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Topic : 10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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Created on : Thursday, October 05, 2006, 04:39:48 pm
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It’s their final day in The Dr. Phil House, and Todd and Jessica don’t waste any time getting into a heated argument. Then, they have their last meeting with Dr. Phil, who tells them what they both need to do when they get home in order to repair their marriage. Are both Todd and Jessica committed to saving their relationship? Plus, a stern warning from Dr. Phil about parenting their children. Did they take Dr. Phil’s advice? Find out as he follows up with this family two months later. One of them is conspicuously absent in the follow-up and the other reports some sad news. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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October 10, 2006, 7:03 am PDT

i give thanks i'm not under a microscope

It is simplistic to lay blame on one side. Neither of these people are totally in the right or in the wrong. They both contributed to the problems. I don't blame her for not wanting to "fix" the problems. There comes a point when you just don't want to, but you cannot, as yet, bring yourself to admit it. Todd is not someone I would have put up with for a minute. There is no justification for his anger and badgering, it's just as wrong as her lying. They are better off apart, so are the children.
 
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October 10, 2006, 7:12 am PDT

Wake up America...This is REALITY

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Can you explain to me how somebody would be wiling to air their dirty laundry on national TV like the Todd & Jessica Soap Opera?  I kept telling my wife I think they are all actors scamming Dr. Phil because I couldn't comprehend the way they acted on TV; especially with Jessica continuing her liason with another man while the whole world watched.  This boggles my mind.

It does seem inconceivable that people would be willing to come on national television and expose their despicable way of life on television…but its real.

 

Many people give the impression to be shocked by this family, and they shouldn‘t. This and much much worse IS going on in homes across America today. Its REALITY. Further I would say that many of us out here that claim to be so “astonished” by this family are not as oblivious to how much this does go on in our society, as we appear. Many turn their backs, not wanting to become “involved”

 

Initially I couldn’t understand why this family was even in the Dr. Phil House, since it was clear to me that Jessica had no real interest in salvaging her marriage and family, however, the more I read other people’s reviews and the more I think about this family (especially the boys It seems like America does need a wake up call.

 

I really have to question Dr. Phil on this too. On the final day he tells these parent they are basically on the borderline of abusing these kids. DOES ANYONE AGREE WITH ME THAT THIS WAS WAY BEYOND BOARDERLINE???? An 8 year old suicidal child??? A step-son crying out for love from Jessica (although she hasn’t shown nor proven that she is anything close to being a mother)??? I was shocked Justin even referred to her as his mom! The verbal and physical abuse, the restraining orders. Jessica living in a separate apartment??? The disrespect. HELLOOOO. These kids were suffering.

 

Where I’m from, a child verbalizing thoughts of suicide is enough to call Child Protective Services. Both Jessica and Todd needed a harsh reality check. Take these kids OUT of the equation, and lets see how these adults will smarten themselves out, when CPS IS involved. Its time we stop focusing so much on the adults and really help the children in these situations. Serious disciplinary action was well overdue in this case.

 

 

 

 

 
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October 10, 2006, 7:16 am PDT

Jessica

I believe she knows she lying, she knows she full of crap, and she intentionally creates drama, and she wanted "to get out of that fizzling relationship" in order to find another sucker. ..

 

I also feel that she cries fabricated  tears and tells fabricated stories.

 

...I also believe that all she wanted was a free ticket to a talk show for a vacation, solely because she felt ENTITLED  to it.

 

 

(Look up: Antisocial Personality Disorder and look up Borderline personality Disorder)

 

She is very ill and needs help to manage her mental disorders, so she doesn't continue on this path of self destruction and the destruction of others..

 

 

 
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October 10, 2006, 7:50 am PDT

For Justin

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It does seem inconceivable that people would be willing to come on national television and expose their despicable way of life on televisionbut its real.

 

Many people give the impression to be shocked by this family, and they shouldnt. This and much much worse IS going on in homes across America today. Its REALITY. Further I would say that many of us out here that claim to be so astonished by this family are not as oblivious to how much this does go on in our society, as we appear. Many turn their backs, not wanting to become involved

 

Initially I couldnt understand why this family was even in the Dr. Phil House, since it was clear to me that Jessica had no real interest in salvaging her marriage and family, however, the more I read other peoples reviews and the more I think about this family (especially the boys It seems like America does need a wake up call.

 

I really have to question Dr. Phil on this too. On the final day he tells these parent they are basically on the borderline of abusing these kids. DOES ANYONE AGREE WITH ME THAT THIS WAS WAY BEYOND BOARDERLINE???? An 8 year old suicidal child??? A step-son crying out for love from Jessica (although she hasnt shown nor proven that she is anything close to being a mother)??? I was shocked Justin even referred to her as his mom! The verbal and physical abuse, the restraining orders. Jessica living in a separate apartment??? The disrespect. HELLOOOO. These kids were suffering.

 

Where Im from, a child verbalizing thoughts of suicide is enough to call Child Protective Services. Both Jessica and Todd needed a harsh reality check. Take these kids OUT of the equation, and lets see how these adults will smarten themselves out, when CPS IS involved. Its time we stop focusing so much on the adults and really help the children in these situations. Serious disciplinary action was well overdue in this case.

 

 

 

 

God Bless you Justin. I grew up in a household like yours. I never knew if I was loved. You can overcome this if you realize what a sick family situation you are in and don't repeat the mistakes of your parents. Your dad seems like a caring guy.  You will need therapy to figure it all out, but it will be worth it. You have a good heart and my prayers are with you.
 
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October 10, 2006, 7:54 am PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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Finally someone who makes sense,I too wish the boys to have help,that woman is way out there if she thinks that the million of viewers did not see through her,both of them are playing the victim,tis sickening,my heart went out to the step-son,he does not need to have that tart in his life or his dads but me thinks the dad will try to hang onto her tho she doesn't want any part of saving the marriage,the mother in-law was a hoot bless her heart,these boys need to be placed in some kind of home where they will feel wanted and not having to go through they'er dads drama,tis not fair to them,makes me sick knowing thousands of children every bloody day get caught in the crossfire.
Well - did you watch last night? I'm not surprised that she ran to the other guy as soon as they got home. She never had any intentions of working the marriage out anyway. I also CAN NOT believe how inconsiderate she is of the children. I hope Todd gets custody of the youngest. My heart breaks for Todd's boy (can't remember his name) - asking Dr. Phil if his mom was telling the truth when she said she loved him. You could see the coldness in her eyes during that conversation. How cruel is she. I am a true believer of Karma!!! God bless Todd and his boys...
 
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October 10, 2006, 8:02 am PDT

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I couldn't have said it better.  I think Todd is going to  be better off and a better parent now that he is out of that toxic relationship.  I hope he thinks twice before getting involved with a woman who will cheat on her husband.  It's true what Dr. Phil said  about cheaters "if they will do it with you they will do it to you".  Too bad Todd had to learn the hard way.  The sad thing is that he will always be connected to this witch since they have a child together.  I hope Dr. Phil keeps gives us an update in a few months about how Todd and the boys are doing.  I am concerned for the youngest since he indicated having suicidal thoughts.  All Jennifer cares about is her lust for the man she is currently involved with.

Come on guys... Todd has no back bone either. I would NEVER put up with a spouse who has fooled around on me once, let alone twice. And then he immediately says he forgives her and wants to keep trying. He's a wimp. If she didn't leave him, he would still be with her putting up with the lies and nonsence. I would die if I had to live with someone like that.
 
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October 10, 2006, 8:09 am PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

I have to say I am very glad to see that Todd, has let go of Jessica.  People like her will always cheat on the person they are suppose to love and the ones that get hurt the most are the children. 

I believe Todd has not always been vocal and mean.  I think Jessica pushed him to the limit.  On this last show you could really see a changed Todd.

I do not believe Jessica should have any of her kids and only visitation.  It looked to me like she has very poor judgement when it comes to the kids.  For some reason she sees nothing wrong with sleeping around on her spouse.  I feel kinda sorry for the guy she is sleeping with now because she will either do the same to him or she already is cheating on him.  Women and men like her never change.  Maybe if it happened only once you might have a chance with alot of help but 2 (that you know of) in 9 years there is no hope for !!!!

Todd I really believe has a chance for a new and happy life with his kids. At some point I am sure there is someone out there that will be faithful to him and bring happness into his and his kids life.

Good luck to you Todd and don't look back just look forward.

(by the way you have 2 very wonderful kids)

BE HAPPY

Chris

 
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October 10, 2006, 8:20 am PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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That Jessicas messed up. What I do believe is that she has messed up. Having the affairs. Not being honest about those affairs or just NOT making her self clear about what if anything she want(ed)s to do in the marriage.

She has come clean under lights and on camera and on network television!

I, also, watched all of the four shows. I was with the rest of you until I watched todays show.

As I watched the show today, I was again aware, that this woman had no respite from this angry, clingy, needy man! I mean if Todd wanted to actually salvage the relationship as he had indicated, he was CERTAINLY doing everything possible to undermine that possibility! Dr. Phil had warned Todd about his choice of following her EVERYWHERE-even into the bathroom and shower- to incessantly obsess, rant and become so preoccupied with his, You done me wrong! thing that he wouldnt allow for any sort of space or even time for child care or even to reflect so that at a later time when the children werent around that ANY sort of healing could really begin.

 

IM NOT defending Jessicas VERY serious role in the unraveling of this marriage. I definitely agree with Dr. Phil that this woman is probably emotionally confused, right now. After the CONSTANT ceaseless and relentless badgering, he actually, further, set his marriage up to fail, even as they were preparing to leave the house. (Geez, I would have moved to the South Pole if it meant that I could have just one minute to come up for air AWAY from the man.)

 

Thus, I believe that both Jessica and Todd share equally in the failure to recover in this marriage.

I do not believe things would have gotten this bad had Jessica had not gone sleeping around.  I don't see how anybody could think  the blame is equal when only one was doing the cheating...
 
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October 10, 2006, 8:23 am PDT

I know...

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Come on guys... Todd has no back bone either. I would NEVER put up with a spouse who has fooled around on me once, let alone twice. And then he immediately says he forgives her and wants to keep trying. He's a wimp. If she didn't leave him, he would still be with her putting up with the lies and nonsence. I would die if I had to live with someone like that.
I know, but judging people like her shouldn't be like this. God doesn't like people judging others. Remember what the bible says: Matt. 7:1 "Do not judge lest you be judged". We all know what she did was wrong, & I hope in the future that she'll change (at least for the kids). In the meantime, I will be praying for Jessica that she gets some serious help before she seeks out any more relationships. No matter if someone does bad things to someone, we should be praying for others that they'll change in the future. And it can happen.
 
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October 10, 2006, 8:25 am PDT

I wonder....

...how many of us are sitting here today berating these parents and never stopping to reflect on what may be happening in our own homes and with our own relationships. Stones...glass houses?

Just a thought.

 
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