Topic : 12/21 One Paycheck Away

I just wanted to say that I can totally understand where the woman was coming from, who's ex-husband hadn't paid child support in over a year. I was in the same situation and I don't think that these men should be able to just turn their backs and forget the kids. Do they not think that their child support helps put a roof over their childs head and utilities. What about food, this man just didn't seem to really care. He was worried about her mistakes, well we all make them and I hate to tell him, but she didn't have that child alone and she didn't get pregnant alone, all 3 times. I feel sorry for men who miss out on their kids lives, because they will never know what they are missing and they don't care, but then I guess you can't miss what you never had. If all have problems and we all get down on our luck from time to time, but you learn to help yourself and go on. I have a very supportive family and I am very fortunate. 

I agree. I have been one of the homeless ones. I know that it is easy to become one of the forgotten ones. I brought myself out of the pit and I did it with God's help. At the time my parents were dead so I didn't have them to run too. That was a desperate time in my life. We care more about who has Prada or Versace and not enough about who has a warm blanket tonight to keep them from freezing to death. Jesus said that what you do to the least of these you do unto him. No one wants to think about what if this were me but let me just say What if this was you. It could happen no matter who you are it can happen to you.

Childcare when mom is at work:  50.00 per week

Food for the child:  50.00 per week

 Insurance, Gas upkeep of car that takes the child to daycare.  Takes mom to the grocery store to buy food for the child to eat:  50.00

Rent, heating, water per month:  500.00 per month

Clothes:  30.00

Recreation:  20.00

Phone:  15.00

Doctor visits insurance:  100.00 per month

Thats$815.00 so far!

$85.00 tip for the mom that is doing all the work!!!!!!

Grand total:  $900.00!

Thats where the money you are not paying is supposed to go Pete!  Now do you get it???????

...that YOU personally had no ambition? I don't believe I did. I was merely stating my general OPINION of society.

In your original post you implied that the media and those selfish ones of means somehow contribute to the mess this world is in and this is what I argue. You asked, "Why do we allow this?"

I ask, allow what?

Allow the media to protray the rich as they are?

Allow a ballplayer to make more than a teacher?

Allow a movie star to contribute only little?

Allow some to be wealthy and others poor?

We live in a free society and those of great means, whether selfish or not, should not be condemned for not handing over those means to those in need.

This is what I seemed to gleen from your post. Was I mistaken?

Which is more right or wrong? To gain means from good life choices and not give to the poor OR make bad life choices and demand from the rich? There is greed in both.

It has always been a Christian thing to do-give to the poor. But when those of little ambition and means start demanding from those with great ambition and means, should not a line be drawn?

What I was trying to say is that most of us are where we are because of our OWN choosing.

I am so tired of hearing that people have no control over the life situations they are in!

I realize that a person born with a mental or physical disability would indeed have no control over his life, but the majority of adults, that I hear crying foul, have the control.

They have knowningly made bad choices in their lives and are now reaping the seeds they have sown.

A homeless man is where he is because he chose to drink, leave his job, not pay his bills...whatever.

This country is full of opportunities, all for the taking.

What I will agree to is that the abused, neglected ( "starving" )children in our society have no control over their lives and that is what really concerns me.

I am in the field of working with these children and I have seen more abuse in one day than you will in a lifetime and that is where I focus my attention, not on those who choose to be in the bad situations they are in.

Have a good day.

Dear Dr.Phil,

I watched this show and was upset. I was glad you kept it REAL when you said 'Stop having babies!' AND ' Get a JOB!' we are living in a time you need to work for every entertainment, Luxury, and trying to keep up with EVERYONE. There was a Case in Wabash,Indiana a dad who didn't pay Child Support, and the judge order him to sit under a sign 'I do not support my kids.'   I feel if a woman have children with Multiple dads and she file for Child Support for just one dad, that not fair, it shall be a law if You want Support then file for all not one. I feel that, she can't pick and choose which father she want to support her and her kids. Another thing these father holla for VISITATION Right, give them the visit to take the kids to the Dr, Dentist, Parent /Teacher meeting etc. let them experience the 'How' How will I get there? How will I pay this Medical bill? How involve am I with my kid work? I'm TIRED of these Part-time Daddy. Yes these ladies need to be careful, you are human just like the rest of us 'THINGS DO HAPPEN TO YOU TOO!!!' you not that Special.

I would love for me and my husband be on your show for being some hard working couple and get REWARDED for it.

Yes! The list was ridiculous. Left off the list was:

Haircuts

Birthday gifts for friends

Sports and/or activities for the child

School lunches

School books

And so much more!

When doing these figures, you cannot take the whole amount of the house, car, and phone and contribute that to the child. It costs a lot of money for one person to live in a house. It costs very little to add one person. It is the extras that children NEED that cost over and above!

I have to agree. I also had the very same thought.. The wife/mother was doing quite well up there getting the free stuff! Maybe she was medicated? If that's so, she could do that while home when her husband is at work. If being alone exacerbates her condition, she could volunteer if not work. Then again, her condition was the reason given for her leaving her job in the first place. Too confusing for me, I guess.

Dr. Phil did "get real" about that with the couple. It's the fact that they will be rewarded in the end for Dr. Phil doing what was best for the kids that is agrivating. Yes, I think they threw away their lives at the expense of their children. I can also see how sometimes those who don't really deserve to get to reap some of the benefits of those who truly deserve it when they do recive them.

I pray this will be what the family needed to get a grip on themselves & that they will do better. I also hope the proper help is provided & the family uses it.