Topic : Communication

So ive ben seeing and living with this woman for ove 2yrs now.We've had LOTS of up and downs.I have 2 girls,she has no children.this is difficult cuz she still doesnt know what to do with them sometimes.but i give her LOTS of credit for doingher best,thosometimes she couldtry harder.About six  monts after we strted together,we were moved in and  the down ward spiral bagan.we might have sex 1 to 2 times a month since then.She ignores me or just totallyshuts me out.Thiis so frustrating to me.Weve made plans togther,like we want to get married.she wants to watc my girls grow ,she wants them tocall her "pops/dad".so all this is a problem tome cuz weve had so many ups n downs. now im faced with more,see,my ex-wifes family totally erased us out the pic when we split.This devastated my oldest.my youngest was to young to now.Now my gfs family is doing the same.When we first came into the pic,i thoughtthis is great.everyone loves my girls.Then i noticed everthing changing.they dont even ask me how work is going when we see eachother.ifact they really dont talk to me.I kept having this feeling that my gf was talking to them boutme,she swore up n down she nevr had.last night i found out that  she has indeed alked bout me to them on different occassions.They quit coming to our cookouts n most have never come to my girls' bday parties.Its ben over 2yrs n herm didnt want me tobe in a family pic,now i no why!Im so hurt thatshe lyed to me bout this.I feel as tho shes fueled a fire now n my girls are going to get hurt again.Thi is not the first time shes ben caught in a lie.Im stuck.I dont want to talk to her.but shes al about us being together.

Id def hav to say he has a problem cuz he did it in the beginning and now he pulls away.sounds like hes justplaying haed games.or hard to get.either way you're both grown and theres a right way and wrong way.if the tables were turned how would he react?

I need some help. I am dating a guy that is going through a divorce, we started dating before he was divorced. He says he loves me and wants to be with me. He is going through a hard time and I know that. My problem is... Since his wife has left our relationship has actually gone down hill. Like I said, he still tells me that he loves me but we don't talk like we used to. I'm missing him and struggling with him. If you have any advice please send it.

having went thro a divorce myself,and friends who went thro it,its difficult to move on that quik.If he truly loved his wife then he needs tiime to readjust.Why did they split?Were you the "other" woman?regardless of what happened between them it takes time.I no in my situation it took over 9 months for me to recoop.but in saying that i only dated.and over 4 yrs later i have ben with my current gf for 2 yrs now.also that arousal feeling he had when him and his wife were together,and you on the other end could be a potential.It was the 3 of you and now only 2 of you.I hope this makes sense for you and helps you out alittle!

                    I am 47 my girlfreind is 41 she has a 16 yr old boy. We have been together for a year and a half. Typical good and bad stuff, mostly good really. I can not stand her son. I dislike him on every level. Her and I have disussed this at length and have not found a solution. We lived together for a year and I wouldnt even go home if he was there alone and its my house. In my opinion he is a little sissy pansy boy. If he is not gay now I beleive he will be. My freinds said the same thing with no prompting from me.How do I accept this boy into my life so I can move our relationship to marriage without this cloud I have created?

I've been seeing this girl for 8 and 1/2 months. About two months ago she asked me to move in but a month after that she asked me if I would move back out because she has a 5 year old daughter and needed to be sure I wasn't going to leave her and break her daughters heart since she was already so attached to me. I was fine with it because I didn't want her to feel rushed. About a month ago though things started changing between us. We went from seeing each other everyday to maybe seeing each other once every two weeks. I ask if I can come over but she always comes up with something to keep me away. The thing that really irks me about this is that I wanted to come over one night when her daughter was gone for the first time in a month and she said that she already had plans with my buddy. She told him that she wanted me to back off because she said things were moving too fast. When I went over there that night I could tell that something was wrong but she wouldn't tell me. I had to ask my friend what the problem was even though that wasn't fair to him. Now she is starting school online as well as being a full time mom and working full time. I knew she was going to be busy but she now says that she has no time for me even when I say that I am here for her if she ever needs anything. I really don't know what happened and can't find the right time to talk to her because we don't see each other anymore and I don't want to do it on the phone. How can I get her to talk to me instead of my friend about what is bothering her? I really love this girl and miss her terribly.

i've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we bought a house together at the start of this year... The first 2 years of our relationship were long distance and it caused a bit of a breakdown of trust but I thought things had improved significantly...

Recently we went away together but we couldn't get on the same flight. I went 1 day earlier and arrived home 1 day earlier. On arrival home I found the photo of us face down on the mantlepiece. It was really plaguing me so I asked my bf about it. He said it was nothing and he must have knocked it while cleaning. I didn't believe him so snuck a peak at his phone bill when it arrived. The night I left there were 15 1-2 minute calls to escort agencies. I confronted him and he said he'd been looking at porn and got curious and decided to call. I was devestated. He said on that night he had made the decision that he had done something bad and was never going to look at porn or call again and that he never met up with anyone or saw them in person.

Later when the bank statement arrived it showed he had withdrawn $1000 in the middle of the night that night. He said it was to take with us on our trip. Later in anger he mentioned that one of the agencies had called him back and there had been a long conversation.

Every time I ask for details he goes crazy and says none of this would have happened if I had just trusted him in the first place.

I have no idea whether he's telling the truth or not... And I have no idea what to do... Even if nothing really did happen that night (and how will I ever know??) is he going to lie to me continually???? Help!!!

well calling him a sissy pansy boy isnt the answer.if u 2 get married he will be your son also.and so what if he turns out to be gay.your doctor or nurse or teacher,co-worker,dentist....somewhere along the line there is a gay person u have talked to and gotten along with tho u didnt or dont no they're gay!!!!