Quote From: noentiendoI have long felt that men have gotten the shaft when it came to child support and alimony. I've had friends who received child support, and misused it grieviously. Can you imagine how you would feel to pay 50, 60% of your hard-earned pay to support some bum your ex-spouse is shacking up with?? That is a reality in the real world. Or to pay for someone else's kid/s?
I think Dr. Phil is really out of touch with the real world on this one. It most certainly is anyone's right to know where their hard-earned money is being spent. I have long-held that the courts should allow parents the option to either pay the "blank check" way, or pay the amount by direct purchases or setting up a college fund, buying food, clothing, school payments, etc. What would be so hard about that? That would provide a lot of peace of mind, and also show the courts that it doesn't cost $900 for one kid per month, for crying out loud!! No matter how much the paying parent makes.
My husbands ex is a true example of cheating the system Dr. Phil. She should be working with the Government of our country with her highly intelligent ways. She has 3 children by 3 guys. Divorced twice married husband #1's cousin, so child 1 and new husband are related, and their child is cousin 1st / half sister to the siblings! This woman never paid child item bills or clothing with the child support we gave her, she bought beer, cigarettes and whatever she wanted. My stepson wore shoes with holes in them and she refused to buy him any with the money we gave her she said that is her money not his! After the child got to be 11, he began to see the real mom, telling him his dad didn't want him, wasn't coming this weekend, etc. when really she wouldn't let us have him! She call blocked us and wouldn't let us talk to him! Now that we have him through the court system, do you think she pays child support, helps with medical or dental, or even helps with extra-curricular activities? NO!!!! but, she never agrees with anything, because then "there is no agreement on record and she doesn't have to pay!", but tells the son not to get out of sports or tell your dad he has to buy your first car and pay for the drivers ed. Do you think this is the way it should be? Courts don't care, we are just another day and when they go home, do you think they worry about jr or the ex or the supposedly dead beat? no they don't. It is who can pay them the most to get the decision. This woman filed bankruptcy once we finally after a $10,000.00 attorney bill, got judgements against her! So, where are we now! Paying $1700.00 a month house payment to pay all her bills she owed and our attorney bill and living not even pay check to paycheck and she is living high and owes nothing! Come over and live in my shoes. I also have an ex who has now said he never remembers getting child support from 10 years ago. Try to get a bank to get a copy of the back of your check from 10 years ago. Not possible!!!! So guess what? I owe $27,000.00 which I already paid! Kids in a divorce are just a money issue! Do you not pay for rent, utilities when your on your own? The system sucks!
(Original Air Date: 10/11/06) Did you know that your financial decisions could land you on the street? Are you one paycheck away from disaster? Stacey has two children and one on the way, and she says she is close to being homeless and it's the fault of her kids’ deadbeat dads, and her parents who have cut her off. Stacey's ex-husband, Pete, says their son would be better off living with him. So, why does he refuse to pay child support? And, see what Dr. Phil provides for Stacey to help get her life back on track. Then, a hidden camera experiment shows how people really treat the homeless on the streets. And, meet a family who was living paycheck-to-paycheck when the money stopped coming in, leaving them homeless. Manuel and Heather and their four children have been living cramped in their RV for the last year, where they have no electricity and must take showers at public beaches. The difficult circumstances are taking a huge toll on their family, especially the children. How did they end up in this situation? Dr. Phil makes an important, life-changing announcement to the family. Share your thoughts here.
