I really fail to fathom why getting together with the first person to cross your path has suddenly become the measue of success with people in our society these days. I am a happy, healthy, heterosexual and I like to think "normal" 21 year old male but with one problem (personally I do not see them as problems but apparently I am a loser because of them). I have never gone on a date in my life, let alone kissed a girl, had sex with a girl or even so much as held her hand. And apparently this makes me a loser, some people have even thought I was gay! Well I will not bore you with all the details but I was quite shy in High School and frankly none of the girls took my fancy anyway, and the last 3 years have been sheer hell for me and my family where basically I have had to switch my priorities to them and dating and socialising have taken a back seat, I have always kind of been a loner as well but thats more due to my single mindedness and my happiness to be alone and pursue my own intrests rather than being an anti-social phobe. And yes I will admit it does get me down from time to time and I do get jealous on occasion when my friends get together and tell me about the stuff they do with their girlfriends and the escapades they get up to which make me sound like a boring pratt, you know how it is, young males, the "studs" are supposed to be notching thier belts with as many stars as they can get. But on my 21st birthday in September I made a conscious decision to myself that this was no longer going to be an issue, I mean I still love my friends and enjoy listening to their stories, but really I do not let them get me down because I embedded in my head that I would rather prefer substance over style and I would like to define success by measures of things that I achieve in my chosen career, hobbies etc rather than having some silly trophy bimbo on my arm every 2nd month and being the envy of everyone else. I have also come to the conclusion that I will not "settle" for "second best" in order just to be married and make everyone else happy except me, without trying to sound like a whinger that is how I have had to live my life so far and now when it comes to me and how I set up mine its "my way or no way". Hence I made my career a priority, and making sure that I have that set up so that I am able to lead a successful and comfortable life which makes me happy and my family/friends enjoyable as well, I am quite ambitious and will stop at nothing to make sure that I achieve my goals no matter how much hard work it takes and will not allow them to be curtailed by the pursuit of lust which would erode them for me, and at the real risk of sounding mysoginist and sexist, no woman is worth that much that I have to give all that up in my eyes. I have always been an independent individual person who values my freedom and have never been afraid to turn down an invite to a group gathering to do something on my own if I knew I would be happier and really thats the way it will always be and if that means sacrificing sex, romance etc.. Well so be it. It is re-assuring to see that other people share my view and that I am not just some freak who may need Dr. Phil's help. Love is grand so they say. But really it's not the be all and end all and anyone who claims that they are "successful" because they bed 7 women in 7 nights are the real losers.
