Topic : Violence in School

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Created on : Tuesday, October 03, 2006, 03:48:52 pm
Author : DrPhilBoard1
Do the recent school shootings make you fear for your child’s safety? Has your child’s school implemented safety measures? Share your concerns, fears or advice.

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December 27, 2007, 4:20 am PST

I don't know what to do

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I have a wonderful 8 year old boy, and yes, he is a boy and not an angel.  For some reason, unbeknownst to me, the administration has pegged my son as, "a bad kid."  I should say, the administrator.  Last year, all of the teachers were told to "watch him," because he is a trouble maker.  My son is quite the opposite, unfortunately.  Due to being told he is bad for the last four years; he so badly wants to be liked that he allows other children to beat on him.  They do this in front of teachers, and a blind eye is turned.  All of the trouble has been with one child.  Their class has blossomed from 6 children to 9 children, and this other boy is not a saint.  He is not a bad boy, he just has a lack of parents.  He causes trouble with other children and is never punished.  My son has sustained serious injuries over the past 2 years.  This year has been inexcusable, and criminal however.  At the beginning of this year, my son fell, and badly bruised his shin.  Every day this little boy would kick his bruise, he would cry for help and no one would come.  One day he crawled from the bus to the house.  I thought he was playing until he lifted his eyes and i saw him crying.  I carried him the rest of the way to the house.  When I called the school, they wanted me to "come in and talk about it," and threatened to kick him out of school or put him in special ed classes because of him being disruptive and "angry."  What I thought was the final straw was when this little boy punched my son in the face, dislocating his jaw.  When I called the school, I was told that the little boy was "never violent in school."  Meanwhile my son has a black eye and a swollen jaw, but, "he is a big boy and wasn't hit that hard."  What I mean to say is, again no one helped him, another student snuck out of class to get him some ice and to console him.  I was not called.  The little boy did get a 5 minute time out.  I had to threaten to press charges in order for something to happen.  Now the last day before break, I get a call that my son allegedly asked to touch the other child inappropriately (lo and behold the same boy).  No one heard this the other child just accused him of it. Continued

He was then interrogated by the school social worker and the administrator for hours.  When he told them he did not do anything, they kept grilling him.  I was called after the grilling.  He is 8 years old.  He was crying, told them he was scared, and begged them to stop.  He also has ADHD/Bipolar with anxiety and they are aware of this.  I was not called to be informed of this until after the interrogation.  My son is traumatized.  Some of the stuff they told me he said was really technical and hard to find on the internet.  This wasn't 8 year old material.  He has not been the same since that day.  I know I need to do something, because obviously he is not safe at school.  I don't know where on earth to start, I just needed to to talk to someone about this.  Now he has heard all of this sexually explicit material, and is just embarrassed to death.  He is a brilliant boy, but he hates school. I would hate school too.

Any input or help would be appreciated,

Thanks,

Cori

 
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January 1, 2008, 2:16 pm PST

Grr.

I am 15 years old so I am very familiar with violence in schools. I go to school and I am a freshman in high school. There is plenty of violence going on. Just last week before Christmas break, we had an issue with threats and we also had a bomb threat. We had to be searched before we were even alowed in school. I have been threatened in at school before. I have spoken to my counselor about these issues and they have been handled, however, there is only so much the schools can do for us kids. Now that this kid knows I told on him for threatening me, I felt much safer before I told somebody. School should be a safe place to be, but I don't feel all that safe at school.

 
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January 3, 2008, 8:30 pm PST

Not Always

I know it's a real threat out there, but the chance is so slim that it shouldn't be nearly as focused on. In this world, there are always people who don't follow the rules and do horrible things, but what people should realize is that for every bad person out there, there are at least ten others who do that don't get nearly as much attention.

 
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March 26, 2008, 4:30 am PDT

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this sort of thing is not very common over here in Australia, i just do not know how i would feel if i had to send my children to school fearing for there safety every day, i live three doors from my kids school, it is a wonderful community and a great public school, the kids at this school are so respectful and kindness and respect are there 2 biggest values, they have a buddy system when the young prep students start and the high school students from the local high school are mentors to the school children, the is an absolute no tolorance to bulling and vilence and all kids sign a contract and if they breach this contract more than 3 times all there classes are done in the office till the staff feel the child is ready to join the class, iam very very lucky to live in the wonderful place i do, i hope that this frigtening tread does not continue over there and does not spread further. God bless all of you and i hope your children have happy and safe schooling
 
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April 4, 2008, 5:29 am PDT

Violence in School

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He was then interrogated by the school social worker and the administrator for hours.  When he told them he did not do anything, they kept grilling him.  I was called after the grilling.  He is 8 years old.  He was crying, told them he was scared, and begged them to stop.  He also has ADHD/Bipolar with anxiety and they are aware of this.  I was not called to be informed of this until after the interrogation.  My son is traumatized.  Some of the stuff they told me he said was really technical and hard to find on the internet.  This wasn't 8 year old material.  He has not been the same since that day.  I know I need to do something, because obviously he is not safe at school.  I don't know where on earth to start, I just needed to to talk to someone about this.  Now he has heard all of this sexually explicit material, and is just embarrassed to death.  He is a brilliant boy, but he hates school. I would hate school too.

Any input or help would be appreciated,

Thanks,

Cori

 I have to say this made me very angry when I read it. I am outraged of this treatment of your child by the school and by the other student. You sound very upset and I dont blame you one bit. I wish I had the answer for you but I dont. I do have some advice though  I would check into a school advocate for your child. Is he on an IEP or has he had any testing done in finding out weather he has any learning issues and if not that he def has emotional issues? Not saying at all this is on him at all please know this, but I am asking because you have rights and He Most of All has rights as a student in school to get what he needs by the school. He should of never been treated this way without you being informed first and being there for him and with him. I would say I would def look into this matter with great ambition to find out if this was legal or what the rules are. I would be so angry over this. Your poor kid. Not only is he feeling it is ok to get beat up by another kid he is being treating horribly by the school. I would not want to go either. Every student has a right to an education without the fear of other students or Adults. Look into it as I am sure you have but I am new to the site so I just had to respond to it when I read it. Hope you get this and respond so I know how this has turned out. will be waiting to hear.       
 
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May 13, 2008, 1:25 pm PDT

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Im wondering how people in america think.

Scenarios:
1. A boy/girl in my sons/daughters class got in to a fight, so i wont let my children play with him/her. you think "he/she is probably the kind that will grow up to be a school shooter"

 

Well probably if you parents purposly alienate him and make him unable to learn how to socialize. (sorry about the spelling).  And i go so far as to say that you parents of the children who isnt allowed to play with that kid is highly responible for that kids future! For bad or for worse!!! And from what ive seen on TV (bad source i know) this is an accuring scenario taking place everyday throughout the US. I recomend the movie "Bang bang your dead" for every parent that ever baned their child from playing with another child because he/she is a trouble maker!

 

2. There was a robbery next door and you decide to get a gun to feel safe

 

Only in America... 

Only in America are people so scared of everyday life that they cant think logicly.
Only in America is a gun security while every SANE country bans guns or at least get some kind of reasonable restriction.

Quote from the movie *Shoot em up*: "Guns dont kill, but they sure do help"

 

I want to continue but its getting late. would love some response, criticism or whatever! Give me your view of these matters.

 
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May 14, 2008, 1:19 pm PDT

America

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Im wondering how people in america think.

Scenarios:
1. A boy/girl in my sons/daughters class got in to a fight, so i wont let my children play with him/her. you think "he/she is probably the kind that will grow up to be a school shooter"

 

Well probably if you parents purposly alienate him and make him unable to learn how to socialize. (sorry about the spelling).  And i go so far as to say that you parents of the children who isnt allowed to play with that kid is highly responible for that kids future! For bad or for worse!!! And from what ive seen on TV (bad source i know) this is an accuring scenario taking place everyday throughout the US. I recomend the movie "Bang bang your dead" for every parent that ever baned their child from playing with another child because he/she is a trouble maker!

 

2. There was a robbery next door and you decide to get a gun to feel safe

 

Only in America... 

Only in America are people so scared of everyday life that they cant think logicly.
Only in America is a gun security while every SANE country bans guns or at least get some kind of reasonable restriction.

Quote from the movie *Shoot em up*: "Guns dont kill, but they sure do help"

 

I want to continue but its getting late. would love some response, criticism or whatever! Give me your view of these matters.

What country do you live in?
 
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May 15, 2008, 6:19 am PDT

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Sweden =)
 
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May 15, 2008, 6:26 am PDT

Give comments

Please give comments aswell. i want to know your opinion! Am i a confused person from Sweden that doesnt know what his talking about, then tell me wrong! If not, well give me some feedback at least!

Thanks in advance

 
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July 24, 2008, 1:11 pm PDT

I don't think you understand.

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maybe we need to put up a stockaid fence with armed guards all around the schools with razor wire at the top just like our prisons have and have 1 way in and 1 way out, with a security cheack at the gate along with metal detectors at the schools entrance, with armed officers there as well, hell fire when you cant send your children to school with out the fears of a raging murdier getting in wow it relly looks like maybe home school over the internet may be what this world is coming to, no one sure as hell isnt goin to walk in my home and shoot my child i will drop there ass long before they get through my door,
The people who do school shootings don't just decide they are going to. Something is wrong. They are picked on by the kids you may be trying to keep safe. I understand wanting to keep people safe, but if the kids weren't picked on in the first place, it could be avoided. Stop bullying in schools. Stop the fighting and get people anger management. Turning school into prison won't work because mostly, people are not going to want to pay for it, even if it's for the children. We need to stop the violence before it escalates into something as large as a shooting.
 

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