him, and he is always talking badly about them. He gets an attitude if I go out with my FEMALE friends, even if its just out to eat or to go shopping. He questions me about the tiniest little details, and I feel like I cant take it anymore. He has become physically abusive on some level.. once I said something under my breath, and he asked me what I said, and he slapped me on the back repeatedly until I told him what it was, even after I told him to stop because it was hurting me. And he punched me on the arm and left a bruise for a week. He's also slapped me multiple times "on accident." He's just so insecure and he's always so paranoid that I'm cheating, because his ex cheated on him. My ex cheated on me, but I dont treat him this way!! Also, he calls me a "whore" and things like that, which I absolutely HATE, and I've told him so. My ex boyfriend had some mental problems, and my current boyfriend brings up things that my ex used to do to my family (like pointing a gun in my grandfathers face) and makes a joke out of it. He's just so disrespectful towards me, its pathetic. Not to MENTION the fact that he watches pornography behind my back, even when he promised he wouldnt do it. He made me cry the other day and he acted like he didnt even care. He actually got mad at ME for crying! I would break up with him, but I signed for the dirtbike he is paying for, and Im scared that he would blackmail me or not pay and ruin my credit. He has already threatened to tell my family things that I dont really want them to know (when I almost broke up with him before). I just feel so lost and I dont know what to do. I mean, sometimes he can be really sweet, and I see the guy I fell in love with. But his behavior has changed so dramatically over the last year, he's like a completely different person. Im sorry this was so long, but if anyone could help me, I'd appreciate it soooooo much!! Thank you!! 

Hi everyone, 

I'm new to the board here.  Very nice how everyone gives support to each other. 

My question may be odd.  I recently broke-up with a man I was dating for 5 months. 

Unfortunately, the words I used were not kind.  I said what I felt but it was mean.  For example, I said you bring me down, and gosh this is hard to admit, but I said to him," You are the biggest mistake I've made. "  The reason I broke-up is because I felt he did not treat me well.  He called back after I said these things and said," I'm sorry I hurt your feelings, and that I'm not the man you want me to be." Anyhow, we have not seen each other for almost 4 weeks.  I ran into him at a public place we both frequently go too, and he completely avoided me.  He would not make any eye contact even when I said hello.  He actually looked down when he said hello back.  I was with a guy friend.  My girlfriends said after me and my friend left, he walked away from the group hand folded, looking down at the ground and looking sideways as he watched me and my friend walk away.  They said he was rubbing one foot in the ground.  My question is this, do you think he is upset or angry? 

Just did not expext him to avoid me in such an obvious way.  Has anyone ever experienced someone avoiding them in such a manner?  And, why do you think he is?  Mind you, the reason I did break-up was I felt he did not care for me, and did not treat me well. 

Please, any feedback will greatly be appreciated.  

to not sure what you want to do....are you kidding.  this guys is seeing other girls and only considers you as friends with benefits?  you are being used by him for what he wants.  he does not have to take you out to eat or on dates and you still give him sex.  Maybe that is all you are looking for but i am sure that his friends do not think highly of you because you do sleep with someone, and they are not even your boyfriend.  They may even think that you do not have much self respect or self worth because you and him are not really in a relationship and he is seeing other girls.  wether he is sleeping with them or not should not matter you need to end that relationship and fast before you get "attached emotional" and want more and then get hurt more in the end.  there are plently of other guys out there who will and can treat you better than that.